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Male Dominant, 40, Atlanta, Georgia
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About Volcifar
I am a 51 year old white male and a switch who is predominately submissive. I have been Lifestyle oriented since age 5 (self-bondage and self-torture) but became Lifestyle Aware in 1995, when I joined a local BDSM r/l group.
I am a Gemini and love toys and sensation play, both soft and hard and truely enjoy being of service to those of whom I serve.
I am currently married to a wonderful wife and we are living in an open poly-relationship. We agreed very early in our relationship that while marriage provides us with personal and finanacial advantages, that we both truely feel that as long as we can remain open and honest with each other, that relationships with other people can only provide us with a positive learning and growth experience.
My interests are many and varied, typical Gemini I know. I love books, music, movies, food, the outdoors, religion and metaphysical discussions, computers, and let's not forget BDSM! I have a heavy interest in Science Fiction and Medieval topics. Musically, I like a lot of stuff, but tend to prefer New Age, Celtic, soft rock, and Trance.
As to the lifestyle, I love bondage and S/M play. Although some have called me a pain puppy or whatever, I do have a few limits in some areas. I prefer CBT and NT. Wax, Ice, and electric play are all wonderful in my opinion, and have enjoyed other forms as well. My D/s experience is a bit more limited. I am not a slave, too independant for that really. I do however, have a strong since of protocol and consider myself to have almost a chivalric knight sense of honor and duty to those whom I serve. I truely take pleasure in being able to give that level of dedication to one willing to accept that service. |
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Been out of the scene for awhile now, too much going on in my life to get around, but... hopefully I can change that again here fairly soon. Hoping to make a r/l party tonight and visit with old friends and maybe meet a few new ones. Doubt I'll get to scene, not sure I should right now either, medically speaking I'm needing to get my physical self lined out a bit with meds, been without for too long.
Can a person have BDSM withdrawls? Sure seems like it, since Sept for me. I've gotten back on mIRC and played in the CM chatrooms a bit here and there for the last week or so, fun, but just not the same. However, I have found a few old friends still around and some r/l ones that have gotten online, pleasant surprise.
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I really wonder why it is that I keep running into female dominants that have such a negative attitude about switches. And getting them to even tell me why they don't care to deal with switches is a moot point after they find out I am one, a 'get away from me attitude' tends to prevail at that point.
Being married, I can understand that they don't feel I can ever be truely theirs, and in some ways, they are right, I have no plan to leave my wife or my poly-family, just ain't gonna happen. But that doesn't mean I can't devote time to other relationships. My wife's dom lives with us, but I can't seem to find a reverse situation.
Yet, somehow, even though I hardly ever get into a dominant mode, simply saying I am a switch totally disqualifies me as a potential relationship partner without ever getting to know anything about me. Only time I seem to have any sort of luck in finding someone, is if they too are switches. Even though I'm not really looking to find a switch, I don't mind if it is the right person.
Oh well, guess the search continues... |
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This last week has been rather slow. Only really important thing this week was making it to a job interview, still have a 1-2 week wait for them to make hiring selections... so crossing fingers.
Spent a good bit of time online in the collarme chatrooms again after a 9 month hiatis. Not many folks still hanging around that I remember from that time period, but trying to make a few new friends anyway. I've been considering setting up a room of my own, just not sure I want to commit to that much time in the chat area. Haven't really found a new room to call home while I am there.
The SMs Play Party is this weekend, so maybe something will happen there that will cap off the week, I'll let you know next week. Need to see if a couple of friends are going to be there, so need to do a bit of email I guess.
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Been awhile again since the last posting here. Things have gone their merry way and I've survived to this point I guess. I am still uncollared at this time, but have made some friends that I've been working with, even though that has been happenstance.
I would still like to find someone that understands my situation and is willing to work with me. I am r/l, not cyber, although I do spend time online just chatting with folks.
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Holy Cow, Feb was my last post in here! Has stuff changed since then...
Well Feb and March brought about medical problems. That took me down for some time. A follow up surgery in late May only extended the recovery time.
In the midst of all that was a corporate shakeup that left over a dozen of us out in the cold looking for work. Still looking actually.
Our poly family is looking at adding a new person to the household. She came down for a week last month to see how things would work. It showed that we need to really make sure that she knows what 'Poly' living means for one. Her situation at her own home has grown highly unstable as well.
As to my own bdsm-related lifestyle, I guess I've gone about a few things incorrectly and wonder if things will work out again. I am trying, but over the years in my reading and talking with others in the lifestyle and working with a few in the lifestyle, I have come to expect certain things, certain behaviours, and certain expectations of myself and of my Domme, protocols if you will, that are not working this time around. |
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Okay, haven't been on in quite awhile and I guess things have changed quit a bit since the last entry. I have found a female dominant that is willing to work with me, and has since July 2005. We are now talking an official collaring and hopefully within the next 30 days that will actually happen.... more to come. |
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Well, it has been several months and it seems even though things have changed, things are still pretty much the same. I'm still trying to find that 'right' person, someone that will fill that hole in my life. I've met quite a few people and spent time cultivating relationships, but have not yet made that vital connection. |
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The start of the year has come and gone, and a month later, I'm still looking for the one person that is willing to offer a level of partnership that I am in search of.
I'm not looking for someone to marry, I already have that and have no plans for that to ever change. I suppose in some ways that is considered strange or weird to some. My wife and I however, truely feel that a person grows with the experience of additional relationships and that it doesn't have to threaten our own personal relationship. Finding someone willing to accept that as part of our arrangement seems to be a real hurdle to overcome.
Having spent an evening discussing my wants and desires for my life and future relationships with a previous mistress has sort of put me in a soul-searching state of mind I suppose... I really would like to find someone that can accept the fact that I like certain things, that I am married, and is still willing to work with me. I am spiritually minded (pagan but not really Wiccan), I love to be there for others, to help where I can, but I do need a level of intellectual engagement and a caring level of personal emotional response. Although it sort of sounds rather needy on my part, it is a two-way street I'm willing to offer.
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