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Male Dominant, 38, Las Vegas, Nevada
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Male Switch, 25, ontario
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Male Dominant, 31, Orlando, Florida
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About SirZarath
I am basically, oh surprise, just a 'real person' who enjoys a lot of things besides D/s and bdsm. I am an eco-geek, a philosopher, enjoy tinkering with Linux, love to travel and explore other cultures and Asian spirituality. I enjoy seeing movies, especially the arthouse type, good food and drinks, a good conversation, nature, reading literature and a lot of other things.
But of course this site is about 'kink', so 'lets say a thing or two about that. First of all, I have been active in the lifestyle for quite a while now. My major interest is deep D/s relationships.
I tend not to see D/s as 'part of the big BDSM umbrella'. I know there's lots of people who see it that way. But for me D/s is not a 'fetish' nor is it an 'activity' you can engage in. A D/s relationship to me is about who you are for each other: Dominant and submissive. Not just during a scene but in general. In fact a D/s relationship can do entirely without any bdsm type of play. It's a different realm of experience to me. And to me, a D/s includes being a mentor, a teacher, a lover and friend, a ruler, a caring Daddy, a pervert and sometimes even sort of a therapist (although I don't claim any professional knowledge here so I stay on the safer side of things there). This way I can put a lot of my natural 'me' into the relationship.
That being said, I do enjoy bdsm play too. I don't have many very strong fetishes, although pubic hair is definitely one *smiles*. But when it comes to play I can be quite versatile. I especially enjoy shibari bondage, ageplay, humiliation, watersports, making a woman squirt and orgasm-control. And besides that I do have a sadistic tendency. But I only am sadistic in so far as the other is masochistic: the purpose is mutual enjoyment and that also goes for the other fetishes I just mentioned.
I love to be the director of the scene and put the one who submits to me through a rollercoaster of emotions and then afterwards comfort her in my arms. But the play is always a means to an end to me: surrender and a deep spiritual connection. That, however, does not 'mean that I don't enjoy the thrill of passion, control, suspense during play. As a matter of fact, I do, a lot!
In general I am not the typical hardcore strict dominant. I am more the gentle, contemplative, quiet type, although I can be quite demanding when it comes to devotion and attention that I wish to receive from a submissive. Like anyone I have my strenghts and my weaknesses. Sometimes I can be a bit lazy and being disciplined is not my strongest side. But on the bright side: I have a very developed sense of empathy and a patient, caring, nurturing character.
Oh, and did I mention I can be quite poetic? |
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Sometimes I ask myself why the majority of the young and pretty submissive females here appear to be lesbian. That's surely contradictory to statistics. In many cases things are probably not what they seem. After all, anyone can hide behind a profile and the photos you find here. And it's common knowledge that male submissives are often quite desparate in finding someone who'd dominate them. Still it's amazing how far people actually are willing to go, lying about their true identity, winning someone else's trust, just in order to get off. It seems easy to be selfish and insensitive in anonimity. |
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It seems there are some people around here that took an account from some vague foreign fake marriage agency or something. If you send them a mail you get a sort of standardized response in very bad English, that sounds like a marriage proposal, giving a pesonal e-mail address and not reacting to your original mail at all. Oh well ... *chuckles*. |
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Last week I became a member of www..com and found a lot of different high-quality forums on lots of topics. Highly recommended.
I replied to several forums already (which I love to do from time to time) and wrote an article (in Dutch) about the difference between how the terms BDSM and D/s are used in the US and by the VSSM.
The Dutch VSSM is an organisation for BDSM-minded people in the Netherlands, but they seem to stick to very old-fashioned ideas and call everything 'SM', even saying that D/s is just a synonym of SM and used by people who find SM a bit too harsh a term. I clearly disagree with this idea and phrased my objections. |
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