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Stop Staying in Shitty Relationships
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Your Top Five Posts of 2025
Yes, it’s the last day of the year and like so many, I’m feeling reflective. These are the five most popular posts from The Mother Lode in 2025.
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Our Fair Play Discussion Signaled the End of My Marriage
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When Couples Therapy Turns Cruel
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Is Marriage Worth It?
my conversation with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up
Dec 16, 2025
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My New Metrics of Success
fighting the capitalistic, patriarchal need for us to always be achieving
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Women Talking: Dating After Divorce
a conversation with Loretta from To the Bed
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Cultural Cliff Notes
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Nov 26, 2025
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Why Couples Therapy with a Narcissist Will Undo You
two therapists on narcissism in couples therapy, how to avoid the harm so many therapists unknowingly inflict, and how to tell if you're experiencing…
Nov 18, 2025
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The Stories I Have Swallowed
on Lily Allen, Jen Hatmaker, Florence + the Machine, and the power and risks of telling the truth
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The Story of The Mother Lode
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