I Trample LJ

This is a shout-out on behalf of a LJ friend of mine who could use a helping hand. She's a gamer, writer, RPer and all-around awesome person, and is currently cut off from the internet due to the motherboard of her laptop going "phut". This comes as the cherry on top of a year full of financial and personal setbacks - job lost, husband seriously ill, housing issues - and being largely cut off from her hobbies as well as job search and the like is doing her no good at all.

the__ivorytower and I have promised to help, but anyone else who can chip in will be greatly appreciated! Please donate, or signal boost, or send positive vibes for a better '13!

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Being sexy =/= being powerful. Attracting someone =/= having power or control over them.

Don't get me wrong. When someone is attracted to you and they go out of their way to get your attention, do nice things for you, show off their own best sides in hope of getting you to reciprocate, that can certainly be a nice feeling. Most people find it validating, and yes, it CAN be a way to get the other party to do stuff for you that they'd not be willing to otherwise.

BUT. When someone is attracted to you and they follow you around, make inappropriate comments to you or about you, paw you, put pressure on you or worse, that is NOT nice.

And here's the thing: the object of desire doesn't get to choose. There's no way they can ensure that only the positive kind of attention will be paid to them. There's no way they can ensure that NO attention will be paid to them when they're not in a mood to receive it.

So please, zip your lips around all that bullshit about how being traditionally attractive is the direct female equivalent of being badass, 'kay?

...sometimes I am strongly tempted to grab one of my lab teachers by their white non-flammable collar and go "listen here, I studied biochem before. I worked in a lab for 7 years. I KNOW MY WAY AROUND AN AUTOMATIC PIPETTE!!!!"

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Just did my first exam in the new program; cellular biology. Due to Circumstances, had to stay in the study hall for 3 hours. Spent last hour racing origami frogs around my desk. Do not know why all the horrors in the last week.

So I've been holding off on Telling People All About This, because I've had this paranoid certainty that something could still go wrong, and technically it still can, I could be denied student loans or be run over by the pig truck tomorrow or whatever, BUT not an hour ago I got my first textbook in the mail and it's 1600 pages of cellular biology goodness and I cannot restrain my enthusiasm any longer.

I'm going to be a pharmacist! Enrolled in the Linneus University of Kalmar, Sweden a couple of weeks ago, for a three-year long-distance program that will end with me having an actual, solid education, and being an actual professional, and having a chance at an actual, qualified job. This is awesome.

I'm even more pleasantly surprised, in a way, by how bitter I'm not. A year ago I hated myself for being 31 and not having Gotten My Life Together. Now... well, I'll be 35 when I graduate, that's a bit above average, but honestly I know people in their 50s who still haven't got their shit together, who don't live the lives they want and have no idea why. I figure, on the whole, I'm ahead of the game.

"Waah waah maintenance happens too often, waah waah maintenance takes too long, waah waah there are bugs, waah waah [class] is OP, waah waah [class I play] was nerfed, waah waah Empire/Republic always wins warzones..."

I swear, it's like being back in WoW, and this game has only been going for five months...

Trying out this crosspost-to-LJ thing for nefarious purposes, and also I have a question for the three people who follow me who might possibly be interested: would anyone like to be on a filter for SWTOR snippets? Because while my policy is to post finished fics in public, the way my creativity's been for the last few years actual FINISHED fics are few and far between, and at risk of sounding like a person with incredibly needy and fragile writer's ego, my chances of actually producing something are way higher if I can show people what I'm working on and possibly even get reassurance that it doesn't suck.

( Two warnings, before you decide:Collapse )