Connection: The Odd Woman and the City by Vivian Gornick
In Vivian Gornick’s spirited memoir, The Odd Woman and the City, we see two interesting kinds of relationships that work particularly well for introverts.
Flâneuse is the feminine form of flâneur, a dawdling observer who habitually walks a city, and it would be hard to find a better exemplar of the species than Vivian Gornick, as she portrays herself in her 2015 memoir, The Odd Woman and the City.
A lifelong lover of New York City, Gornick portrays two fascinating kinds of relationships in the book: an arm’s-length attachment to her best friend Leonard and fleeting yet highly meaningful encounters with strangers. Both might be described as types of independent intimacy – deep engagements with boundaries that keep Gornick simultaneously involved in the stream of life and free. Although I don’t believe such connections are characteristic of all or even most introverts, their dynamics illustrate certain introvert tendencies.

