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Online submission

I'm not sure what it is these days with these so called "Doms" seeking women for "Online submission."  That may work for the inexperienced or the fakes, however not very well for the people who live this Lifestyle.

A/anyone who has been in a REAL D/s relationship, KNOWS there is nothing like the touch of Y/your partners hands, the feel of Y/your partners touch, the look in T/their eyes.  The feel of the paddle, the feel of the ropes binding you.

The above mentioned cannot be felt.  It cannot be experienced "Online," yet more and more profiles read, "in search of an Online submissive, I have blah blah blah years in this Lifestyle and am a REAL Master."  LOL OK...suuuure.  IF You are a "Real Master" then You would know that an Online Master is NOT a REAL MASTER.  Online submission is not REAL submission.  Anyone can play either role on a part time basis.

My question would be, what are You trying to hide?  Married?  In a long term nilla relationship looking to get Your kink on?  Are You actually nilla, and somehow found out this is a place to look at nude pictures?  Are You just here for the cyber?  Please!  Why do You even bother coming here?

Online D/s is for the weak, and fake.  It takes REAL people who actually meet for a D/s relationship to work.

I don't care how many negative emails I get about this journal,  it's not like it would be my first time I've had to defend what I write.  The best I can say is  this.....

My sister and brother submissives, don't waste your time on this "Online bullshit."  These so called, "Doms" will never meet you because T/they have something to hide.  Don't be fooled with their supposed number of years in D/s.  Think about it!  IF you've lived this Lifestyle at any time of your life, will font on a screen or a voice on the phone replace the FEELING you've felt in the past?

I'm not saying that this forum and others like it, aren't great ways to meet like minded people.  Email exchanges, chatting on messenger, talking on the phone, are all great ways to get to know someone.  But to submit to someone daily online?  Laughable!!

Ah...nothing like waiting all day for the sun to go down to mow the lawn.  Only to find out there's no gas in the can or in the mower!  Aye Aye Aye.  LOL

The Bleeding

I remember when all the games began
Remember every little lie and every last goodbye
Promises you broke, words you choked on
and I never walked away,
it's still a mystery to me

The lying, the bleeding, the screaming
Was tearing me apart
The hatred (deceiving), the beatings and now it's over

Paint the mirrors black to forget you
I still picture your face and the way you used to taste
Roses in a glass, dead and wilted
To you this all was nothing
Everything to you is nothing

I'm better off without you and you're better off without me

Another night has passed, and things are slowly settling in my head.  The "I don't get its", and "How can someone do this to another" wonders have ceased.  I won't ever..GET IT.  I won't ever understand why what was done, was done.  Some people are just who they are, and can't and won't ever be happy in life no matter what you do. 

My view on many a ...dumbanant

I'm beginning to believe that some of you  dumbanants simply woke up one morning after your wife  woke you up from a deep slumber, screaming that she wasn't your maid  for leaving your dirty clothes on the bathroom floor, and decided, THAT'S IT!! I'M A DOM!!

From there you found this site.  You read some profiles (Oh I made a funny, you don't read profiles, you just look at the pictures).   You decided to email every submissive/slave with pictures of her tits or twat hanging out, or anyone with slut or something to that effect, in her screen name, (Because we all know THAT'S how you get a Dominant man these days).  Telling them how you are Dom and how they shall kneel at your feet (providing your wife will let you out that night). 

So like a good little boy, you cleaned out the garage, mowed the lawn, did  laundry, and perhaps even put the laundry away.  You took all 7 of your kids to the park, (you have 7 kids because you USED to have sex)  You, thinking what a good boy you've been, the wife MIGHT let you go out later, (of course, you were wrong).  

So the next opportunity you have, you revisit this site.  By now, your wife has annoyed the hell out of you and on that day, you are KING DOM!  You are the Dominant or all Dominants ( that is until you hear your wife pulling up in the driveway with the horn blaring because YOU need to bring in groceries). 

Now that she's managed to not only annoy the hell out of you, but now she won't have sex with you, you are back on this site.  This time looking to see who is within driving distance. 

I could go on and on with this...but I'm sure you got the point.

I'm not sure why people do the things they do.  I do my best to not judge people in this Lifestyle choice, but sometimes it amazes me how both sides know nothing about trust and honesty.

My father used to say..never trust someone that lies to you, and never lie to someone that trusts you.  So why all the deceit?  I don't understand why people have this need to lie and cheat.  After all, when you got into the relationship, weren't those things discussed?  Whether it was going to be a poly or a monogamous  relationship?  Was there ever a mention that perhaps another could be brought into the relationship? 

If you are committed to someone, then why seek the attention of others?  If you're truly happy in a relationship and love someone unconditionally, why the deceit? 

The last few days I've been on here, (and I'm here with a heavy heart) I see all of these people "in a relationship," "proudly owned," "I've found My babygirl."  If you are so happy, then why are you emailing me? Why are you ALWAYS on this forum?  When I was proudly owned, I didn't give this site a thought.  I was committed to the relationship I was in.

I truly believe that some of you need to take a step back and look at yourselves.  Are you really happy if you're on here all the time and with someone?  I would have to say no.  The excuse of, "I'm just here for friends," is the biggest crock of BS I've ever seen.  Everyone has a cell phone, everyone has some sort of messenger.  If you don't have their cell phone number, or their messenger ID, then guess what?  They aren't friends at all.

So my question is this.  Who are you lieing to?  Yourself? Or your partner?

Pain

Ive always referred to myself as someone in need of grounding and discipline.  I also know that pain is a release for me.  Physical pain that is. 

I'm finding I don't handle emotional pain well.  I had spent so many years building this wall around me.  The wall that was sky high, surrounded by barbed wire and an electric fence.  I should have kept those barriers in place. 

I'm not sure why this hurts so badly.  I know now that he never cared, and never really did love me.  I just can't understand why its so hard for me to move on.

Alright then

Apparently the word OWNED means nothing to the dolts that circulate this site.  One VERY important thing about being a Dominant is the ability to read a profile.  I DO understand that most are lengthy and boring to read, however, mine says OWNED right up top! 

How does one expect to mentor and train a sub or slave when one simply can't read a profile.  THINK before you send a message to someone or better yet READ their profile.

I am an OWNED and COLLARED submissive.  My Daddy/Master/Sir is ALL I have and will ever need.  I come on here SIMPLY to check mail from FRIENDS.  Not to sit here and read this obnoxious garbage that's being sent to my email. 

Some of you should be ashamed of yourselves.  Do you REALLY believe that all subs/slaves are mindless minions that should even entertain the thought of responding to some of the drivel we get in our mailboxes? 

NO RESPONSE IS A RESPONSE.  Stop whining.  Stop bitching and complaining that "wanna be subs/slaves" don't have the consideration to reply to emails. Maybe it's simply because YOU should learn to read a profile before you send us crap!

Have a wonderful day

Another Birthday

Ack...another birthday's come and gone.  I remember a time when ...well....many moons ago, when the dinosaurs roamed the earth, that another birthday was another year closer to adulthood and freedom! 

It seems these days, another birthday is another year closer to death.  So now I'm quickly approaching my "mid 40's".  I'm 43 now, mid means 45.  Since its smack dab in the middle of 40 and 50. 

I laugh now, because in my days of youth, I used to think 30 was old.  When I reached 30, then 40 was old.  Now that I'm IN my 40's, I think I'll save myself  the BS and just say 80 is old.  IF I make it to that age, I don't think I'll be able to deny that 80 IS old. 

So for now, I can be content in knowing I have 37 years before I'm 80.  Watch the time fly now that I'm talking shit !!!  lol

I woke up in a sweat again
Another day's been laid to waste
Trapped in my own disgrace
Stuck in my head again
Feels like I'll never leave this place
There's no escape
I'm suffocating
Tell me what the fuck is wrong with me
I don't know what to take
Thought I was focused but I'm not...I'm  scared
I've never been so ill prepared
I'm starting to believe that I'm  my own worst enemy

I watch how the moon sits in the sky
on a dark night shining with the light from the sun,
The sun doesn't give light to the moon
assuming the moon's going to owe it one,
It makes me think of how you act with me,
You do favors and then quickly you just turn around and start asking me about things that you want back from me,
I'm so sick of the tension, sick of the bullshit,
sick of you acting like I owe you this,
Maybe someday I'll be just like you,
And step on people like you do,
Run away the people I thought I knew,
I remember back then who you were,
You used to be calm, used to be strong
Used to be generous, but you should've known..........
 That you'd wear out your welcome,
Now you see how quiet it is, all alone !!!

Self respect

Well after yesterdays journal I received quite a few e-mails.  Some were nice, while others, well, weren't so nice

I find it comical, that the not so nice e-mails that I received were from the silly twats that ...you guessed it...are showing their shit.  The same ones that want respect from others yet, have no respect for themselves. 

Seems the biggest complaint around here is that everyone is searching for a LTR and can't find it. 

As a submissive, when I'm looking through profiles (mostly to get a good laugh), I tend to skip, pass or even hide the profiles that have dumbanants cocks posted in their pics.  Usually the cock pic isn't all that impressive nor is the girl (who's mouth/ass or what have you) it's shoved into.

When will you silly twats learn, that with those kind of pics, any genuine Dominant looking for a LTR is going to pass you right by.
A man whether Dominant or not, who's looking for a LTR, doesn't really care to start up a conversation with a chick who's twat is plastered for the whole CM world to see.  You silly twats just have NO class.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you don't have any respect for yourself, then don't expect others to have any respect for you. 

Eh, I'm sure that this will piss some of you off, but you know, the truth always hurts.

Unreal


I'm not sure if most on here took an Internet BDSM 101 course, or just simply have no clue.  I tend to get bored, and skim profiles and can't believe half the crap that I see.


It's simply amazing that all these 'Dom's want respect, but don't know how to give it.  Don't get me wrong, there are some that do, but this is for the ones that don't.  I don't care what Lifestyle choice you've made, but to get respect you need to give respect.


Not all men are dominant by nature.  The ones that are, and don't necessarily know how to wield a whip, does that make them any less of a dominant?  No, it doesn't.  The reality is, it's a presence.  If I've typed it once, I've typed it a million times, respect, trust, and submission is something that must be earned. 

I don't see how many feel that a sub/slave is of no value, or see us as subhuman. Fact is, without us either in this Lifestyle choice or any other, you would all be jerking off to your favorite porn. Let's face it, men spend 9 months trying to get out, then the rest of their lives, trying to get back IN. 

I enjoy my submissiveness, and because I am a genuine submissive female that does NOT mean that I will submit to some 'bad ass' screen name on a web site.  I am a submissive female, I'm just not submissive to ALL.

I remember a time, when submissive's were proud, had self respect and dignity, and knew that they had a gift, one that should be cherished.  I guess with the surge of desperate, bored women, the times have changed.

A dominants BIGGEST mistake, is to THINK (which most of you don't) that ALL submissive's are doormats.

Os olhos sao as janelas a alma

I remember as a child, when my great grandmother used to always say, "Os olhos sao as janelas a alma, (the eyes are the windows to the soul). 

Ever look into someone's eyes and know exactly what they're thinking, feeling or needing?  Then look into someone else's and get either a blank stare or a...nothingness?

 My point is, that how is it that some people can just look at you with a...nothingness?
My great grandmother used to say that those kind of people have no soul.  (Remember these was the old days, back in Portugal).

I can look into my sons eyes and see what he's feeling or even if hes fibbing.  I can look into my mother's eyes, and tell when she's serious.

Is it because I know them?  It is because I spend so much time with them, that it's just a knowing?  Are there other factors involved?

I've had people tell me different things about what they see in my eyes.  Some are rediculous, while others, are pretty much on the mark.

Is it that we see what we want to see in someone else's eyes?  Does anger, fear, hate, or even love change the factors of what we see?

Journals

Goodness, it seems that journal writters are running rampant lately. 

I have to wonder what kind of silly twat sits there airing out her personal business.

What amazes me most, is that this silly twat recently took her pic off of her profile after sending married Doms MY screen name to contact. 

Umm so...yea bitch I know it was YOU.  Hence why you were blocked. 

There should be "rules" to writting journals.

1.  Spell check them before you post one.
2.  Be sure they don't look like a 5 year old typed them.
3.  It's YOU ..not u..It's to, too, or two...not 2.

I believe that if one cannot follow these simple rules, then their journal privledges should be REVOKED!!

The Winds of Change

Things change as W/we get oldar.  Our thoughts, behaviors, tastes, lives, and even sometimes, our minds...change.

Most don't like change.  Although it is necessary for things to change, some fight against it.

W/we all have an "elder" in our family.  For some, it's an Archie Bunker type that's set in his ways and refuses to change.  For others, it's like the movie, "Grumpy Old Men", where they all sit around and bitch and complain about anything, and everything because they don't like change.

Sadly, this site has become much like Archie Bunker and Grumpy Old Men combined.  It seems you can't read a profile without someone bitching and complaining about something. 

Whether it's, "You do not have my permission to use anything in my profile for any school papers, to the stupidity of, Nigerian slaves DO NOT CONTACT ME".  Do you really think that that the person doing their term paper overseas gives a rats ass about your "Warning" on your profile?  I mean, is it trademarked?  Is it copywritten?  Do you really think that the nigerian slave reads your profile?  If your answer was "Yes" to the above questions then, you're a moron. 
And by the way, good luck prosecuting the writter of that term paper overseas, IF you even know who he/she is.

The simple fact is that most don't bother to read profiles.  They simply look at the pictures and if they like what they see, they send you an e-mail.

As much as it would be "nice" for them to read your profile first, its rare that they do.  The funniest part about it is, that the idiots that are complaining about people not reading their profile, are the same ones that arent reading yours before they send you an email.  Practice what you preach people!! 

But back to change.  I believe that people are scared of change because they feel that they need to change too.  Guess what, you do. 

Most of us wear a mask in some way, shape or form.  We act a certain way around certain people, then seconds later, change that mask, when with a different crowd. 

Some log onto this site, and become a keyboard commando, demanding respect and being disrespectful.  If it werent for change, half of these morons would be having to go out and see people face to face, and act like a fool.  Guess what, they don't.  For fear that they would get the shit kicked out of them for the most part.  Technology has changed the way we communicate.  Without this change SOME wouldnt be so bold.

Change is good....go with it.

What's it going to take?


Ok now, where on my profile does it say that I am Bi?   In fact, it says straight.   Please stop emailing me to be a part of your poly family or to ask if I want a sister slave.  First off, I'm not Bi, secondly, I don't do poly, thirdly I'm not a slave and my sister is dead.  She was enough of a pain in my ass, and she was my sister through blood.

Also, my profile states that I am here for friends.  Let's face it, to have some sort of LTR, you should always start as friends and see if you are compatable.  It just so happens I think I found that one. ;o)

~The No's~
No, I'm not "owned".
No, I don't want someone from out of state.
No, I'm not looking for play partners.
No, My eyes are brown, not blue (contact lenses)
No, I don't want your drama.
No, I don't think that my shit doesnt stink ;o)

~The Yes's~
Yes, the pics are of ME.
Yes, I smoke, and occasionally drink.
Yes, They are real, not bought.
Yes, I am 100% woman, born that way.
Yes, I have an attitude.
Yes, I'm looking for a LTR (Long Term Relationship) not a Lieing Temporary Retard.

That should take care of it.  Thanks, have a GREAT day!

Get it? Got it? Good!!

It's one thing when I don't respond to emails, it's ANOTHER, when I block them.  My profile clearly states that I'm here to talk to my friends.  That means if you're looking to get laid, crawl up a chickens ass and wait! 

I've BEEN done with the silly shit that goes on here.  So don't make something out of nothing, don't ask me why I have an attitude, and don't ask for my Yahoo screen name.  Don't make NEW or BOGUS screen names to haunt me either..been there done that.  Most of time they are deleted unread.

Go bother a doormat or some brainless bitch, that doesnt know your game.

I read a journal today that simply stated, "Life has an expiration date, so enjoy it". 

Truer words were never spoken.  It's just a shame the date isnt tattooed to our asses so that we knew when.

I've read a lot profiles on this site.  People threatening to leave the site, for their own reasons.  To be honest, it is understandable.

There is an overabundance of (fakes, flakes, wanna bees etc).   I'm sure both Masters/Sirs as well as slaves/subs experience the same crap from the above mentioned on here.

I've said a million times, that if we could take people that we know, and take the qualities we adore from each and deposit them into one person, that we would THEN have the perfect person.  I've always wanted to go the Wizards box, pull out all the things like a heart, courage, and all the other goodies in there, and build me The Ultimate Dominant.

The Ultimate Dominant:  He knows what He wants/needs/desires.  He's honest. He's caring.  He has a brain.  He appreciates the things in life, that others overlook.  He can carry on an intelligent conversation.  He wants/needs/desires the SAME things I do. He appreciates me for who I am.  He is quick-witted.  He can put me in check.  He KNOWS I can be the lady to take home to Mom.  He KNOWS I can be his perfect heeled cunt.  He KNOWS I can be his little girl.  He just.....Knows.

Granted everyone is here and looking for something different.  I had resided myself to the fact that I had to compromise, and I have compromised.  By compromising the things that I really want/need/desire, it left me empty and unhappy.

For months, I've sat here and looked at profiles and read emails, and even responded to emails from idiots.  Every once in a while, giving out my Yahoo screen name because I felt that this person MAY be interesting.  Usually, that ended up NOT being the case.

Somewhere along the line, this L/lifestyle has changed.  Thirteen years ago, when I was first introduced to it, people were more respectful.  A TRUE Dominant man or woman, knows that to get respect, one must give it.  That trust, is something that is earned, not just given.

I can't remember a time when a TRUE Dominant has ever said in an IM or Email, "When we meet you WILL get on your knees bitch and suck my dick"!  I really have to wonder if those tactics work.  On the flip side, I wonder how many sub/slaves actually even respond positively to a "dumbanant" like that.  Doormats, sure, they respond well to that.  After all, isn't a doormat something you simply wipe your shoes on?

It stands to reason why any sub/slave with any intelligence, self respect, and a quick-wit, is classified "Not a sub/slave" or "fake".  Consider the source of who is making those statements.  Usually it's some insecure "man" looking for a quick lay or a blow job.  He's simply acting out because you called him on his shit, and told him to fuck off and die.  He feels rejected and feels the need to act out like a child.  Let him cry, whine, and bitch.  The more he does that, the more it enforces the fact that you were dead on with what you basically KNEW.

Truth of the matter is, it's not that we are "Not subs/slaves" or "fake", we simply know an idiot when we see one. What pissed you off, was that we TOLD you that you were an idiot, accept it, and move on. 

A TRUE Dominant isn't afraid of a sub/slave with intelligence, self respect, and a quick-wit.  A TRUE Dominant will nurture her/him to be the best they can be.  Guide them into previously explored and newly explored directions.  Push their limits.  Mold us into the perfect person for Them. 

But again, sometimes it involves compromise.  I'm done compromising.  I know what I want.  I know what I need. I know what I desire.  I don't need anyone to tell me what I want/need/desire.  I'm intelligent enough to know for myself.  That's where having a brain comes in handy.  Really, some of you should try it.  Don't worry about the headache, take an Advil it will go away. ;o)

I'm not sure where any "dumbanant" before getting to know a sub/slave, can tell them what they want.  We all have different needs/wants/desires.  Ours may not be the same as yours, hence why one accepts it and moves on.  To much compromising leads to misery, and eventually the relationship ends.  A relationship that truly should never have started.  If we were all to realize that, it would make things so much easier. 

Lack of communication and honesty play a huge factor in a relationships demise.  If both parties communicated their wants/needs/ desires HONESTLY, it makes things easier. 

It's rare when you come across someone that is on the same page as you are.  If you can share your wants/needs/desires freely, openly and honestly, and find someone that shares the same, grab them, hold them tightly, and don't let go. 

I've found that I can NOT compromise my needs, wants or desires if I want to completely surrender to my Master.   I'm not sure why any Dominant would want anything other than COMPLETE surrender.

After all, if ones needs/wants/desires are all met, does anything else really matter?

"Crawling"

Crawling in my skin
These wounds they will not heal
Fear is how I fall
Confusing what is real

There's something inside me that pulls beneath the surface
Consuming/confusing
This lack of self-control I fear is never ending
Controlling/I can't seem

To find myself again
My walls are closing in
(without a sense of confidence I'm convinced that there's just too much pressure to take)
I've felt this way before
So insecure

Crawling in my skin
These wounds they will not heal
Fear is how I fall
Confusing what is real

Discomfort, endlessly has pulled itself upon me
Distracting/reacting
Against my will I stand beside my own reflection
It's haunting how I can't seem...

To find myself again
My walls are closing in
(without a sense of confidence I'm convinced that there's just too much pressure to take)
I've felt this way before
So insecure

Crawling in my skin
These wounds they will not heal
Fear is how I fall
Confusing what is real

Crawling in my skin
These wounds they will not heal
Fear is how I fall
Confusing, confusing what is real

There's something inside me that pulls beneath the surface Consuming 
Confusing what is real
This lack of self-control I fear is never ending
Controlling
Confusing what is real


By Linkin Park

I'm just curious if anyone else has noticed the rise in....ummm...well hung Doms these days?


It seems to be announced in the first 2 lines of a lot of Doms profiles.  Makes ya wonder, if they think BDSM is about the size of their unit.  Last time I checked, it wasn't.

Apparently the journal that I wrote on 1/1/10 was, misunderstood. 

I stated in that journal that if someone is married and looking for kink because they are in a nilla marriage, to be honest and just SAY SO.  It didn't mean that I, myself, am interested in a married Dominant.

It seemed after that journal posted, every married Dominant male was confessing in my emails how they were trapped in a nilla marriage, and looking for a sub/slave that "understood".

I'm sure there are subs/slaves that DO want that kind of relationship.  That with life being hectic, perhaps want to submit to a strong Dominant with no ties, and no possible future, or just want to play with one Dom. 

Can one really play with the same person, married or not, and have emotions NOT get in the way?  Or is BDSM like what some say, a place where emotions should be left at the curb? 

Please feel free to email me your thoughts.  I'm sure some will even without my saying so.  lol

Laughing At Dom Profiles

Ok, I think its due time for this one.  What is it with some of you Dumbanants? 

Your profile age says you're 57 and your pic is from the 70's.  Who do you think you're fooling?

Your profile says youre 23 yrs old, yet you've been in the lifestyle 9 years.  Yea sure you have, using your little brothers plastic handcuffs at 14 yrs of age, doesnt make you a Dom/Master.

On your profile is just a pic of you sitting there with your cock hanging out.  Oh yea, that's class.  By the way, don't be so proud, it's not that impressive.

Your profile says that you're serious about the lifestyle, yet there's a pic of you and your friends giving the middle finger.  Oh that's SO very mature, and so...Dumbanant.

You rant on your profile and in your journals about fakes, yet, you have no pics or there's a square over your face.  The USUAL explanation is, "well I own a business" or "I can't show my identity due to my job".  Yeahhh righhhht!!!  If your boss comes on here and sees your picture, do you actually think that he's going to DO something or even mention it?

The ONE that claims he's not a Dom or a sub.  Umm so why arent you on E Harmony?

It's like this fellas, any sub/slave worth a damn and with half a brain, can see right through your shit.  With all the above mentioned, is it any wonder why you continue to email the same subs and slaves time and time again?  It's to a point where you  geniuses don't remember who you emailed, so you try again.  Guess what?  We remember you, and have you blocked and that's USUALLY why we don't respond to your emails...we NEVER GET THEM.
Not to mention that when you get NO RESPONSE, that IS a response.  It means screw off, we don't want to be bothered!!

Now, with all that being said, there are a FEW actual, true Dominant men that come here.  So this rant isn't for you.

Take care

I see it's time for another rant.

I only made this new profile due to the fact that my other account was hijacked.  It was a great account.  I had the morons blocked, all my friends were on there, I even had notes as to why I blocked people and why I wouldn't walk across the street to piss on some if they were on fire.

So here I am again, starting over with a new screen name.  It's become apparent that the morons that I had originally blocked on my hijacked account, didn't get the hint when I didn't respond to their emails.  Most of that was due to that handy dandy block button. 

I'm not sure why people rant and rave that they send emails and never get responses.  Most of the time no response IS a response.  It could also be that the age difference is so extreme, that the sub or slave through her mail controls, simply doesn't receive the email.

So again, quit whining, grow up, and please, do us all a favor, if you're soooo sick of this site, feel free to delete your account and simply leave.

No one's keeping you here!

Blocked out eyes on profiles

Why is it that MOST of the "Doms" profiles have a black bar over the eyes?  The eyes are the windows to the soul, or haven't you heard?

I find it comical, that the ones with  no pics, bars over the eyes, or a square cut out over where the face should be, are the ones that type the most about "fakes".

Anyone who's been on this site long enough, knows there are many  fakes, flakes, dumbanants, and flaves here. 

So please do everyone a favor, and stop complaining about the above when you have either NO pic or one that doesn't even show your face.

I've heard the BS about how "You" must remain descrete.  Meaning 9 out of 10 times that you're married.  If you're married and looking for kink, or a subbie because your wife is nilla, just say it and be honest about it!

I do however, applaud the Doms that are real enough to let a sub know, and that are  honest about it.  The rest of you, are just hiders. 

So the next time you decide to post a journal, remember a few things..
1) People judge you by what you write.

2) Make it something worth reading, even if its comical, subs like men with a personality.

3) If all you can do is write journals about fakes, that shows that YOU yourself, may be the biggest fake.  Find another topic.  You are boring, pathetic, and most likely are/have been afraid of a woman at some point in your life.

Stay tuned for more "informative" journals to come ;o)