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	Who am I? Domina with well over 10 years real life experience Mother of a boy born in 2012 Nurturing Sadist BBW Geeky D&D free, non smoker, non drinker Who are you? Financially stable Interested in/experience with chastity Fluent in English Non smoker (or willing to stop) Preferably 30-45 but I can be flexible if you’re interesting enough. Bear in mind: I'm a parent. I am not looking for one-off's and one night stands. I am open to finding someone to build a life with, if you don't understand the consequences of a (small) child in the house we're a bad match.

Because I am in the middle of a move I have been too busy to log in. Will be offline for a while, until Internet is connected at my new dwelling.
Then I am looking forward to meeting some new people again.

It's been a long while since I logged in last.

Send me a message, make me believe sex and sissification isn't all you need, and we could be a playful match.

Eager to infuse some more kink into my life now that life is settling down again. My little sprout has turned 1 and I have a bit more freedom again.

So my new ad has been active a few days now and I have gotten a lot of reactions so far, but none that really fit my picture.

It's a long search ahead of me, but I am patient. As the Doctor said, water always wins.

I am not a fool. I realize many replies are driven by a desire for a change of lifestyle, and many are also driven by a visa.

I am not deterred by this. If that motivates you, just be honest about it.

I am a Swedish citizen, with permanent residence anywhere I want in the European union. Since I am now residing in the Netherlands, you'd have a visa here. After 5 years you can apply for a passport. It would then be a Dutch one.

Like I said, just be honest about it. Have a plan. Have an education. Be an adult about it. I am not going to do everything for you. You will first arrange everything, and then you will be mine. I have enough work with my own life and my own son, I do not need another uninspired and needy boy. I want a submissive man.

I miss the days when there were restrictions on what kind of pictures you were allowed to post on here. I am so over having some naked guy plastered on the screen in front of me. Some try to "class it up" by putting one of their ass instead. It's not more classy.

Just something that popped into my head while brushing my teeth…

He says “I believe in female supremity. You are a goddess and I worship you.”

Then he says “please humiliate me by making me dress like a woman, and feminize me!”

Does that mean I should feel humiliated by being a woman, walking, talking and looking like a woman? The same woman he two seconds before claimed to worship for her superiority?

(He being any male feeling struck by this bold block of text.)

Also, popular femdom should be about catering to his needs and kinks, for her to fuck him the same way a man would -- with a fake cock, and what’s with all the toilet service?

I have toilet paper! What do I need a dirty bacteria infested tongue near my genitals for, when the whole idea is making myself clean?

Lastly, the real meaning behind the two most common sentences in your average slaves vocabulary:

A common reply after any given question… “I wanna do everything you want me to do.” (Oh yes, write more of your experiences or fantasies so I have something fresh to whack off to!)

After being asked to tell someone about themselves.. “Sure, what do you wanna know?”(I don’t really want to make an effort, but this looks more involved than just writing my measurements and age.)

Maybe these little thoughts will bring you something. If you are a male slave, just get the fuck over it already.

Women and men don’t work the same way. Men want it easy and straight forward, as little fuss as possible. But guess what? This isn’t the fuck about you. It’s about the Woman! We ask questions for a reason. We want detailed answers, and we want to see that you made an effort to reply to our emails no matter how painstakingly many times you have to repeat yourself, and no matter how long time it takes for you to type that reply.

If you want the chance to have an audience with a real Lady, go the extra mile. If you don’t, a snowball in hell has a bigger chance than you do!

I was chatting with a new dom friend of mine and I explained my view on the three main groups of "slaves" on here. There are of course always exceptions (I know a wonderful little exception in Belgium), and many sub categories.
So, of the male slaves there are three kinds, and curiously age (or rather the maturity that comes with age) rather defines them in most cases:

There are the young ones;
they are idealistic, confident, and think they are special. They have a list with things they like, and they don't want to have anything else. I call them "do-me slaves" and they are usually younger than 29.

Then there are the "slaves", they are usually over 38;
They are more realistic and realizes that they have to give a little to get a little. They also feel its is about the Mistress pleasure, and that they are tools for her to use. If they do a good job they are rewarded and they live for those rewards.

Then there are the "fetishists". They are like the do-me slaves, but they are not actually slaves, they just need their fetish fix and then they disappear.

How to best get and keep a Lady's attention online.

1.-     Don't think in terms of "quality" and "quantity" when trying to have her attention. Think along the lines of "pleasing" and "not pleasing".

2.-     Look at the subtle hints. Ladies will try to steer you in the direction of being a conversationalist we enjoy writing/talking with. Ifyou don't pick up on our (sometimes not so subtle) hints we are likely to discontinue the conversation.

3.-     Don't make a Lady behave like a questionaire. It is tiring, and boring.

4.-    Ask questions! And not just "what do you like to do to your slave" and other stupid questions objectifying the Lady and making her feel like all you want is something to wank to.

5.- Be interested, or stop wasting her time. We feel when someone writes us because they are bored, or another equally stupid reason.

6.-     Learn to take no gracefully. If we are not interested (for what ever reason), just accept it. Don't prove to her that you indeed are the small-minded total loser she (probably) expected you to be by sending a letter full with insults.

I like introduction emails. They always explain a bit about the person writing them. At least about their kinks and their perceived needs.

Then starts the weeding process.

Listen up boys. When you already explained about your kinks in your first email and is asked to tell someone more about you, don't just rehash the first email again!
Isn't there semblance of a real person in there? Any interests, ticks, wives you might want to share?

As much as I do appreciate someone taking the time to write a proper introduction email, they all do look pretty much alike.
You have these feelings, you've had them for a longer time. You feel born to serve a a femdom, or believe with heart and soul in female supremacy. You have limited experience or have served so-and-so for so many years. You love foot/shoe/stocking/boot worship and will do anything you're told to do and can take moderate pain.

This site is about bdsm. People interested in bdsm come here. So if you want to stand out of the crowd you are going to have to share something about -you- and not your bdsm.

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