My son is majoring in business and minoring in philosophy as well. :) My husband is a philosophy professor, so conversations around hard questions happen a lot around the dinner table. :)
I love this post so much because I really relate. Raising kids is a tough job when you don't feel equipped to do so. But who is truly equipped? Looking back, I have made tons of mistakes and continue to do so. We are flawed human beings. For me it's always been about admitting my mistakes in front of them and asking their forgiveness. That's how they learn to ask for forgiveness themselves, I hope.
And listening to them, really listening to them. It's not always easy, but being open to what they have to say is huge. I agree, I have learnt so much from both of my sons!!
You sound like a good dad to me. You are humble, honest, and aware. That is a lot already and I am sure they know that.
Curiosity and wonder - I love that. That is what it is truly about.
My son and I have a lot of those same conversation at the dinner table too! Either were brainstorming things for his D&D campaigns or we're in the weeds about some probing subject. He wears me out sometimes, but I love it!
I think you're right. I don't any of us ever really know what we're doing and the one's who think they do are usually the ones to worry about, haha. I hope I've been able to convey that to them too, that they have permission to make mistakes, to get things wrong, to start again and again as often as necessary.
I applaud how you make a concerted effort to learn more about what your son is learning. My son is in his last year of his phd program (microbiology / virology) working with Dengue Fever and there is no way can pronounce most of the words, much less understand them.
I think most of parenting is best guess gut reaction. When you see it working, or you can say, “that’s what I would’ve done” it feels like a win. My daughter-in-law shakes her head laughing when I say or do something that my son said/did previously.
Thanks Bob! I feel for you brother, that’s some dense material, my head spins just thinking about it. My son is still an undergrad but plans on continuing towards a phd. That’s part of why i wanted to try to start studying some now, so just maybe I might be able to comprehend some part of it when he gets to that level haha.
My son is majoring in business and minoring in philosophy as well. :) My husband is a philosophy professor, so conversations around hard questions happen a lot around the dinner table. :)
I love this post so much because I really relate. Raising kids is a tough job when you don't feel equipped to do so. But who is truly equipped? Looking back, I have made tons of mistakes and continue to do so. We are flawed human beings. For me it's always been about admitting my mistakes in front of them and asking their forgiveness. That's how they learn to ask for forgiveness themselves, I hope.
And listening to them, really listening to them. It's not always easy, but being open to what they have to say is huge. I agree, I have learnt so much from both of my sons!!
You sound like a good dad to me. You are humble, honest, and aware. That is a lot already and I am sure they know that.
Curiosity and wonder - I love that. That is what it is truly about.
My son and I have a lot of those same conversation at the dinner table too! Either were brainstorming things for his D&D campaigns or we're in the weeds about some probing subject. He wears me out sometimes, but I love it!
I think you're right. I don't any of us ever really know what we're doing and the one's who think they do are usually the ones to worry about, haha. I hope I've been able to convey that to them too, that they have permission to make mistakes, to get things wrong, to start again and again as often as necessary.
Thanks so much Manuela!
It’s really great advice to try and actually learn from your kids.
They’re my best teachers!
Mine as well - and in ways that continue to surprise me.. now the grandchildren.. no one is so small they aren’t magicians..
“no one is so small they aren’t magicians” - This is absolutely perfect! Thank you for this!
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I applaud how you make a concerted effort to learn more about what your son is learning. My son is in his last year of his phd program (microbiology / virology) working with Dengue Fever and there is no way can pronounce most of the words, much less understand them.
I think most of parenting is best guess gut reaction. When you see it working, or you can say, “that’s what I would’ve done” it feels like a win. My daughter-in-law shakes her head laughing when I say or do something that my son said/did previously.
Thanks Bob! I feel for you brother, that’s some dense material, my head spins just thinking about it. My son is still an undergrad but plans on continuing towards a phd. That’s part of why i wanted to try to start studying some now, so just maybe I might be able to comprehend some part of it when he gets to that level haha.
I love the collage! And every word in the article, too😊
Julie! Thank you! Makes me happy that it lands well for you!
As the song goes: "We all make mistakes sometimes, But every moment I'm awake I'm making mine." 😆
It's amazing how closely your situ with your son mirrors that of me and my son. Even the subjects match! 🤯
That’s so awesome! I love that!
much love