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This is What I'm Doing Here
I write about the trauma and shame of not-belonging in school. How we're forced to fit rigid systems - sometimes at devasting personal cost. I want to…
Jan 13
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Davina: Sam's Story
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"Hello? Is there anybody in there?"
Numbing the pain of profound and traumatic loss and why doing so doesn't serve us.
Jan 11
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Being Sanctuary when a child is overwhelmed
How to embody safety, refuge and a regulatory resource for a child.
Jan 4
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Davina: Sam's Story
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December Newsletter
On surviving the season, unexpected collaborations, and the village that keeps forming and an invitation to film-night.
Dec 30, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Spiritual but Not Religious
Some of the practices that help me to feel connected to 'what is', beyond the everyday.
Dec 28, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Most Popular
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Two Lanterns
Nov 2, 2025
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The Highest 11+ Result in the County
Oct 26, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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All I Want for Christmas is You
Dec 7, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Sam shouldn't have died. Is that true?
Nov 23, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Being Sanctuary
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Being Sanctuary when a child is overwhelmed
How to embody safety, refuge and a regulatory resource for a child.
Jan 4
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Davina: Sam's Story
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My grief story
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"Hello? Is there anybody in there?"
Numbing the pain of profound and traumatic loss and why doing so doesn't serve us.
Jan 11
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Davina: Sam's Story
14
15
3
Spiritual but Not Religious
Some of the practices that help me to feel connected to 'what is', beyond the everyday.
Dec 28, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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A Bad Day to Stop Smoking
You were there when I needed you.
Dec 21, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Bring it on. This is what I'm here for.
A mother's journey through profound loss, fury, and the recovery of meaning.
Dec 14, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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All I Want for Christmas is You
Strategies for bereaved parents navigating Christmas and New Year, and for the people who love them.
Dec 7, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Sam shouldn't have died. Is that true?
I do The Work with Byron Katie.
Nov 23, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Two Lanterns
Two friends meet on the moors—trying to find a ritual, a gesture, anything that might help to hold the weight of profound loss, knowing before they even…
Nov 2, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Life with Danny
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The Wrong Question
Sometimes the most dangerous thing you can do is point out what someone already suspects may be true about themself.
Nov 30, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Part 2 of 2: The day Joshua was born
"He wasn't there again today." Davina's story.
Nov 16, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Part 1 of 2: The day Joshua was born
"Yesterday, upon the stair, I met a man who wasn't there..."
Nov 9, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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My story
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Vincit Veritas
I meet a new friend in the school toilets while we are supposed to be in double physics. Eventually we both get expelled, and on my way out I tell the…
Oct 28, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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The Highest 11+ Result in the County
I pass my 11+ with flying colours, then spend the next four years trying to work out how to fit into a world where I feel as if I don't belong.
Oct 26, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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monthly newsletters
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December Newsletter
On surviving the season, unexpected collaborations, and the village that keeps forming and an invitation to film-night.
Dec 30, 2025
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Davina: Sam's Story
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Witnessing November
What happened when you said Sam's name on Sunday
Nov 24, 2025
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