zandra

Let's get to know each other a bit.  If it seems there is something about to develop between Us, then let's swap photos.  Perhaps a nice head shot or two.  As things develop further, let's meet for a coffee or something comparable.  No expectations, just a friendly "meet and greet".  From there, let things run the natural course.  Take it easy..that way it can be pleasurable for both of Us, regardless of how things end up.

Many years ago, i found my One, or so i thought. Somehow, i was wrong.  i will never figure it out, so i have just about stopped trying.  

Many would say those years were wasted.  Not i.  As tumultuous as they may have been i would give them up for nothing in this world.  Despite everything, i still grin at the mere thought of spending time in His presence.

Alas, that is not to be.  It is too dangerous for me to spend any more than a moment reflecting in this manner.

My hope is that my TRUE One will find me and claim me.  The aching will be a thing of the past and my grin will be permanent.

Greetings and a Happy Holiday Season to one and all!.  I say that in the spirit of inclusion with no disrespect to any culture.  

Let Us proceed onto the next leg of Our respective journeys with clean and pure hearts.

If You seek a casual play partner, I wish You the best in Your search.

If, on the other hand, You seek an "e-harmony" or "match.com" connection with a D/s flair,  PLEASE hit me up!!

i often say that i do not seek, rather i attempt to be in a position to be found.  So, if You are seeking (to find) a multi-dimensional match with a serious, but fun loving submissive woman, PLEASE hit me up!!

No means no.  How many times have We heard this?  D/s is not supposed to be a struggle where the sub is finally sedated.  This is a consentual lifestyle.  i participate because that is my desire.  Unless there is a negotiatioin which specifies that i wish to be forced...that We use a safeword as opposed to "no" to indicate it is not okay...then No means No.  Do not attempt to go there anyway.  Do not read my attempts at thwarting You as weak or strong.  Just DO NOT go there. ..i said No, FGS.  It is called basic respect.

Some things do not require justification.  If a person requires safe sex then honor that or don't go there at all.  Everyone is entitled to this.  These are Our bodies and We are entitled to protect them how We see fit...no justification necessary.

If You are a self proclaimed Dominant then get Yourself under control before approaching another.  If You cannot control Yourself, how in the world can You control another? Once You put the submissive in the position of maintaining control, how can she possibly submit to You?

A submissive isn't a loose person.  In fact most of Us are the exact opposite.  We are honorable, respectable people.  If You would wait til a third date to "go there" with a vanilla date wait til a fourth date with a submissive woman.  We are giving so much more of ourselves and putting ourselves at risk to such a higher degree that We deserve additional time and assurances not fewer.  

A first meeting is a first meeting, just that nothing more.  Try starbucks and MAYBE dinner if starbucks goes well. Expoecting anything more is unrealistic and downright disrespectful.

Try leaving Your own reality and try looking at things from another perspective.  If You are being perceived in a particular manner, perhaps You should adjust Your approach, not blame the other person for not being in your head. The message lies with the receiver.

Be honest about who You are and where You have been.  It gives Us a place from which to begin.

i love teaching..sharing what i know.  However, if You  need to learn the basics, give Yourself Your own crash course.  Hint:  The internet is a great research tool.  If You are not willing to put in the time and effort to educate Yourself, why do You think i should?

He that will Dominate me will have made a serious commitment to the lifestyle.  A lack of basic knowledge and preparation will assure me that He is not the One worthy of my submission  He may have a Dominant personality...that gets me going.  But at this point, i need Him to have trained and tweaked things.

A singing talent is wonderful ...but training that voice can make it spectacular.  Without training it, it is lovely but uncontrolled!

i am a submissive woman.  Allow me the pleasure of submitting myself.  Would You expect me to submit myself to someone i could not respect as knowledgable and capable?  No need to worry about it, cause it won't happen.

After a long absence i have returned to collarme.  To be claimed?  Perhaps.  It would be wonderful if my true One were to find me, that's for sure.  However, i think returning is more of a step in the healing process.  It is a point of re-entry into the world.  

i have less patience with the facades now.  My focus is more on reality than ever before.  i love the fantasy, but that is not what real life is about.  Living the fantasy can lead to disaster.

Perhaps it is a matter of changing my fantasy to a more healthy reality?  i could so use strong guidance, it is almost pathetic!  Sometimes i step outside of myself and wish i were a Dominant.  Not to Dominate anyone else, but to Dominate myself!  Bizarre, eh?

Is there anyone out there strong enough?  wise enough?  capable enough?  honorable enough? intuitive enough?  well enough?

i am sure there is, but the odds of it coming together are slim at best.  So many pretenders in the way...on both sides of the fence.  It is a distorted haze.

Somewhere there is a laser beam that penetrates that haze.  It only needs to be directed towards these coordinates!  LOL.

a rambling zandra

It all boils down to honesty.  It makes so much sense to be honest to begin with.  Just come clean.  It will make everything so much easier in the long run. Do i speak to someone in particular?  Yes, of course...and everyone in general.  i never really knew how many brands of deceit there were.  i am learning the hard way.  i do not wish to become jaded, but i do not see the alternative clearly.