Well, My new friend turned her profile back on a few days ago. I realized this because we had each added one another to our friends list on here, and when she had turned her profile off, she disappeared from My friends list. Likewise, when she turned it back on, she was back on My friends list.
I messaged her to see if she was ok. She wrote a very nice letter explaining what had happened and what is happening now. It turns out, that she had just started talking to a Dom that she has known for about a year. She wants to see where things go with him.
I was truly happy for her. We had nothing between us that suggested we would EVER be more than friends. Her profile had said she was only looking for friends, so friendship is all I was after. I am happy to have her as a new friend. I personally believe that people should become friends prior to trying to become anything more. If you cannot be friends, what is the point to being anything more? I am happy that she has found someone she wants to be with, and I hope things work out with her new Dom.
She changed her profile to say that she is under the consideration and protection of this Dom. This being the case, I decided that the best thing for Me to do would be to step back and let her focus on her new Dom.
Well, she disappeared from My friends list again, so I checked to see if her profile was turned off, and to My surprise, it is not. I am just not on her friends list anymore. Her profile has also changed again. It no longer says she is under the protection or consideration of the Dom she was talking to.
This being the case, I messaged her to see if she was ok. As a friend, I wanted to let her know if she needed someone to talk to, I am a good listener. She did not reply to My message this time. Instead, this is what she put on her profile “i have no desire to talk to ANY men whatsoever, you can write me all you want, your emails will not be noticed since they will go straight to bulk mail.”
I realize that she may have just been hurt by this other Dom, but it would have been nice to get a response in My mailbox that she does not want to talk, rather than a journal entry saying My messages will be sent to bulk. Yes, being hurt by someone marks U/us all, but we have to realize that we are all different. That just because one said or did something that hurt U/us, it doesn’t mean everyone will.
Now, going back to what I said previously about being friends first, this seems to be a poor example of how to treat ones friends. I hold no grudge, I know that if she was hurt, she needs time to heal. So, when or if she is ready, I will be here as a true friend should be, ready to listen, talk, or just provide a friendly shoulder where needed.
