SimoneHefner

Overwhelming thanks to everyone of you who cared enough to ask or try to assist with my heater. A good friend was able to come and get the furnace restored. He will replace the part soon, but in the meantime I am no longer freezing. 

Your kindness and support is very gracious and means a great deal to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am blessed to be in the presence of such greatness and kindness.

Recieved following suggestion "if it is an issue with the "brain" sometimes just turning off the circuit breaker for 20- 30 seconds does the trick".

I did that but then it shut off soon thereafter. I then read the manual. It made no sense except for this led panel. I checked it and there seems to be NO system malfunction.

I thought of something and then changed the filter. Now it will stay on for about 10 min before shutting off. I may have to clean the blowers or something but I can only find them on the schematic - not in real life.

Arrgh. It is flipping -3 degrees with 22mph winds. I am cold. Even my little heaters are not really working. Any suggestions would be helpful. The furnace wants to be on, it just can't stay on. Why??? And what to do??

-9 degrees and my furnace will not stay on. Needless to say, I am very aggravated.

had a lovely session today. looking to meet a couple of subs this week. busy new year already. lots new things added to blog and working on building a larger presence on the web. 

stay warm my pets. It is quite cold out there. Think of your warm your little bottoms could be underneath my paddle. Kisses

I just got a really great question. I added it to my blog but wanted to put it here as well.

• Slut D:Mistress, why are there not at least 100 slaves begging to serve and be owned by You????
• Mistress Simone:What makes you think there are not? They beg but then when reality slaps them in the face they turn and run away. Accountability is not something this little boys are comfortable with. Dreams are far more enticing. Reality has demands

When you address me, tell me your needs and desires. And DO NOT tell me you merely seek to serve me. You have motivations I wish to know them. You are not yet a sub to me and should speak with clarity and dignity. Include your name and what you find appealing and why you think I should be interested. "Hello" and any form letters will be shunned. Also, skip the formality for now and just be a real human being. Humble but real.

A very happy NEW year to us all. May this year bring you the prayers and wishes you have whispered in the dark. May your hopes be fortified into knowledge and your thoughts be turned into wisdom. 

I sincerely pray for peace and joy for each of you. May all that want be found and that you each have the wisdom and peace to know which to cling to and which to toss away. May you be better, stronger and greater and may the world be a better place because of your presence.

May this year, be the best your have every had but only a prelude to the life you have before you.

After the past few days I have been very ill. I have thought about a lot of things. About the tenacity of the human spirit. The depth of ones needs and wants. What is truly important and why. Spending this holiday alone has been a catharsis. It has allowed me to focus and clarify. 

Deciding who should be culled and who shall remain. It turned out a bit easier than it should have been. I am growing more severe as time goes on. Dating, lovers, friends, coworkers and all. Maybe I am just really a loner at heart. Always have been. Tortured childhood and all. Sigh.

Alrighty. I just got a ridiculous response to a simple season's greetings. Therefore I unfortunately will not be wishing anyone individually Merry Christmas. This is a sad little world when one cannot accept niceness for the simple sake of granting it. That is why there is NO Mistress or anything such attached. 

HERE GOES: (to those of you who can receive it in the spirit and heart it is given)

___________________________________________________________________

May your Christmas and this holiday season be full of peace and joy. And if it is not, then do not fret for someone, somewhere is thinking fondly of you.

Search for peace and joy and if you cannot find it yourself then create some for someone else.

Merry Christmas, 

Simone

thought I was great about being who and what I was. Frustration and obstacles are giving me second thought, but I will just carry on and be the absolute best I can be.

The past week I had to cancel 3 sessions due to travel, holiday season and last minute obligations. I was frustrated and disappointed for a couple of reasons but it is best to be understanding and fruitful than to be a spoiled bitch and broke.

When I get an really interesting topic or conversation, I think I will add a blog posting. Also, keep in mind I will from time to time, add some of our conversation as a blog post as well. All matters will remain confidential and I will notify you. (or I will really, really try).

Stay tuned and happy holidays.

It is very quiet today. I can only guess it is because Christmas is upon us. Be safe this holiday weekend. And don't forget me this season. :)

I see that CM has instituted a "verification string". That is perfect and germane to today's topic.

If you are not going to meet with me then please excuse yourself from the game. There are things that I can offer to people who want to have email/text/chat conversations. If that is your thing, then let me know and I can explain it to you. If you are not within 25 miles or so from me, then consider it a long distance relationship and understand the inherent problems.

But if you continue to say that you want to serve, know me or whatever then be prepared to meet. I am not here for penpals. I have some really good people that I deal with I would love to consider you one of them. But we will never really know if you do not connect. And truthfully, not ever meeting will result will in sparks, but, at least the electronic foreplay is not extended for longer than necessary. 

Just as CM requires a Verification String, so do I. Remember I just do not like webcams and that does not count. I would love to talk to you once or twice on the phone but in person is the real test. I can't tell how you can serve me before I meet you. No matter what. I need more. And only an in-person vanilla can give me that.

Good luck in your pursuits and may all of your dreams come true. 

Mistress Simone

My promise to you. If I ever decide to take a SLAVE, he/she is still to conduct his or herself with intellect, grace and precision. That being said, I have no desire for someone who wishes to become a mere puppet. That is not my interest and certainly not my intention.

The beauty of humanity is it's agility. I will not take over your profile. I may suggest or even demand verbiage, interests or otherwise; but, you will decide. I will not be concerned if you are contacting other Dom/me. It you are unsatisfied then simply state as much and we will either work it out or you will be released. 

I demand your attention and affection, not out of duty but out of compulsion. I require you satisfy my requests for they serve yours. If you do not and are insubordinate, you will either be released or accept your punishment. I will not shame or ridicule you. To be without my touch, voice and guidance will be a terrible blow. One that that will cause your own shame and torture.

My wishes for a submissive are that s/he heed my training, take my teachings and fear my absence. You, my pets, have lives. I will not constantly search for you. You will seek me out. I will not be cross if your daily challenges overwhelm your time. But, I am here when they overwhelm you. Be warned that my schedule is filling quickly and your guarantee of a session diminishes with each passing moment.

You have a choice. You will always have a choice. Be with Me or do not. Do not dally with instant messages or constant texts (unless we have that arrangement). Do not expect MY precious time be wasted on foolishness. 

I will take possession of your depths but never your life.

It tickles me when people pretend to not understand the BDSM lifestyle, particularly the submissive side of it all. I believe that to be easiest position and most luxurious. 

It is a position that allows one to freely give. And if it must cajoled out or taken then there is even more freedom. One gives up the need to hide behind proper behavior. One relinquishes their inhibitions and fears like a dirty, sweaty shirt after a long day of labor. 

To be stripped bear and built again. To be molded and shaped. To have that which has always existed be extracted and refined to discover a new and greater creation.

There is no wonder that true submission is the most glorious gift one can give and the most awesome responsibility one can undertake. 

I have succumbed to the pressure. LOL.  Just got a twitter account. YES. No more endless journal entries, just to chatter about. :) 

Changed the theme on my blog. Loving the new look. Check it out.

Greetings on this lovely day. Please let me make this clear. I understand the courtship/flirting appeal of repeated texts and emails. But this is tedious and time consuming. Even if I enjoy the conversation, it should not be a drawn out process.

I do offer a telephone/email/chat service and would love to enroll you in it, if that is your desire. I would be happy to support you anyway I can.

But if you want more, than I need more. A phone call and then a meeting. If these are not things you are interested in, and don't want the above the about service, then please don't be disappointed that your 12th comment is ignored. 

I wish you the greatest of fortune and the best of luck, but I am quite serious about my time. And you should be as well.  

Kisses

I NEED to learn belly dancing. It is lovely and graceful. Seductive and charming. And the clothes and accessories are gorgeous.

My darling ones. I enjoy your questions and comments. I look forward to hearing from you. But I now have one requirement. Do not ask me for anything without offering me the tools and equipment to do it. I need supplies and I want them from you. I will then consider said requests. Gifts are always appreciated at any time as well. 

That being said, cuckolding is not on the table at this time. 

I thank you for your time and consideration. 

Ready to start putting together classes on Sexual Intimacy. I need a location. And where would I promote it? Plenty of questions and not enough answers. Not yet at least.

PS - I do not dispute the results, but that whole switch thing is never how it really works out in the end. And I was surprised, I did realize I was a sadist. Hmm.

You Scored as Experimental

Merriam-Webster: experimental- 1. made or done in order to see how well something works 2. using a new way of doing or thinking about something (category in quiz to scale extremes)

CHAT REQUESTS

I had a great morning with an intelligent, handsome sub with beautiful eyes and an even more beautiful spirit. During our discussion about CM we both agreed the Chat feature leaves much to be desired.

For many reasons, I have just turned off the feature all together. It is easier and more time conscious to use messages. 

Today I shall begin to add My INTERESTS

There is a code and to those of you who are clever enough to check, need not ask Me silly questions.

I will update My Interests weekly. As I discover more, do more and am furthered in my own journey, so shall my lists.

LIVE for It 
Personal Satisfaction and Joys

LOVE It
Love to administer to sub or receive from sub

LIKE It
available to/for sub 

Tolerate
why bother (I don't even want this for my subs)

Curious
Just that, curious, I don't know but I would like to know. As soon as I have the chance to do it, I will move it to the correct space

Dislike it

available to/for sub 

with the right sub things can change rapidly

HATE It
If I hate it then it is a Hard Limit - That is the beauty of being a Dom

HARD LIMIT 
not at all/don't ask

I will neither do nor want done

any changes will be updated weekly

I am not sure if anyone can see this because as soon as I have gathered all of the info that I am searching for, I am hiding this profile. I am tired of the games, of the switches who are tottering between the two. In my opinion most are spoiled and bratty who will do whatever pleases them. I am tired of the insincerity and lack of respect.

I am tired of those who use this as a chatroom and never have the courage to schedule a simple meeting. To those who say they want one thing and are after another. For those who want something for nothing. For those who ridicule or mock others. For those who cannot take responsibility for their own choices. 

I am taking a step back and trying to reflect on what I want and where the best place to do that. 

I wish you all the very best. And pray that all that you hope and dream for comes to fruition in the greatest possible way for you.

With great affection, 

Mistress Simone. 

for those who already know me and I have missed please find me on gmail at my name.

Currently cleaning my bedroom and am surprised how many dirty undies I have collected over the past week. And by the smell of them, I have had a very exciting week. The deep, rich smell of my passion all over them. Wafting in the air. Hypnotizing. 

You will never touch my sweet, wet pussy but you can have the very next thing. My dirty panties. Juice all over them. Well worn and heavy with the scent of your Mistress. 

Isn't it funny that when one is hurt, is brushes off on others. Forgive my curtness but I have lost faith in those here. Kindness is repaid with deception. Decency repaid with deceit. Maybe most really do wish to be treated like shit. Maybe, regardless of what they say, deep down they don't feel worthy of a kind word. They respect those who are rude and horrific, honor and reward those who humiliate them with a hardness of heart, that I never wish to possess. I am strict and stern, but I will never be heartless. 

TAKE NOTE: I WILL NEVER BE YOUR SLUT

I don't want to fuck you. I will not fuck you. Don't ask to fuck me. Don't ask about my pussy. I am not your whore. Either be a good little sub or fuck off. 

Do not try to top me. Do not try to get one over on me. There is nothing I need bad enough to be treated anyway that I do not want to be treated. The absolute audacity.

i show you respect and dignity even when I punish and deride you. I offer you more than just toying with your pathetic body. Do not reduce me to meat, for I never have treated you as such. you may lust but that is all it will ever be. 

I do not have a price tag. 

I will not argue with you. I will not negotiate with you. I will ignore you and write you out of my existence. 

Jimmy Fallon - Ryan Reynolds - Water War

Hey it is not kink but they did say nipples a lot and got really wet. So it is G Rated Porn.

Updating and consolidating my blog. Got the comment that there were too many things going on. I purposely designed it that way. I am trying to show that there is a whole person attached to the kink. Nothing exists within a vacuum. Ask me about it and I will bring you along on my journey.

I am working on developing my presence on the other like minded site. It may be the same, with the same folks and the same issues, but one can never know unless one tries.

RANT

I am not a phone sex operator. And even they get paid. And if you are excited and getting your rocks off, regardless of what we are discussing, then it is the exact same thing.

I am not going to engage in any more discussions aside from purely vanilla without having a session scheduled. Done. Nice is one thing. Fucked is another. And unless I am doing the fucking it is completely unacceptable. I will not allow my compassion and courtesy overshadow my goals and purpose.

To regain trust is a difficult proposition indeed.

Messages and Posts

Starting this week I am going to try and go through my messages and conversations and find re-occurring questions, interesting comments and quotes. I will be posting them as entries on my blog. (ask me about the blog so that you can read it and then bookmark it)

Yes, you may find a conversation between you and I but only you and I will know.  Listen to the accompanying audio journal entry to hear more about why.

*****Audio does not seem to be working. I will it to my blog very soon. Sorry about that.

WEBCAM PROBLEMS

Reading people's profiles and journal entries is a wonderful way to not only gain insight on them but on the general feel of the joys and problems that are being found in the lifestyle and this site.

So, one of the biggest problems that I seem to see is genuineness. And webcams are supposed to be a huge assistance. Well, then I am in trouble. My camera does not really work and I would not use it that much if it did. I am not comfortable with your cyber image and I sure as heck don't want mine relayed all over the place.

If the fact that I don't care to do web sessions is a problem, then I recommend seeking a Domme that is more suited for you. I am not going to fuss around putting make up on, getting suitably dressed and they try to figure out where to look, type, talk and try to pay attention to you all at the same time. I get no joy in having you perform like a trained seal in your living room. I have tried and it is not the same as having you in my grasp. 

I am old fashioned. The telephone has a certain level of intimacy and safety. You can tell me your secrets, fantasies and fears without the deafening silence of my gaze upon you. W/we can prepare, share, train and grow. Yes, it is important you know your place; however, your whole self must be opened to me. 

Had a wonderful conversation with a good friend this morning. It helped my articulate my passions and area of expertise. When people ask me why I enjoy being a Domme, it almost sounds silly and anticlimactic to say that I love helping people express themselves in a safe, sane and confidential manner. 

phone sessions can be so very fulfilling. I love them even better than video and web sessions. 

I love hearing my lovely subs melt from my voice and bend to my will.

Exceptionally irritated. Do not toy with my time. Do not make appointments and then do not cancel. Do not contact me over and over and be a little weak punk and chicken out when I am ready to meet.

Phenomenal. Good friends and a doorway opened. Power discovered, unleashed and harnessed. Bliss. 

BEATING - CORPORAL PUNISHMENT

I make no judgments when it comes to ones kind. But due to who I am and what I have gone through my life, I just do not have the ability to cause real pain to anyone. Especially something as brutal as what that looks like.

I have no problem administering with corporal punishment and do love it. The swift stroke a paddle to your tender skin and the twack of a carefully placed crop to demand compliance. But I unequivocally draw the line at deep bruising, permanent marks and breaking skin.

Tried something yesterday. And while I am grateful for the opportunity and experience, I have learned a lot about myself and my goals. It feels good to have made a conscious decision and after "trying something opposite", I determine that my gut was right all along.  

*I love sensous BDSM and that is all.

*I wish to develop a professional practice

*I want to wear professional attire at all times

*I love my interviewing and screening process

*I will work my business plan.

I had the most wonderful session yesterday. There is nothing like the joy of pacing around a big, strong man and watching him shake with passion and anticipation.

The knowledge a mover and shaker - moving and shaking at my voice and touch. 

It was a great day indeed. 

My home is a frightful mess. i need assistance. cleaning only. obedience expected. plan to spend at least 2 hours.   (if you are good and we both have time, maybe I will give you a little treat).  

First block. Unfortunate. But I am not a middle schooler with a new cell phone. One word emails and those that appear to be written by a horny teenager will not be tolerated. If I cannot get cooperation here, do you really think I will waste my time in person.

THANKS

1. My darling students have completed their homework.  It was well written and thoughtful. 

2. A response to my request was considerate and very forthright. I learned a great deal and what given many things to think about. Throughout the discussion I was able to adjust my opinions by virtue of being having to be accountable to my subs needs.

3. A good man, fully experienced sub with excellent conversation and the perfect attitude. Very excited to have him at my feet.

I cannot express the joy and appreciation about the quality of people that I have had the opportunity to deal with here on Collar me. I find most to be genuine and open. I appreciate the feedback, suggestions and discussions that I have found. They have been most helpful me develop myself.

Through their eyes and comments, I am learning so much more about myself and my needs. And yes, like most of us, I am finding that they run so much darker and deeper than I allowed myself to believe. I am also find that my skill level is not as rudimentary as I initially believed. 

Thank you to all. Good or bad, you are making me a better Domme. You have fueled my passions and opened my mind. 

UPDATED: I am currently in need of a male submissive with an ample package to help with teasing denial. He therefore must be comfortable with being on display to a sissy. He will be trained and used separately for most of the time. Display would mean no more than 3 other people. His purpose in that situation is solely directed to/for the sissy.

RECAP: submissive, bisexual, public, at least 4 Inches, denial/teasing

So very sorry, my darlings. The last couple of days have gotten past me. I will catch up today. Have a wonderful weekend and remember that all is well.

Etiquette Lesson w/ Simone: MESSAGES on CM

YES: Ensure your interests are up to date and that your profile is still current. As we progress - what we want does as well. I and others use this information to determine if we are a good fit. Do yourself a favor and review it often. 

NO: When introducing one's self, please do not begin with only HELLO. This is aggravating and time consuming. We are not in middle school and I do not wish to have to play tag.

YES: Introduce self with why you wish to find out more. State your interests and maybe even concerns. Do not feel necessary to commit servitude. 

NO: Send more messages then requested. Please do not whine or pout. This is unattractive and ensures you will be labeled high-maintenance. Even if begging is your thing. Until a dominant has accepted you as their submissive then you are still in the "interviewing/courting" stage.

YES: Regardless of your level (dom/sub) maintain respect and dignity. No one should expect (or want) full compliance and submission on the first message.  

Dom Rant

Please do not use the title of Dom if all you are seeking for is a mistress. And not just a mistress but a slut. I have nothing against either, but if someone is genuinely seeking to be your sub then s/he is seeking guidance, protection and more.

Any true Dom/Domme would never say that the only benefit a sub would receive is the pleasure of being his sub. 

If you are have a pain/humiliation kink or like rough sex/physical extremes then that is all well and good. But to continue the masquerade of a Master/Mistress is an illusion. There are obligations and responsibilities when someone places themselves in your care.

With Great Sincerity - Simone