slipslidingaway

"To believe that we can and must hide the parts of us that are broken, out of fear that others are incapable of loving the parts of us that we cannot love ourselves, is to believe that sunshine is incapable of entering a broken window and warming an empty room."
~Sandra Kring

"We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
E. M. Forster

So, would you walk up to a woman on the street, who you had just introduced yourself to, and ask her "What do you love about being a vanilla heterosexual female?"

Do you really think you would get a great response? Probably not. So, asking me what I love about being a "sub" as the first question you pose is not going to make me want to chat with you.

There ~are~ people here only looking for play, if someone is here for MORE than that? And your profile only consists of your lifestyle likes and nothing more? It really makes you come across as a player and a person who is not very balanced.

Yes, I am a submissive, but I want to talk to the PERSON you are, find out about you, all of you, not just the facets that are about BDSM or D/s.

I know, I know, this makes me "a fake", "a wannabe", "not a twue sub" and "not real". I'm really okay with those labels, because I really only want to get to know others who understand where I am coming from. If you don't comprehend this, the chances we'd be compatible (even as friends) is about nil.

"The face is the mirror of the mind, and eyes without speaking confess the secrets of the heart." - St. Jerome. 

Happy New Year, may 2014 be everything you hope it will be and more!

"You have to take risks.  We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen."  ~Paulo Coelho (I'm ready to fully embrace the miracle of life.  Bring on the unexpected!  The gauntlet has been thrown: a positive challenge to the universe from little old me!).

One word: twitterpated. 

I must say that I love looking at all the profiles of the dominant men who tell you exactly what they want in a woman, but say nothing about what they offer in return.  Guys, you assume all we want is dominance and since you offer it, we should be throwing ourselves at your feet.  It doesn't work that way- as many of you seem to notice (and tend to lament in your journals).  You need to tell the woman you are seeking WHY it should be you that she needs to be talking to.  What sets you apart.  Why you are worthy of her time, her effort, her submission.  Because, there are plenty of you out there all trying to get her attention and as much as you want her to just show up and beg you to take her?  Try fishing without bait sometime.  Most of your profiles are empty hooks...

 “That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending - performing. You get to love your pretense. It's true, we're locked in an image, an act - and the sad thing is, people get so used to their image, they grow attached to their masks. They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And if you try to remind them, they hate you for it, they feel like you're trying to steal their most precious possession.”
? Jim Morrison

The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. ~Albert Camus

“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
? Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
? Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land

Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh

“There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate.”   Linda Grayson

“People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked…The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then on…”   Ayn Rand

A fine quotation is a diamond on the finger of a man of wit, and a pebble in the hand of a fool. Abbé Joseph Roux

The language of friendship is not words but meanings. - Henry David Thoreau

"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power."

—Abraham Lincoln

"I have always thought the actions of men the best interpreters of their thoughts."

—John Locke

We all need friends with whom we can speak of our deepest concerns, and who do not fear to speak the truth in love to us.    Margaret Guenther

"A wonderful fact to reflect upon, that every human creature is constituted to be that profound secret and mystery to every other."    Charles Dickens

“Do you ever feel that way?"
"Lonely?"
I search for the words. "Restless. As if you haven't really met yourself yet. As is you'd passed yourself once in the fog, and your heart leapt - 'Ah! There I Am! I've been missing that piece!' But it happens too fast, and then that part of you disappears into the fog again. And you spend the rest of your days looking for it."
He nods, and I think he's appeasing me. I feel stupid of having said it. It's sentimental and true, and I've revealed a part of myself I shouldn't have.
"Do you know what I think?" Kartik says at last.
"What?"
"Sometimes, I think you can glimpse it in another.”
                                                      ? Libba Bray, The Sweet Far Thing