urnextbigthang

Here I am ranting again Lol I think they need a website named IMAWHORE.COM. It would be a site where men and women who claim to be into financial domination or so called professional doms/dommes who charge for their services or subs who are looking for sugar daddies/mommas or gifts could go to post their ads and also those who are willing to pay for those things could have their own site called IMAJOHN.ORG. That way those of us who are truly into the lifestyle for whatever emotional and/or physical fulfillment, joy, relaxation etc that it may bring us, we can escape the stigma that these people bring to us. Like I said in my earlier rant it is no wonder that the outside world thinks we are so into fulfilling our physical needs that we have no self respect, loyalty or interest in emotionally fulfilling, loving, caring relationships. This is illegal in most places, but here it is actually encouraged. And for all those who say that their subs/doms/clients seek them out willingly and voluntarily all I can say is so do the customers of prostitutes on the streets of any major city, so we are back to that thing of just because someone is willing to do something it doesn’t mean they are entitled to do it. However, if you want to sell yourself to the highest bidder then be my guest, but do it somewhere that the rest of us don’t have to deal with it, because despite what a lot of people think a lot of people involved in bdsm do have morals and a sense of principals even it is somewhat warped in most peoples eyes we still have a sense of ethics and proper conduct with each other and doing something with each other that can be, at the very least a emotionally intense reaction by most subs during a session, that should not be lessened by people asking for money and handouts. It should done because either the dom truly cars about the sub or at least truly cares about his/her craft and the practice of it

I hear so many doms/domes on this site and others go on about how disrespectful it is if someone even talks to their sub without their permission, but many of these same doms are referring to subs as belonging to them while in reality their subs are actually the spouses or ltr significant others of other men and women outside the lifestyle.

My question is if someone is not in the lifestyle does that automatically make their rights null and void to potential doms. I mean it would seem to me that marriage or a similar arrangement is the ultimate ownership so isn't it disrespectful to claim someone else's significant other as your own and ignore their rights to that person, but then get angry when someone else takes an interest after you have "staked" your claim so to speak.

Before I hear all the justification about how since they are looking for masters, domes, etc that makes them fair game I have this to say, them doing their partner wrong and you participating in them doing their partner wrong, just makes you both wrong and nobody right. So if you are approached by someone who is in a relationship that is not open, please take the high road and refuse them. In doing so you will refute one of the many stereotypes about people min the lifestyle which is that we have no concept of faithfulness, loyalty or committed relationships and you will also prove that at least you do recognize someone else's property/

Dont usually write in this but my frustration is getting to me. Why is it so hard to find people who are interested in using my sub. She is open to about anything, we are safe, sane and clean and while I know we arent the best in the looks dept we arent the worst either and others seem to have no problems finding playmates. Any advice, and before you say go to a club like the Mark, we have both time and financial constraints that make that difficult.