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Expert-informed resources on all things LGBTQ+ and beyond.
This Mercury in Aquarius, the best form of resistance is community.
Last fall, “out your DL” became a trend on TikTok, but the term has deep history.- This Venus in Aquarius, decenter romance and focus on community.
- Venus reigns supreme this week. Here’s what that means for your sign.
- Happy New Years!
Forget love languages, astrology, and the apps. Just look down.- This Capricorn Season will challenge you to climb that mountain.
It’s time to get slippery.
In 2026, new year, new me will take on a whole new meaning.- How to find stability this Capricorn Season, according to your sign.
- Capricorn Season is all about becoming.
- It's Sag season which means it's time to say what you really mean.
Knowing your boundaries ahead of time can save you stress down the road.
Ballroom icon Leiomy Maldonado breaks down the history of the phrase.- Here’s what you need to know about Trump's trans passport ban.
The removal of Blued and Finka marks another setback for China’s marginalized LGBTQ+ community.
“It’s support, it’s a bit of work, it’s a lot of fun, it’s a team.”
Legal experts broke down how to change your gender marker across government documents for trans folks across the country.
It’s all about finding the most comfortable way to get the appearance you want.- The budget copied President Trump's definition of gender and sex.
- One data scientist called the report “dead on arrival” over its inaccuracies.
The pair have been longtime roommates.- In Chiles v. Salazar, the future of bans against the harmful practice could be in jeopardy.
- According to the reality star, she has narrowed down her dating pool to two individuals.
- Obergefell v Hodges has been back in the spotlight with fears gay marriage could be removed as a national right.
- The findings are contrary to what some U-Haul jokes suggest.
My dad and I never really understood each other. Then, he took care of me after my gender-affirming surgery.
If you're looking to lock up, here are the things you need to know.- She was also diagnosed with a blood clot.
Everything you need to know about the ideology and how people are connecting it to Charlie Kirk's shooting.- The Department of Justice had subpoenaed “all medical records and personal information” having to do with gender-affirming care of trans youth.
- And what does it have to do with that Betty Who podcast interview?
Judith Butler literally declined to comment.
Want to cruise but don’t know where to start? We’ve got you covered.- The Department of Health and Human Services is terminating millions in research on mRNA technology.
- It’s a particularly challenging time to protect trans kids. Here are the best ways to help your child.
We spoke to trans experts about the best way to build your bulge.- Studs on studs.
- Lesbian and bisexual women are more likely to be low-income, more likely to be parents and more likely to rely on Medicaid. They could fall through the cracks of Trump’s new tax law.
- Is oat no longer the GOAT?
If you’re an LGBTQ+ person experiencing a mental health crisis, there are resources you can use to get support.
The BateOff host also breaks down the critical difference between gooning and bating.
“These connections are crucial to making prison time easier, for creating safety, and for stealing joy in a place that isn’t designed for it,” Renea Baek Goddard writes.
From pickling to roller skating, let us decide how you spend your new year.
Twink discourse exploded over Troye Sivan’s “Rush” music video. We’re here to break it down.
Harm reduction specialists explain the effects, risks, and least harmful use of nitrous oxide.
Concerned that your voter ID doesn’t match your registration or you’ll be turned away? Read on.
How medical intervention helped one writer discover that comfortable bottoming was possible after all.
Trans folks, people of color, and multi-sexual people have lower perceived life expectancy, according to a new brief by The Trevor Project.
Amid an onslaught of anti-LGBTQ+ legislation, these student organizations are more than just safe spaces.
The Executive Director of the LGBTQ+ civil rights organization National Black Justice Coalition sat down with Them to explain the ramifications of the decision.
Self-care should be a way to ground yourself, not empty your wallet.
Taking steps to protect yourself and your community ahead of protesting is crucial.- During an especially brutal year for LGBTQ+ rights, it's important to gather with community. Luckily, there's more ways to do so than ever before.
Elly Belle explains how to handle anxiety, stress, and internalized homophobia after coming out.
Ending any relationship is hard, let alone one with a therapist. Queer mental health experts explain how to know when it’s time.
After being bullied and closeted for so many years, I held my first queer love up to an impossible standard.
Building queer community isn’t always a linear process. This week, columnist María Saldana tackles loneliness and queer friendship.
Social anxiety can make community building and queer nightlife feel overwhelming. Here are some tips to help.
While keeping my transness a secret kept me safe, sharing my truth helped me see I was so much more than just a woman.
Surviving breast cancer as a gender-nonconforming person of color brought me a unique kind of struggle — and surprising opportunities.
People often assume I’m uber-masculine just because I’m a Dom. There's way more to me underneath the leather.
As a gay, Black dancer living with HIV, being single during the pandemic helped me realize I was treating myself as a sexual object.
“Even if ‘I’m neutral about my body!’ doesn’t seem like something to shout from the rooftops, that’s actually kind of the point: Body neutrality meets me where I am.”
My eating disorder was the only thing that gave me control over my appearance, until I realized I was losing myself.
If we call everything queer, then nothing will be.
While you may feel pressure to jump into action, putting your well being on the line is not an obligation.
Through massage, breathwork, bodily awareness, and more, these techniques will help you decompress and unwind during these stressful times.
Through interviews with over a dozen expert queer healers — including traditional psychologists, sex therapists, personal trainers, reiki masters and hypnotists — we’ve compiled a guide for self-care during these scary times.
Dating while intersex can be hard, with partners prone to misunderstand your body. My experiences have taught me how to accept my differences.
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WHAT TO READ AND STREAM
Our favorite LGBTQ+ literature, music, and entertainment right now.
Next year is shaping up to be yet another banner one for LGBTQ+ musicians, especially trans artists.
The books we can't wait to read next year, from heartfelt memoirs to trans alien romantasy.
From horror to heartfelt romance (and sometimes both at once), here are some of our favorite reads of this year.- Our favorite songs queer and trans musicians released this year, from “Bounce” to “Berghain.”
For when you get sick of big-city women falling in love with small-town men.
The singer-songwriter opens up about their new name, their gender journey, and how music helped them along the way.
The indie musician’s new album Belong features tributes to the 2000s alt-rock of her youth.
Them contributors hand-picked their favorite queer horror films.
Some of the most vibrant, consequential, and groundbreaking characters have enchanted readers and moviegoers alike.
The debut novel follows a trans woman trying to win over her high-school crush at a family wedding.
We’re living through a renaissance of trans music.
The Modern Family star talks about launching her music career and why she was surprised by the reaction to her coming-out TikTok.
Stalter’s timing and delivery fit perfectly with the pace of Dunham’s comedic writing.
The reality TV legend talks with Them about her new memoir Nice Girls Don’t Win.
The song is an impassioned plea for a lover to get over their bad attitude.
The L Word co-stars share advice for maintaining a lifelong queer bond.
The singer opens up about the “shame and guilt and fear and anxiety” of sharing her new single with the world.
The nonbinary musician reflects on his solo career as he pivots toward collaboration.
Exploring everything from transition to tarot, the actress tells an unflinching story of her past selves.
Watch the music video premiere for the singer-songwriter’s new single “I’m So Bored.”
Good rom-coms are rare. Good queer rom-coms are even rarer.
Our guide to the best LGBTQ+ films on Kanopy.
Because thinking is overrated.
From One Day at a Time to Vida, make time for these must-sees.
From Margarita with a Straw to the new Queer as Folk, some creators are finally getting it right.
From Desert Hearts to Derry Girls, these are March must-sees.
From Brother Outsider to Bessie, watch these queer films this February.
Shira Erlichman's work captures a bevy of experiences with bipolar disorder, whether in the doctor’s office, in letters to her family, or in her life as a queer woman.
In The Importance of Being Wilde at Heart, two teens who share a mutual affection for Wilde come together in the face of colonialism and marginalization.
Your early 20s are hard, especially when you have your queer identity, a new career, and a long-distance best friendship to tackle. *Please Send Help* guides the way.
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