In the summer of 2019, I walked into a room with 7 people around for a conversation, and just as we were about to start, I said 3 words, “I am perfect.” Now I know what you are thinking, I am probably a proud and arrogant person, well honestly, it was the same thing they all thought. Registering the confusion on their faces, I asked, “can anyone be perfect?” Now they all gave me beautiful answers and explanations which boiled down to the same conclusion, “no one can be perfect because we are not God. We are humans whose lives have been interwoven by threads of imperfections. The very fabric of our nature has been incompletely designed, that is why we always long to fill the voids. Hence we are made unique by our series of flaws.”

Wow! What a beautiful way to say we are broken! All I could do at this point was to shake my head in pity. Something had gone wrong somewhere.

If you can stop whatever you are doing now and look at yourself in a mirror, I would like to show you something. Or perhaps, if you can look at something that reflects your image back at you, I would like you to see something.

Tell me, what do you see? What can you say about what you see?

Do you see a broken image held together by imperfections and ugly flaws or do you see something else? Do you see an identity you have struggled to accept and live with because there was once a voice that made you doubt it? What do you see?

For so long the world has been ruled by an idea, ‘no one is perfect’, and for so long we have believed this beautiful lie that we are all broken in some way. It baffles me a lot when people say being perfect is impossible. Sometimes I stop to wonder why we think so low of ourselves. Is this an act of humility or an act of fear? Is it a sign of courage appearing weak and vulnerable or just pure stupidity?

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Change might be inevitable, but growth is optional. Growth is intentional and must be done intelligently.

As we witness the advancement of time, it is commonly expected that an individual grow alongside with it, but this is what we have come to understand, growth is intentional, not accidental.

Often times we have been taught that situations and challenges makes us who we are or changes us into who we are meant to be, and for too long we have been looking for those life changing or transforming moments that finally gets to unveil us to ourselves, as if we are helpless in understanding the things we are capable of. But here is the problem with this ideology, it unconsciously strips away from us our power to proactively design for ourselves the kind of situation we want to face, the kind of person we want to be, and only allows us to react when we find ourselves in the midst of circumstances. This ideology teaches us that we can only grow by the magnitude of effects we get from a situation, and that we have no business in deciding how an event changes us or shapes us.

But this is so wrong, absolutely so wrong.

The 1% of the successful people on earth don’t live by this limiting ideology, they live by a different rule and that is what I intends to share with the series of posts to follow.

To react or to proactively design.

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