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It is Really Easy to Not Be a Creep, Part 1: Following and Lying
Fear of being called a creep is fairly common in men, but conversations with my female friends reveal that creepy behaviors are far from subtle and are…
Jan 7
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Is Your Group Chat Too Large to Help You Find Love?
Using statistical models, I prove that groups of 2 to 4 are optimal and 5 is too many, whether it's a text thread or a girls' night out.
Dec 3, 2025
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Hinge Doesn't Suck, it's a Test of Digital Survival Skills
What if the things we hate most about online dating are just tests of the skills that we need to survive in the 21st-century Internet economy?
Nov 13, 2025
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The Great Height Illusion: We're All an Inch Shorter than We Say
After replacing self-reported height data with actual measurements, I found that two-thirds of men who claim they’re 6 ft are really 5’11”—and built a…
Nov 6, 2025
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Yes, Women Prefer Tall Men, But the Data Says They’re Being Realistic
Armed with CDC data, I calculated the ideal partner height for men and women and compared it with preferences of 75 women I polled, which turned out to…
Oct 28, 2025
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The Dating Optimism Paradigm
A better model and a mindset shift for dating in San Francisco
Oct 16, 2025
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The Dating Optimist
Challenging tired dating myths one graph at a time—and giving you an edge in San Francisco’s weird and competitive dating market
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