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Ladies, interested in finding out about local L.A. dungeons/BDSM clubs? If you haven't been to a dungeon party I know it can seem a bit intimidating the first time, but everyone's quite friendly. Plus you can just go to watch and meet people if you're not sure about playing. With that said this is not an invitation for instant play but rather to let you know about safe public venues to meet people that have a common interest. If you like going to public dungeons & are local send me a note.
I identify as a Sadomasochist & Service Top who takes off his Top Hat and lets the masochist out to play on occasion.
I'm primarily here as a means for those I meet in the local BDSM community to get in contact with me. You can also find me on F-E-T l i f e .com (no dashes or spaces). I'm a mature switch male. Perhaps a better description would be Consensual Sadomasochist and a sensual Sadist. I like good pain both giving and receiving. I have great admiration for all the mature women here who know what they want and are actively pursuing it. I understand your need for the thrill, desire and excitement that comes from both the physical and physiological aspect of power exchange involved in submission or dominance activities. These were missing from my life but no longer. I am open to being either top or bottom. I understand the joys and pleasures of engaging in bound and restraint activities and giving or receiving the infliction of physical torment. I am married to a great but vanilla woman, and plan to stay so. She is fully aware of my BDSM interests and graciously allows me to play with a few minor restrictions. I attend parties at a local dungeon and play mostly with mature ladies. Limits will always be respected. All emails will be responded to.
I like to play in safe well equipped local dungeons with equipment like St. Andrews crosses, padded bondage tables, spanking benches, suspension frames, slings and so on. Any place where you (or I) can be cuffed, restrained and attached to these devices and abused with things like floggers, crops, paddles, and electro-torture just to mention a few. I belong to a BDSM club in the valley (Threshold) and have played at most of the L.A. clubs like Sanctuary, BoD, Iron Gate and the Lair. So if your interested in exhibitionist voyeuristic dungeon play get in touch with me.
Regarding S&M, I don't consider myself as extreme in either of these activities. Although my play friend CuriousxCat thinks I can take a lot of abuse. That said, when I top I do like to hear a woman cry out as she is spanked or flogged, and I love to see her strain against the restraints when she is bound. I love to weave my fingers through a woman's hair then pull it tightly, hear her whimper, her plaintive lament suffering at my hand and the feeling of control this gives me. I view physical torment as often being a key and sometimes primary aspect of dominance leading to submission. I have found mild pain coupled with just the fear from the verbal threat of escalating the suffering can be used to further establish control.
As a final note I will leave you with some new age / pagan song lyrics that both metaphorically and perhaps literally speak to the intensity of a BDSM relation. The first articulates the power of all women as a goddess (both dominant and submissive), while the next convey the males desire to submit to that power.
Laura Powers: Get Inside I see you in the shadows. I can read your mind. Many men have failed the test. Many men have tried. To find the hidden treasure. And to get inside.
Inkubus Sukkubus: Whore Of Heaven
With lips of red and eyes of anger. With griding hips she shall conquer. With her lust and with her fire. She shall drown you in desire. She shall take and break your heart. She shall tear the world apart. She shall steal and she shall plunder. She has come to drag you under.
Inkubus Sukkubus: Intercourse With The Vampyre Come and taste the bitter fruit. I will drain you of your juice. Let the straining serpent loose . Put your head into my noose. Come and kneel, boy, before me. Kiss my sacred altar. Come to me like a ram. To the slaughter. Feel my poisoned sting. Tonight I'll spread my wings.
You can find this music on www.last.fm |
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My thought on switching.
Some in the community don’t really believe one can be a switch, rather they just haven’t made up there mind. For myself I absolutely know I’m a switch, since I enjoy being both top and bottom, each producing very different feeling and emotions. When I sub, certain kinds of play put me into subspace. For me it’s definitely an altered mental state, it’s very peaceful and calm and I feel extremely relaxed. For some time after, the calm sensation remains and there is also a feeling of great contentment. Contrasting this, when I top it is about power, control, the use of restraints, the tension between the top and bottom and being in-tune with the submissive needs providing the right amount of pain for her pleasure. The act of submission is also very gratifying to me, even more so if I can put her into subspace, knowing I put her in that state. There also something exhilarating about wielding a crop, flogger or paddle on a bound and restrained woman. I’m still exploring my dominate side so I haven’t figured out all my feeling there, but I do know I like it.
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After subbing to my switch friend CuriousxCat for the last several weeks the roles reversed last Saturday. I had a great time punishing Cat at the play party. My sadistic streak was out in force. Saran wrapping her to the bondage table and the electro-torture was quite amusing. I enjoyed putting her into wrist and leg restraints, breast bondage, chaining her to the spider web, seeing her squirm and hearing her cry as I flogged and spanked her. Using my wicked riding crop to make Cat's ass a nice red color was also entertaining. Of course I loved the way the pinwheel and pulling her hair helps puts her into subspace. So glad you enjoyed it Cat.
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My First Double Domme Session
Wow, I had my first double Domme session at the club Friday night; it was amazing, it was intense. I have to give credit to my play partner CuriousxCat for making it all happen. The week before we did a really hot CBT scene that attracted a lot of attention. One lady was quite intrigued by it and we talked to her after the scene. Friday as we were unpacking our toy bags she asked if she could play with us. It was really a marvelous experience submitting to the abuse of these two gorgeous women. Double the pain double the pleasure. I know the ladies enjoyed themselves double teaming me with floggers, crops, paddles, some ice play and of course CBT.
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