### IO-Threads Work Offloading 

This PR is the 2nd of 3 PRs intended to achieve the goal of 1M requests
per second.
(1st PR: valkey-io#758)

This PR offloads additional work to the I/O threads, beyond the current
read-parse/write operations, to better utilize the I/O threads and
reduce the load on the main thread.

It contains the following 3 commits:

### Poll Offload

Currently, the main thread is responsible for executing the poll-wait
system call, while the IO threads wait for tasks from the main thread.
The poll-wait operation is expensive and can consume up to 30% of the
main thread's time. We could have let the IO threads do the poll-wait by
themselves, with each thread listening to some of the clients and
notifying the main thread when a client's command is ready to execute.

However, the current approach, where the main thread listens for events
from the network, has several benefits. The main thread remains in
charge, allowing it to know the state of each client
(idle/read/write/close) at any given time. Additionally, it makes the
threads flexible, enabling us to drain an IO thread's job queue and stop
a thread when the load is light without modifying the event loop and
moving its clients to a different IO thread. Furthermore, with this
approach, the IO threads don't need to wait for both messages from the
network and from the main thread instead, the threads wait only for
tasks from the main thread.

To enjoy the benefits of both the main thread remaining in charge and
the poll being offloaded, we propose offloading the poll-wait as a
single-time, non-blocking job to one of the IO threads. The IO thread
will perform a poll-wait non-blocking call while the main thread
processes the client commands. Later, in `aeProcessEvents`, instead of
sleeping on the poll, we check for the IO thread's poll-wait results.

The poll-wait will be offloaded in `beforeSleep` only when there are
ready events for the main thread to process. If no events are pending,
the main thread will revert to the current behavior and sleep on the
poll by itself.

**Implementation Details**

A new call back `custompoll` was added to the `aeEventLoop` when not set
to `NULL` the ae will call the `custompoll` callback instead of the
`aeApiPoll`.

When the poll is offloaded we will set the `custompoll` to
`getIOThreadPollResults` and send a poll-job to the thread. the thread
will take a mutex, call a non-blocking (with timeout 0) to `aePoll`
which will populate the fired events array. the IO thread will set the
`server.io_fired_events` to the number of the returning `numevents`,
later the main-thread in `custompoll` will return the
`server.io_fired_events` and will set the `customPoll` back to `NULL`.

To ensure thread safety when accessing server.el, all functions that
modify the eventloop events were wrapped with a mutex to ensure mutual
exclusion when modifying the events.

### Command Lookup Offload

As the IO thread parses the command from the client's Querybuf, it can
perform a command lookup in the commands dictionary, which can consume
up to ~5% of the main-thread runtime.

**Implementation details**
The IO thread will store the looked-up command in the client's new field
`io_parsed_cmd` field. We can't use `c->cmd` for that since we use
`c->cmd `to check if a command was reprocessed or not.

To ensure thread safety when accessing the command dictionary, we make
sure the main thread isn't changing the dictionary while IO threads are
accessing it. This is accomplished by introducing a new flag called
`no_incremental_rehash` for the `dictType` commands. When performing
`dictResize`, we will rehash the entire dictionary in place rather than
deferring the process.

### Free Offload

Since the command arguments are allocated by the I/O thread, it would be
beneficial if they were also freed by the same thread. If the main
thread frees objects allocated by the I/O thread, two issues arise:

1. During the freeing process, the main thread needs to access the SDS
pointed to by the object to get its length.
2. With Jemalloc, each thread manages thread local pool (`tcache`) of
buffers for quick reallocation without accessing the arena. If the main
thread constantly frees objects allocated by other threads, those
threads will have to frequently access the shared arena to obtain new
memory allocations

**Implementation Details**
When freeing the client's argv, we will send the argv array to the
thread that allocated it. The thread will be identified by the client
ID. When freeing an object during `dbOverwrite`, we will offload the
object free as well. We will extend this to offload the free during
`dbDelete` in a future PR, as its effects on defrag/memory evictions
need to be studied.

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Signed-off-by: Uri Yagelnik <uriy@amazon.com>