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Right now, I want to find somebody to hurt and be mean to.
**I have a Master who is poly and who has a primary girlfriend. I also have an incredible boyfriend who is a Dominant Sadist. I guess right now I'm just looking for fun around the edges.**
FYI, if you start speaking to me as if I'm in a D/s relationship with you when I'm not, I will probably stop replying to you. It involves agreement and consent. Not everyone gets it.
And I can understand not having pics on your profile, but it certainly does drastically reduce the chance that I (and many other people, I'm sure) will reply to you.
Submission versus being a bottom is something I ponder sometimes. I tend to describe myself as somewhere between a sub and bottom, leaning towards bottom. But I've had partners laugh at that and tell me it's not true at all, and that I am very much a sub. I am realizing the reason for this is that I'm not generally submissive (in life), but when I feel a real connection to someone, when I really super dig them, I do become very submissive, with a strong need to please. The two things that give me this feeling are knowing, liking and trusting a person and being overwhelmingly sexually compatible with them. On that note, what I want/need in the bedroom is someone who is a real sadist and dominant. What turns me on is to know that someone who likes me and cares about me is also intensely turned on by being cruel to and hurting me. It is not the actual pain that turns me on (thus I decline the title of masochist), but it is the fear, the helplessness and the twisted, fucked up feeling of that person thoroughly enjoying hurting me and making me miserable.
I'm a generally happy-go-lucky (with the occasional woe-is-me moment thrown in), silly, shy but rowdy (?), easy going person. If you are the type who lives for drama and feels like your partner doesn't care for you when there is a lack of drama, I'm probably not for you. I also admit to being a poor oral communicator, especially at first, but I'm working on it. I have a weird mental, but irrational hang up about takling about "how I feeeeel," but I try. It just kinda seems like whining to me. Unfortunately, it seems this sometimes makes me come across as distant or uninterested or something to people.
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