PaintedHeart

Off and back on the market in less than 2 weeks.

Let's get something straight. DO NOT message me if you have no intention of meeting. If you have been in a relationship and are "not ready for another". If you style is more a curiosity than can be a reality. If you have any sort of hangups about gaining new friends or connections at all. If you are about to embark on a major life change, such as moving across the state or country. DO NOT talk to me, set up a meeting for lunch or otherwise with me, and renig at the last minute because of hidden fears, trepidations, or any of the above stated. I'm tired of flakey high-school boy mentality. We are adults, people...get a grip, okay?

I have very specific needs, wants, and desires when it comes to who I will ultimately share all of myself with. Friends, play partners, lovers, and confidants are of course special to me in lots of ways, but one will fulfill the fantasy and reality for me. One will be my missing puzzle piece.
1. My man will be submissive. While I adore someone with fetishes and kinks, he will ultimately be emotionally and mentally submissive. He will think of me above himself always and our relationship above all else. He will seek to devote himself, his time, and anything else he does in some way to better us or me, which ultimately will better us as well. Submission is a state of being, not something you can turn on and off. It will not be "I want you to spank me, I need to be tied up, I love when I'm told to..." It will be "What can I do to make you happy, Love?"

2. My man will be honest and forthcoming with all feelings and emotions and thoughts. He will hold nothing back from me or our partnership. I am the final say in everything but he is always considered as my responsibility and all of his feelings and thoughts and desires are special to me as he is mine. Honesty in all is very important in any relationship, but even more so in one that encompases D/s and BDSM at its base. He will always know he can tell me any fear, emotion, thought, perversion, kink, or idea without penalty, judgement, or ridicule. I am a nurturer and will be his stable shoulder to lean on as he is mine.

3. My man will be romantic, loving, passionate, and will not hold back on his feelings, emotions, or expression of submission in any way. The dynamic will always be there regardless of if we are in private, public, around family and friends, etc. There is always ways to show it where only we will know what it means, exactly. We will exist on a different plane entirely than everyone else in the world. We are our own chess board, we will move our pieces accordingly.

4. My man will accept who I am as I am. I am quirky, sometimes clingy, sometimes girly, sometimes a tom boy. I am fun, witty, intelligent, passionate, loving, nurturing, giving, and a wonderful mom, friend, and person to know. I am loyal and trustworthy. I am too emotional at times and I am too quick to judge at others. I seek approval too much and need more confidence. I am beautiful as a woman and a person and I am not always confidant about how I look. I am a baby when I'm sick, I love to be pampered, I love to sit on laps and be treated like a princess. I am an attention whore, an exhbitionist, and a flirt. I am many many things and he will accept and adore them all even if some make him crazy at times.

5. My man will be intelligent, witty, crazy at times, and be able to have fun with me as well as have serious times together. He will be all I want and more. He will teach me to be patient, teach me other things as well. He will learn from me many things and we will fit together in all of it.

6. My man will accept my children as part of me. He does not have to think of them as his own or even act like a father to them, they have one. He does, however, have to realize I am a mother first. He will be supportive of my time with them, work around my schedule, and even eventually enjoy being around them sometimes. Ultimately even want to live with them. It is who I am and what I need and want and I will accept nothing less.

7. My man will be trustworthy to a fault. I will feel no insecurity, he will seek to be sure of that. I will be built up and encouraged as I would do for him. He will support my schooling and my career and help me on a daily basis with small tasks and every day things to make life easier for me and for both of us. He will be the first one to say "I'm so proud of you" and when I look into his eyes, I will never doubt it.

8. My man will be masculine, hard-working, independent, and know how to take care of himself and me. I do not need someone to take care of me but knowing someone would if I wanted it, is a very wonderful feeling. He does not need to make a lot of money or have great amounts of material items, but he does need to know that you cannot submit to another's control if you cannot control yourself and your own environment. I do not want a project, I want a complete package.

9. My man will be sexual and vibrant. He will share my kinks, fetishes, thoughts, desires, and will make me completely comfortable with him in every way so that I can explore all the things in life that I want to with him and whoever I choose. He will realize it's about my pleasure, that his pleasure will come from that. He will be secure in the knowledge that his place in my life is constant and cemented and will not be angry when I choose to explore with others or include others in our sexual life. He will enjoy my feet, that's very important. I want pedicures, pampering, and constant attention. He will lust after me, after all I am and have. He will need me to be sexually satisfied at all. He will be denied orgasms, controlled, possibily in chastity with me as the keyholder. All of it for me.

10. My man will be handsome and pay attention to how he dresses and his hygeine. He will dress well, smell good, have clean teeth, not take drugs, not be wreckless with sexual partners, and preferably will not smoke. He will drink only socially and take care of his health by seeing doctor and dentist regularly. He is my property, so he must take care of what is mine out of respect for me and for himself. I also, like anyone, appreciate good eye-candy and he will strive to make me proud as I walk down the street on his arm.

These are just some of the many things I'm sure I desire or require in a man. The things listed here are major, the ones I think about most. I may add as time goes on and more come to mind or become necessity. I want the fairy tale and someday I will have that. Until them I will strive to take care of myself and be the best person, woman, mother, and dominant I can be so that when my other piece does come along, I am ready for him.

Intelligence is the most attractive thing in a man. If you message me, please be polite, thoughtful, and informative. You work for me. Show me I should respond.

sick of fakes, sick of jerks, sick of wannabes and insincerity. Sick of getting my heart broken.

Explain to me why it's such a horrible thing to want romance/connection/love/the total package. I can't just meet someone for "fun". I need that spark, that mental and emotional intimacy to bring out my D/s, my dominance. It's directly connected to my female-ness and in that a sense of honor. I can't meet for coffee and a flogging and "no strings, no stress" stuff. Frankly people looking for that are missing out on the kind of emotianal intimacy that can develop in a D/s relatsionship. I have no idea how anybody could really submit to somebody they didn't love and trust. To me that's super scary.

I meet someone, get to know them, see how we click, date them, mentally draw them out, maybe touch them if we connect, and form deep lasting relationships...the D/s comes naturally, intensely, out of care, love, devotion. Does this not exist? Am I the idiot?

IS THERE ANYONE REAL OUT THERE WHO WANTS WHAT I WANT AND LIVES WITHIN A REASONABLE DISTANCE?! SICK OF IT!