“He is a nice guy.”
“She is a good girl.”

That is not enough.

Before you purchase your favourite car, you first confirm from the manufacturer whether that model was designed for you—your terrain, your journey, and your purpose.

In the same way, there are many nice guys and good girls who are simply not meant for you.

I have many male friends who are kind, decent, and genuinely good, but they were not tailored to fit into God’s plan for my life.

There are people who were interested in me in the past, and when I see them now, I sincerely thank God that I did not agree to marry them.

They were not bad people.
Some are even children of God.
But they could not act the script God wrote concerning my life.

Some people come into your life for a season.
Some are only meant to be acquaintances.

You need to understand this to have peace.

Personally, I have never regretted anyone walking out of my life in a relationship. I always remind myself that the best of God is still ahead.

No grudges.
No pain.
Because I did not give anyone what I could not live without.

I once asked a sister how she knew she was with the right person. She replied,
“I asked people, and they all said he is a good man.”

I then asked her,
“But is that what God is saying too?”

She could not answer.

Because the fact that someone is good does not mean they are God’s will for you.
Many people are in pain today because they married a nice guy or a good girl without confirming divine alignment.

My prayer for you:
May you find the perfect will of God for your life.
May you not turn your future partner into a temporary friend,
and may you not make someone meant to be temporary your future spouse.

© Adebimpe Obafemi