Looking2getDom

It seems like a lot of people don't read profiles around here...

I've errased a lot of messages without answering in this past months.

So, I'll say it again and clearly so it can be understood.

I am taken.

And very happy!

So go away, don't be bothering me.

:)

Old, but I'm not that old
Young, but I'm not that bold

I feel something so right
Doing the wrong thing
I feel something so wrong
Doing the right thing
I could lie, coudn't I, could lie...
Everything that kills me makes me feel alive.

Lately, I've been, I've been losing sleep
Dreaming about the things that we could be

Sink in the river
The lessons are learnt...

I have too many massages with the same sort of content. Read this and think before you send me a message (aren't we all supposed to do that, anyway?). Avoid me more spam please.

Age limit:  45.

Both of my parents are in their 50's. I won't be interested in someone the age of my parents. That's weird, and awkward. 

Woman: I am flattered that you have an interest in me, but I will most likely not be interested in you. For girls, I am not a submissive. And I don't want a relationship with one now either.

Messages: I won't be answering messages super fast, I might take three or four times the amount of time I used to take to respond to one now. I'm having too much work in school and will start professional practices soon. Some of you have noticed by now (no, I'm not ignoring you!).

Submissives: I am starting to truly wonder why you are sending me messages. It's amusing. 

I am not calling anyone "Daddy" (seriously, wtf?? If you have Mummy/Daddy/Daughter issues just solve them and move on).

It seems like I have to repost some comments for you people.

Read them again! And before sending me something, or I'll just ignore the messages. 

Don't even bother getting upset and throwing a tantrum at me for not making you feel special and responding to your message as soon as possible.

Grow up and be patient.

I respond to EVERY message, because everyone DESERVES an answer, that's due to education, politeness, attention and consideration.  

That does not mean that I like you or that I am flirting with you.

If I tell you that I am not interested (and I say this in a very polite way) because I am already looking in to someone, THAT'S what it means. Don't bring me your drama of "probably being better", "that's an excuse", "I hope he treats you half as well as I would".

Goodness gracious, no.

And I don't care.  

Are you a man? with balls and everything? Then take my polite explanation as SUCH.

Are you a woman? with ovary, vagina, and breasts? You wanted equality with men? Then you also take it as SUCH.

Just swallow it people.

Don't assume that I'm interested in you, you need to ask me.

"Don't put yourself in the spot". That's the first warning I will give you if you are "assuming" that I will "belong" to you or that I already "do". Examples: "When you are here...", "Send me a hug/kiss", "My sweet loving pumpkin! (REALLY?! WTF!)", "Have you been thinking of me/How many times have you thought of me", etc.
No people, no. It's really annoying. And It makes me want to answer with the first thing that comes to mind, which is mostly irony, sarcasm or annoyance. A rude way, for short.

Limit that will not change???

Degrading my humanity to an object is part of humiliation. That's how I think and feel of it. 

Just don't think, look, call, imagine me as/of an object.

My dignity will not be lowered. No, people, no. 

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I will NOT call you "Titles". No "King, Lord, Your grace, Your highness, Master, Teacher, Daddy or Sir" from the beginning, let alone if I'm not even interested in you. 

Again people... "Don't put yourself in the spot (to be hurt)".

If I think that you deserve them, then yes, I might call you by them from the start.

We are equals before I accept any ownership. :)

Trying to be good enough for someone only to get hurt for it, that is something that I do not want to feel (again). I didn't like it. 

NO CHAT REQUESTS! 

If I do answer one, just enjoy it. Don't have "unrealistic expectations of me", or feel "special" because I will of course talk to you again... I might NOT. Just because I'm being polite it doesn't mean that I am interested in you, ONCE AGAIN, ASK!

No, I won't give you "sweet words" to "heal your broken heart".

For God's sake, you are all grown up's (I hope and expect) and into BDSM! (Inflicting and receiving pain is part of it!! (mostly)). You're Dom's, drink a spoon of your own medicine from time to time. Or two.

SUBS!

Stop sending me messages begging me to be your Domminatrix. Yes, I am aware that most the of the Domminatrix on this website are pathetic and pitiful. I am very sorry for you guys, but NO, I am NOT interested in being a Domme. Yes, I could do a very friken awesome job of being one, but I won't do it because I don't like to order around and I just don't fit that role.

And get some friken self steem in yourselve's while you are reading this. Grow some dignity, will you? 

I've found out that most of the Dom's that have sended me messages are complete Jerks and the sub's sending me messages are complete idiots. You need some balancing there people.

Some of you Dom's... I am very happy and pleased with you guys. :)

Be well for now.

I will soon post other three notes. ;)

And this is how a relationship of a decade came to an end... 

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Don't feel special, everyone is irreplaceable. 

Life got a little bit complicated, I hadn't been able to log in to this website...

So, I have another wonderful 50 or so messages to answer to. 
I'll answer them, be patient people.

But to be honest, CM is leaving a lot to be desired. 

I'm getting bored.

I've been very pleased with few, disappointed with others and annoyed with most. 

The only good news that I have at the moment is that I have a fixed date to renew my U.S.A. Visa. 

I would love to visit Boston again, I loved that city and miss it. :)

Some of my friends invited me to San Diego, CA. 
Hmm... What to do? What to do?
California doesn't sound that bad for a few days.

We'll see...

I should just use this journal, really.

Right now I feel like a baby threw a toy at me. Hahaha. 

When I had a tsunami of 16 full pages of e-mails... I would read the e-mails that had arrived, then read the profile then go back to the very first e-mail that had gotten here and write an answer. 

Someone decided that because I had read his e-mail and not answered back right away, he would send me another e-mail saying that he was sorry that I was not interested in him, blah blah blah.

Making choices for me, apparently. 

I told him that he needed to chill and wait his turn in line just like the other godknowshowmanypersonsthatwerewritingtome.

When I got to his e-mail, it just said stuff about my profile that he was repeting and he only made one concrete request, which was "getting to know me better". 

Okay, so I answered "What would you like to know? ask."

Next e-mail he send said "nothing, good luck" and then he blocks me.

Woooah!!!

Is that supposed to hurt? :O :O :O :O :O :O

Hahahaha!, well... he is probably the 8th Dom Male throwing a tantrum at me. :D

And here I thought I could treat those persons like adults.

I apologize guys, even if you did block me already. 

;)

Just saying.

PEOPLE WHO HAVE SENDED ME MESSAGES:

Don't even bother getting upset and throwing a tantrum at me for not making you feel special and responding to your message as soon as possible.

Grow up and be patient.

I respond to EVERY message, because everyone DESERVES an answer, that's due to education, politeness, attention and consideration. 

That does not mean that I like you or that I am flirting with you.

If I tell you that I am not interested (and I say this in a very polite way) because I am already looking in to someone, THAT'S what it means. Don't bring your drama of "probably being better", "that's an excuse", "I hope he treats you half as well as I would".

Goodness gracious, no.

And I don't care. 

Are you a man? with balls and everything? Then take my polite explanation as SUCH.

Are you a woman? with ovary, vagina, and breasts? You wanted equality with men? Then you also take it as SUCH.

Just swallow it people.

I'm a really really nice woman, and would love to talk to everyone, but I do not take bs from anyone. 

If you want to talk to me, I would be delighted in getting to know you. 

If you send me a message telling me that you want to be my Dom, I will take it in to consideration. No, I don't "just" dich every message with an "automatic response of copy-paste" even if yours was, I write every message that I send.

The answer might not get there as soon as you would like, but you will get it.

But if you send me a harsh message with "On your knees!", "I expect you to... toy, pet, slave", "You will do/serve/act/behave"...

Then you can expect an "I am not interested in you, and now I think that you can fuck off". 

You're warned.

I am a Sub, on my terms. I am not an object, I am a person like you. Not a souless woman or a sack of potatoes for you to treat like crap. Do not call me "Slut", If you've read my profile you will know that I AM A VIRGIN. And last, but not least, I am  not stupid.  :)

This is just basic stuff people. You should know it.

HARD LIMITS THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE:

1. HUMILIATION
2. HUMILIATION
3. HUMILIATION

Read the Hard limits that will never change again.
In a D/s relationship, respect and trust are basic. Humiliation = No respect, No respect = No trust. Just no.

Read the Hard limits that will never change again.

Are they understood? Good.

If Humiliation is one of your "live's for" and think that you can persuade me in to changing my mind, honey, you have something else coming. Don't even bother contacting me if you are this way. I will only respond with an "I am not interested in you".

Even if you send me your "bible of why it's good". I will only delete it.

I have 9 or 10 hard limits, I still have one to define. I will post them later on, when I have a little bit of more time.

I am a sub to: Pleasure both of us, Please both of us, Make both of us as happy as we can, grow together as better persons, and heal ourselfs. I will do everything within me to achieve this.

If you respect my hard limits, you will have absolute trust and control of me.

Try to push one of my hard limits and it's over in that moment. Even if we are only talking.

This is not only about you (honestly, some of you Doms need to stop being so selfish).

Be as honest and sincere with me as you can be, because I will be. I don't have "unrealistic" expectations of you, so don't have them of me.

Tell me of your "I wants" and I will tell you mine. I don't have that many, I'm pretty simple on that, and I think you can live with them. Treat it like a business transaction if you want. :)

This is for educated Doms and sometimes-impatient-rude-uncomprehended-stubborn-and-hurt Doms.

Ta-ta now. 

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All the profiles with background and writting in the same color are really friken annoying.
If you don't want someone to read your stuff, then don't even bother on uploading it. 
It's common fucking education.