wickedswitchofmi

I'm a switch.

It's amazing to me that most female switches identify mainly as Dommes while most male switches seem to identify as submissives. What's with that?

I've been in the scene for many, many years but more importantly, I have a wide range of interests outside the scene. I truly believe that "vanilla" interests are more important than scene compatibility. After all when the ropes come off, when the warm butt cools down, what do you do? You've just got to share similar interests in R/L. Don't you agree?

My taste in music is truly eclectic ranging from classical to jazz and the blues. I'm good with my hands and have made some of my own BDsm equipment. I'm not a pain slut but if it pleases my Mistress to inflict it I will endure. I do have a quirky sense of humor so sometimes I'm seen as a SAM. I suppose this comes from both my advanced age and a serious interest in Sci-fi. But it was my Grandfather who instilled most of it in me. Interesting enough it was my Mother who got me started down a path in BDsm.

From either side of the ropes I'm mostly interested in mild to stringent bondage, sensuous bondage, body worship, sensory deprivation and sensory overload. I love extended play involving teasing and denial leading up to my pet's explosive climax.

When I play a safeword is always in place and strictly honored. There is no dishonor in using a safeword. It's there for both partners, the dominant and submissive. When a scene gets out of hand in any way it should be stopped. Limits change from day to day, sometimes minute to minute. If things "aren't right" you must stop them.

As a submissive I especially enjoy strict bondage coupled with "forced" oral servitude. I don't have a fetish for anything like corsets, latex, leather, heels, etc. but of course being the typical male I am visually oriented so i "love looking" -- gazing -- at beautiful Dommes thus clad.

I love role-playing, ass play/dildo training, strapons, floggings, and spanking.

I've played with TENS and violet wands, also extended butt plug use, enemas, and some humiliation. I've done pony play and doggy training. I've even played daddy to little girls but don't get the whole diaper thing. I prefer my little girls in at least their spankable teens or possibly barely preteen in jumpers or short schoolgirl skirts.

Many times I think men feel a need to be "lessened" and they think submitting is the way to do this. They have this absolute need to submit and think that the more pain they "accept" the better submissive they are. Or there's some self loathing or very, very poor self esteem going on so they crave "severe" punishments. Does this make sense?

I do not have low self esteem!! I don't think that submitting makes me less of a man. In fact just the opposite, it shows that I'm capable of being both a male and a wonderful toy for my Lady. It shows a versatility that most men can't achieve nor accept as a way of life. I think this enhances a man rather then diminishing him.

I'm not into pain as a submissive. I will admit that at times I've "taken a lot more" CP - punishment than I wanted to because it seemed to be what my Lady desired. I certainly didn't enjoy it. I suppose that this is part of submitting though, to please Her. I love floggings because they can be sensual as well as intense. I've been in the scene for a long time and had my share of sadistic Dommes who were more interested in topping me than dominating me. I love flogging as a dominant but again unless pain is desired I'm not sadistic.

I'm not into "quickies" -- or just scening. I'm really into relationships, getting to know my Lady. I want her to know me, the inner me. I want Her to understand where that soft underbelly is, allowing her into my soul, and slowly letting myself be drawn into Her silken web of domination, in Her way. Yes, I have many fantasies. I have lots of ideas of what I like. But hey, it's Her show and in the final analysis it's Her that I need to please to fulfill my submission, my submissive desires and her need to be in control.

One of my long time interests in WIITWD is the use of hypnosis in the scene. I think that hypnosis is the ultimate form of consensual BDsm. If you think about it you control your submissive completely with their own permission. You can "bind them" with a command not to move. You can spank them without bondage, even if being spanked is not "one of their things" at present. You can command hours of "personal" service without the submissive remembering anything if you so command; or remembering everything with a yearning for much more if you wish.

I don't hang out in the AOL chat rooms because I prefer personal contact on a one to one basis.

Thanks for reading my profile, Jim

One thing that I note is that most of us switches are really in it for the fun, the sensations and not interested in 24/7 or TPE realtionships. I've been told to "make up my mind" about what I want and my response is always "I know what I want, I want it all." I'm not indecisive, I'm greedy!!!!