Be sweet oh reader, English is not my mother tongue... And why it's not possible NOT to choose any state outside the USA? I live in Denmark, Europe, not in the USA...
"You know, Louie? I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship..."
Do you know where the quote comes from? Oops, no, it's the wrong forum...?here you have to "sell" yourself. Hmmm... let me see... Are you into bla-bla-bla.... no, there is plenty of shopping lists already. What am I looking for? Well... let me put it this way: I'm sick and tired of girls who say they are looking for the Man with the big M, who is not afraid to show his emotions, and when then they find him they run like hell, 'cause they can't handle such a man since they are afraid of their own feelings. I'm looking for a woman who is well aware about her role. One who has made up with herself that she wants to belong to a Master who's capable of abusing of her, exploit her, forcing her to go all the way, a Master who is ready to take the full, absolute responsibility of His slave with no fear. One who seeks a Sadist who doesn't need to show the whip to get what He wants, because the power of The Word is infinitely greater than the whip's. Dominance is a mental condition, not a tool. One who seeks Him who takes what He wants without asking and uses the whip solely because He enjoys it. One who seeks empathy, intensity, depth but who can tolerate proximity, openness, vulnerability at the same time. One who has realized that she exists only to give pleasure to her Master, an instrument to meet her Master's wishes.
I can't concieve BDSM if the physical part is not subdued to and supported by the mental part. Whips can at best create fear, The Word and The Look dominate, respect nurtures respect.
My slave's limits, with time and patience, will be tested and widened. I prefer a curious and creative slave... and she must not be shy about her lust!! I don't command my slave to lower her eyes in front of me, I feel no need for superficial, agreed, imposed, unfelt (if such word exists) "certificates of honour", I detest them. Such things must come from her naturally, not imposed.
She is proud and she is strong, so strong that she can take the worst forms of humiliation that her Master wants to inflict to her. My slave doesn't enjoy pain itself, she accepts it because it's My exquisite pleasure to inflict it to her. My slave knows she will be forced if this Master deems it necessary, and she knows that it may be necessary because this Master has no wishes to destroy, but to grow together, build up together, learn and guide.
"Being Your slave, what should i do but tend upon the hours and times of Your desire? I have no precious time at all to spend, nor services to do till You require"
(The Bard from Stratford-upon-Avon)
There are not only whips and pain in my world ... Coercion!, humiliations, slaps, ropes and other tools will be widely used. The limits will be found, tested, widened with "empathetic ruthlessness ", which is a very difficult condition to describe, because it contains genuine, unadulterated, ruthless coercion, but at the same time compassion, empathy, insight in what the slave feels and is going through. This is to me the most intense and rewarding form of BDSM, regardless of WHAT I do... it is HOW I do it, the way it is experienced and felt by both sides that matters, no less no more. In a certain way I'm actually speaking of? "no limits ". This is not to be understood as "I have no limits", they are out there somewhere, of course ... and this doesn't mean that I am indifferent to the slave's "limits" either... I am not. I will quote (after memory) something I saw in a chatroom: "There are limits, which can be moved, and walls, which must not". I can only agree with that. Let me put it this way: within "the walls" I am ruthless, hard, demanding, harsh, unfair, brutal. Outside the walls I'm human. But beware... if you say you have no limits I will take that literally and only have respect for my own limits, not yours...
A little "side dish"... I have no fetish, but I call myself an ANALFETISHIST... fisting, stretching, mutual rimming... you name it, I like it.
"Shit does'nt just happen. Shit requires time... and efforts!"
(Samuel L. Jackson)
I feel the need to express my opinion on safewords. I don't happen to love them but at the beginning of a relationship, when you don't know each other so well, then they MAY be a necessary tool to create trust and confidence in each other. But when that is built up, then safewords will be at best redundant; at worst they would damage more than they would be of use.
The fact that my Dominant side is a big and inseparable part of my personality doesn't preclude my consciousness about my "softer" side, and I'm perfectly comfortable with that. And frankly... what kind of a man is he who doesn't dare to live his own feelings fully? ;-)
"Sex is not the answer, sex is the question. The answer is' YES '"
(Anonymous)
I'm looking for the slave who is looking for commitment of both sides, a Master/slave relationship that lasts, where there is plenty of space for feelings... even Love...
"I don't want your cunt. I want YOU."
(Master Caesar)
Sincerity and honesty are THE keywords in all aspects of life. I hate meanness, lies, narrow-minded ppl, prejudices, superficiality, stupidity, arrogance... among other things.?
I rather drink water than cheap wine, I prefer to be inebriated by the seawind and a beautiful sunrise rather than by a six-pack... In other words, it is not quantity I'm looking for, it's quality. And BTW, drugs and big amounts of alcohol are not a part of my idea of healthy BDSM. Or life, for what that matters. Take it or leave it. But of course, I do enjoy a good wine or a good scotch... Highland Single Malt... straight ;)
...Then...
24/7 relationship? Well ... I actually don't care about "formulas", I just want to be myself! But what is real 24/7? Isn't it when the Master does whatever pleases Him whenever it pleases Him? That this Master, however, is fully aware that He carries the full responsibility of what He exposes another human being for?
If this is the essence of 24/7 then the answer is undoubtedly "yes, I want a 24/7 Master/slave relationship" ... but essentially I am just looking for the Absolute Rel'ship... where the boundaries get blurred... where two become one. Hard to explain? Well, it can't be expressed in fancy formulas and acronyms.
I hate fast rules, routines that can't be undone. For me it's Chaos, improvisation, the Moment that shapes the day. I am the opposite of a controlfreak. I expect my companion to be mature enough to respect the agreements we make, my life is too short to keep an eye on whether I will be cheated on or not.
There is one thing which is a "sine qua non" for me; I will not get annoyed while I'm watching Formula 1! *LOL* (but I'd love to be served and taken good care of by my slave...)
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? "
(Nelson Mandela)
Was it everything? Well, no... something about your age etc is missing... Right, you are not older than me and overweight is a major turn-off for me. You may be slender/slim/normal weight/slightly plump... it's not + /- 5 Kg from your ideal BMI I'm talking about... it's OVERWEIGHT.
About me... well,? I'm quite harmoniously built, and a hairy chest is not something I miss... ;-)
