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Hi. I'm Trinity.
I am a cisgender woman, and my pronouns are she/her.
I've been doing this kink thing for almost 30 years. Sometimes folks ask my advice. Some people think Im smart. Some people think I'm a bitch. They're probably both right, at least some of the time.
I'm not currently looking for any additional play partners, but am always up to chat with people who dont lead with their dicks.
If you're just going to send hello, how are you, what are you up to? (or some variation of any of those), don't bother, because I'll ignore you. Instead, start a conversation. Some topic suggestions: tell me what you're currently reading/watching (that isn't porn) and start a convo about it, start a discussion about the kink community in your area, tell me what skill you've recently learned, talk about writing/reading/editing, talk about world events, etc, etc.
I will also note that if you voted for the current US President who was sworn into office in 2025, we won't get along, so feel free to pass on to the next profile. You don't need to crash into my DMs to tell me how that's discrimination. It's not, and arguing about my boundaries won't go the way you think it will. So, honestly, just move along and live your best life. |
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Well, I'm finally moving in about 3 weeks! I'll be back in Atlanta. I'm very excited, as I'll be much, much closer to Master.
And I'll get to buy some sweaters!
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On ownership...
I become confused easily when reading some of the profiles here on CM. You see, in my worldview, a slave is *owned*. Anything that would be a slave's is actually her Master's (maleDom/femsub for ease of writing). Like a favored pet who might wear a pretty collar, sleep in a soft bed, be fed top quality kibble... these are all things He grants her, but she does not own. She cannot, for she is the one owned.
So I wonder how a slave may own a slave. I believe a slave may top a submissive or another slave, with her Master's permission and/or blessing. I believe a slave may even dominate another submissive or slave for a limited amount of time. But to *own* someone, a person *must* be dominant. Because that's what the owned person needs, or she wouldn't seek to be owned.
Slavehood is not conditional upon whom one is with. A slave is not obligated to serve everyone she comes into contact with, of course, but a slave is always a slave, regardless of whether she's in the company of her Master or of other slaves or anyone in between.
In my opinion, one cannot be a slave and be dominant so as to own
another. One can be a submissive and be dominant. But slavehood is in
the heart. It is a *constant* state. And while dominance can be exhibited by a slave in the short
run, a slave who is dominant in a long term relationship is no longer,
by definition, a slave.
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Updated my profile, as I hadn't in forever.
Moving to Atlanta in a couple months! Or whenever we can unload this moneypi -- err, I mean beautiful, marketable home!
;)
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On Definitions...
There are, essentially, three roles on each side of the fence (not including switches). Tops, Dominants and Masters (non-gender-specific); and bottoms, submissives, and slaves.
Tops/bottoms refers to the physical side of things, ie S&M: flogging, waxing, bondage, whatever. The Top is the one who is doing the actions, the bottom is receiving the actions. In this interaction, the bottom, though not the one holding the whip, is always in control as s/he can tell the Top to stop at any time. The bottom also has a much greater say in what happens in a scene than the other types. A person can be a bottom (meaning they don't delve into the mental side of things at all and prefer to just bottom on the physical side) or just be in the bottom role for that scene.
Dominants/submissives refers more to the mental side of things. The Dominant is in control, for the most part, while the submissive...well...submits. Though the submissive has much less control than a bottom, s/he still will have the final say, as a safeword will still end a scene or s/he can choose not to submit to certain things (imposing limits). The D/s relationship also usually overflows out of a set scene and into the lives of the couple. Rules and protocols are often imposed to help keep the "mindset" of both people. Also, one can submit for a scene, a day, a weekend, a lifetime. It isn't necessary to be in a relationship with someone in order to submit to that person.
Masters/slaves is also a relationship on the mental side, but it tends to be markedly deeper. It is similar to the D/s relationship in that the Master is always the one in control and the dynamic encompasses the couple's lives as well as BDSM functions or scenes. There are almost always protocols put in place in a M/s relationship, though they're not always overt. Unlike the D/s relationship, however, a M/s relationship must be that: a long-term relationship. The trust level between a Master and slave must be very, very strong, as the slave gives up rights to everything but what the Master allows to be retained. Many people mistakenly believe that this means slaves are doormats, but this is far from true. Good, able slaves tend to be extremely strong people. And a good, able Master recognizes the slave's strengths and allows certain things to be retained because those things please him. For example, if a Master's slave is very good at organization and dealing with people, he may have her running his business as a manager. She still must acquiesce to his will, but she has quite a bit of autonomy on her own. Slaves have only the rights which their Masters allow, but a smart Master will allow those things which benefit his slave's well-being, his own well-being and/or their relationship's well-being. In most M/s relationships, the slave has no limits with her Master. Many novices believe mistakenly that this is ridiculously dangerous (I did when I first started), but the truth is, any good Master will guard his possessions (his slave) with his life, therefore, anything he requires of her will not put her in any real danger. He would never put a gun to her head, or tell her to jump off a bridge, or whatever, just because he could. This is where the trust is of a much deeper nature than in the D/s relationships. The slave gives *everything* to her Master, not just her submission. |
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