I am not arrogant arrogance is a character flaw.I learned nawa shibari years ago. Thats fun. Some assume I am not attractive because I do not post my picture. I am tall and athletic with dark hair and bluegreen eyes. I amas powerful physically as I am mentally.In my profession clients trust me with their lives and fortunes. They want me to be boring and safe. Tying up pretty girls andgetting rough withthemis incongruous with this notion. Ergo, I keep no photographs of myworkand put none of me online in association with this lifestyle. This way, I control who knows what about me. My whole life is about control those who freely post pictures of themselves online should understand that they are giving up control of who has knowledge of their lifestyle choices. This is something I wont do. All I want are crispy french-fries and an open road. Is that too much to ask?Try to keep up.
Things change. I'm trying not to use profanity anymore.
Well, except for when I'm talking quietly in your ear.
Also, maybe this is somewhat spiritual.
I sent this to a new friend in a letter today and I think it better speaks my ideas on slavery and submission.
"You are absolutely correct when you describe slavery. It's not voluntary. However, the position of a servant often is. So when many people in this life say "slave" they really mean "servant." Some servants are indentured but many are serving voluntarily. That's the truest, deepest form of submission to me. The servant. It's "voluntary slavery" to coin a paradoxical term. But the idea of a girl devoting herself to that extent is simply beautiful to me. In that role she offers her whole being without restraint because she adores her master and trusts him to return care and comfort. She doesn't concern herself with extraneous distractions. She is devoted in the truest sense in that she lives for him. But the feminine, yin service energy is always returned in equal proportion by the masculine, yang dominant energy. And the more one gives, the more one receives. It's the duality that is the generator of all the passion involved in this life."
D/s is a symbiosis. I feed on her submissive energy and she feeds on my dominant energy. It's a very yin/yang thing. Sadism and masochism are obverse sides of the same coin.
It's positive and negative energy and some of us have a higher amperage capacity than others. And like Brian Johnson said, "I'm a power pack."
Seriously, people... is anyone else in this lifestyle honest? My advice: don't believe anything you don't see with your own eyes, and only half of what you do. I have met only 3 people in this lifestyle whom I know are honest; this is getting old quickly.
Don't contact me if you have a problem telling the truth.
I offered this advice to a girl who wrote me today:
Ok, there is no wrong way to do this. Ignore anyone who says there is. Especially the (group name deleted) freaks. Goddamn loonies, they are.
You know what this is all about? Sex.
Yes, sex.
It's not a "spiritual connection to your very soul." It's about you wanting a guy to take control of you and run your life and the freedom and security that brings. It's about wanting to get fucked hard and long and without your permission. It's about getting tied up and the psychosexual implications of restraint. It's about the electrochemical response your body has to pain stimulus.
It's not spiritual. You don't get naked to be spiritual. You don't get your pussy flogged in church. You don't wonder if you should fuck your preacher until after the third sermon. This whole goddamn thing is about sex.
And anyone who makes like there's some cheeseball protocol where you H/have T/to T/type L/like A/a G/goddamn R/retard should be summarily ignored. Anyone who wants you to call him SirMasterDomLordGodWolfsbaneThundercleeseCanopenerAlmightyHooHoo should be summarily ignored. Anyone who pretends that he is somehow perfect should be summarily ignored. Yes, I'm pretty close, but I admit I am not perfect.
Of course you can make a spiritual connection with someone you meet in the lifestyle. And yes, you can find something here that touches you and moves you like you haven't felt before. But this is just a place for freaks to meet other freaks and we can have a good ol' freaky time together. Sometimes you meet a freak whom you'd like to be freaky with forever. Yay you. Knock yourself out. But this is what it is. Enjoy it for what it is.
I got an email today complimenting me on my profile. Here is a paraphrase of my reply and the way I advise any girl I talk to here:
I get two types of responses to my profile; some girls love it and a few think I am arrogant. Those are the ones who just don't get it.
A good sub should be intelligent, caring and nurturing. The man who finds this sub will be the happiest man on earth. But for your sake, be VERY cautious. Take your time. So many girls rush into this because they want it so badly and they ignore the alarms going off.
Always trust your instincts. ALWAYS. You will almost always be right. The few times you are wrong will be well compensated by all the times you were right. (The problem is that many people say they trusted their instincts when they actually contravened their instincts.)
Never compromise. Know that you are worth everything and then give yourself completely to the man who earns it. But for God's sake make him earn it. A sub/slave is bought, and in this lifestyle she is bought with trust and care and devotion.
I am particular and methodical and not looking for anything.
