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About learning2sub

**I am in a monogamous relationship and not looking for others beyond friendship.**

I am a divorced mother of two teens, originally from central Indiana who is now living in Louisville. I have an empathic soul, a sharp mind and a decent wit. I love to laugh and seek to be positive in whatever I do.

I am a big girl but am actively working at getting healthy.

I desire to let someone else take control in a safe, sane and consensual manner. I do enjoy topping or playing with a Dom/Top if he so desires but I believe myself to be predominantly submissive. This could change as I am ever evolving and find myself curious about cuckolding.

I am very open minded and enjoy heteroflexible men. I understand stimulation (particularly during a scene) does not determine sexuality. That being said, I consider myself a situational bi meaning I will play with a woman as part of a scene but I am not attracted to women nor do I want to be Dommed by a female - period. I do not desire to dominate a man either.

I've traveled around the country, am a former private pilot and airline employee.

I enjoy exploring fantasies even if they are ones never to be enacted. I've taken a fair interest in role playing.

I was brought into the lifestyle by a Dom who has over 15 years in the lifestyle on both coasts. I have experienced, flogging, paddles, swings, the St. Andrew's Cross, the sybian, gags, blindfolds, bondage as well as various anal and vaginal toys. I do not subscribe to the attitudes of many in the local scene that would rather have personalities mandate the entire group.

Please note:

~I am not a pain slut nor am I into degradation or humiliation but I am able to enjoy some variations of these forms of play.
~If you're into the whole W/we Y/you way of conversing that's fine but not something I subscribe to. It takes more than capitalizing the right letters to make a good play partner.
~Be willing to take the time to get to know me, as I do you and build on the chemistry needed.

Though I am new to the lifestyle, I am neither naive or nescient. Respect is a two way street and not given because it's demanded.

I am not interested in married men or those simply wanting a toy. I want to be treated with the same care and respect I would give a potential partner.

I have better pictures and will share in due course.

I'm done.?

Ok talking about yourself in the third person is just weird people.

I'm curious why people do not use spell check when filling out their profiles.

If you say, "I'm inteligent" and spell it like that... uh... you might need spell check.? I understand intelligence can be relative but when trying to attract someone, it helps to have your profile readable.

=]

It's to the point I'm going to give up.

I have no issues merely playing on my own and have been doing it for awhile but I sincerely hoped to find someone I could do more with (outside of straight up BDSM play).

Now I'm not so sure.

Do I work on compartmentalizing when it's not something that comes naturally?? I'm sure I could incorporate that skill on some level but honestly, I can't cut myself off so far I become sociopathic.

It's just not me.

Don Henley said it best... The more I know the less I understand.

Heh.

I am sexually submissive yet I find cucking erotic.? I love being with bi men and participating in play between us all yet I want a man who is sexually more aggressive than myself.? I do not seek someone who wants to include others in play on a regular basis but mixing things up on occasion brings spice.

Is this possible or do I seek too much?? Is it too much of a mindfuck for myself and/or my partner?

I seek a sensual side to BDSM but so many predominately desire degradation.? Am I that unusual in what I find erotic?

*contemplating*

I am constantly amazed the number of doors BDSM has opened up for me - mind, body and spirit.

At the moment I am on hiatus from actual play however, it still affects me though I am not entirely 'active'.? It's hard sometimes because I do crave being bound, blindfolded and played with.

I am working hard at patience.

I was reading the profile of someone who took great pride in breaking and conditioning a sub/slave to mold her into what he wanted her to be.

Gotta love the abusers who hide behind the title "dom".

Does anyone else look at these photos, read the profiles and go... wtf?

It's rather frustrating trying to find a certain kind of experience.? Few seem to understand the mental aspect of BDSM and seem to focus solely on the physical.?

The biggest part of the journey is mental. There's nothing wrong with enjoying just being into 'kinky sex' but I seek something deeper.? It's not about discipline or telling me what to do.? I do not submit because you demand it.? I submit because I want to and because he's giving me something I crave. I will do what is needed for my growth and his pleasure.? It's not a one way street fellas.

When you can wrap a person's mind and body into trust and respect the rewards for both will be beyond what either can imagine.

Anyone else notice a lack of new blood to this site??

Ever have those days where you feel like you're wearing ILuVmORonS fragrance?

Don't fall in love where it's not wanted.?

If you dance with the devil, you don't change the devil, the devil changes you.

That is all.

To the controlling wannabe Doms who are using D/s as a way to abuse... your time will come.

Much has changed for me.? I no longer play with the one that brought me in though he remains as a friend and confidant.

Another I enjoyed prefers head games over play.

WTF?

Things really don't have to be this hard.

Really tired of wasting time with those who do not appreciate what I have to offer - vanilla or otherwise.? We only get one shot at this life.? Why do I need to waste it on caring about those who have little regard for me?

Rather annoyed with people claiming they have experience or cannot give a reason as to why they are a Dom.? Just be honest!? If you don't have experience that's fine but be up front about it.

Very hard to find the level I crave so far into the bible belt. :p

Things are not always as they seem...

Truer words could not have been spoken.

Crisis averted with one - hell, it never even existed.? Got to meet with him and find him very affable.

The other however will not be fixed.

After making another attempt to talk with my friend, I've decided it's not worth being crucified over and over for her to forgive me. I have humbly asked for forgiveness, tried to make amends but she wants to brow beat and lecture at every turn.? I could deal with some of that if it were not for the fact she doesn't heed her own advice.? I have a hard time respecting someone who does not 'practice what they preach'.? Granted we all fail at this now and again but to have someone tell me I am not entitled to feeling sad because it's "just online" - when they themselves recently grieved over the loss of someone via the internet - I can no longer listen.

I wish her the best and hope she finds what she is looking for.

I fear I have screwed up something before it ever began.? This lifestyle is so new and so confusing sometimes... it causes some strong emotions and I wasn't sure what to do with them.? Unfortunately, I didn't "stand still".? Thought too much and reacted too strongly.? I regret it happened and am sorry for the outcome.? Not sure what to do now... I miss my friend.? I pray my friend will forgive my faux pas and that this is a matter of adjustment.?

Nobody knows what they are doing in this life - nobody.? Instead of allowing that to paralyze me, it has in fact liberated me. It has leveled the playing field, so to speak.

So with that in mind, I go forward to whatever awaits...

?A man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking at him in his eyes & asked, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to explain, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of himself. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her speech, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, I'm worth a lot.

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