LadyDinTx

A submissive is defined primarily by his deep-seated desire to serve and please another, while feeling loved, cherished and cared for.

Want to know what makes a "good submissive?" It is someone who finds joy and fulfillment in pleasing, service to, caring for and taking direction from the right person.

Knowing yourself is the singularly most important thing you must accomplish before even considering entering into a D/s relationship or adopting a BDSM lifestyle. There is a huge difference between the BDSM activities that are a casual part of the Saturday night kink that spices up your sex life, versus entering into a D/s relationship or adopting it as a way of life. There’s nothing wrong with either, but you should just be sure never to confuse the two, and ensure that when you transition from one to the other, that you do it with your eyes open.

I consider Domination/submission to be what happens in your head and heart. It’s all about how you love, and how you express that love. BDSM is more about what physically happens between you and your partner or playmates. It’s something you do.

I'm just spent several hours taking out the trash from here...the liars, phonies, fakes, wannabes but most of all...all those that just want to talk about what they will do or not do...like they think I am here to feed their wank.

if you havent been blocked then you still might stand a chance...maybe. I do turn most of what I block over to the sub mentioned in my profile and I am considering starting my own blog here in the journals so all those that are a waste of time can be exposed.

Have a good day...

Men must understand that the world revolves around Women. It always has! 

What is "service"?

What is "service"?

What do you mean when you offer to serve?

What do you mean when you offer to BE of service?

What do you mean when you offer yourself in servitude?

Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of you being bound
helplessly while being exquisitely tortured, teased to the verge of orgasm?

Do you envision some Amazon Goddess sporting a huge strap-on taking
you anally?

Do you envision yourself prancing around in some French Maid Costume
and being asked to provide oral service to a Mistress?

Do you envision some woman sqatting over your helplessly bound
body "forcing" you to serve her orally?

Or do you envision being put over her knee and spanked like a naughty
little boy?

Yes, nice visions aren't they? However, not one of those visions is
the definition of "serve", "service" or "servitude".
Oh, I'm sure many subs consider them to be just that, but if you
check your dictionaries you won't find any mention of French Maid
Costumes, bondage, strap-ons, oral sex, or any other fetish you may
enjoy. In fact you won't find any mention of fetishes at all in the
definitions

• Serve is defined as:
1. to work for, be a servant;
2. to act in a specific capacity;
3. to place food before, wait on;
4. to be of assistance to.

• Service is defined as:
1. the occupation or duties of a
servant;
2. the act or means of serving;
3. duties performed as an
occupation.

• Servitude is defined as:
Submission to a Mistress; slavery.

When you offer to serve a FemDomme, what you are offering (or should be
offering) is the surrender of your control.

You should know her well enough to trust her with your life. When you offer your servitude to her, you are telling her that you trust her judgement, you trust her
to keep you safe from harm, you trust her to know what is best for
both of you, you trust her decisions and desire to follow her orders
and obey her in all things.

Your offer of service is your ability to let go of your ego and your
free will (control) and allow her to control you.

Serving is, first and foremost, the act of making her life easier. It
is compliance with all her desires, wishes, orders.

Yes, BD/SM and fetish play, more than likely, will be included as part of the
relationship. But overall, the D/s aspect of the relationship will be
where you have turned your control over to her and you do as she
says.

It is about pampering her and catering to her.
Everyday life will be a part of this, for most people do have to
work, bills do have to be paid, people need to see doctors
occasionally, and dentists. Then there are family get togethers,
family emergencies, social gatherings with vanilla friends and also
with D/s friends. For the most part, life will seem pretty vanilla,
but there will be one difference.

IF you have truly submitted, then your actions will be measured by how your Mistress would feel about it. Your decisions will be based upon what you are allowed, or not
allowed to decide without her permission.

You will treat others with respect, but especially other women. You will consider that your actions would reflect back upon your Mistress, and therefore act in a
manner that would make her proud of you.

There may be other constant reminders, she may insist you wear panties under your clothes at work. But you will always remember that you have submitted to her and
will honor that commitment.

How can you serve your Mistress - what are the ways?

Here are some suggestions:
-Make sure her home is clean and neat.
-Make sure her clothes are clean and neat.
-Prepare her favorite foods for her.
-Prepare her bath.
-Rub her feet after she comes in from working all day.
-Offer her a massage if her day was very stressful.
-Offer to do her manicure and pedicure.
-Have her favorite music playing or find her favorite show or movie on TV.
-Surprise her with flowers.
-Serve her coffee as soon as she gets up in the morning.
-Ask what clothing she wants laid out for her.

These are just a few of the ways you can serve her once you have been
trained in what she wants and likes. Don't be afraid to use your
imagination to surprise her (provided of course that she has no
problem with you doing this occasionally).
A happy, contented, pleased, relaxed woman is a woman who will then
have no problem torturing you, using you, or even indulging you with
a fetish or two that are your favorites…………just to show you how much
she really appreciates your service and submission to her.

So, what are you offering?

Personal service only (oral, massage, bathing)?
Play sessions only (spankings, facesitting, strap-on, whippings,cbt)?
Domestic service only (household chores, errands)?
OR are offering the whole package?
These are the things you need to be clear about in your own
mind first and foremost before approaching a Mistress and offering
to "serve" her. Along with how committed you wish to be to the D/s
relationship, if at all.

MONDAY...7/30/12...new pics added...:)

WTF!!!! Can someone please explain to me why we Domme's recieve these big long copy and pasted emails from subs declaring their undying devotion...what they have...what they are willing to do and how they want to be taken AND when the Domme clicks on to reply...their profile no longer exist or is inactive.

I have to wonder sometimes if it isnt just BS generated by the site to keep us here.

It's interesting that on the internet you can choose to be anything you want to be but even more amazing that most choose to be STUPID!!!

This is for all you young, wannabee Domme's...until you have walked a mile in my shoes...don't be a hater....LMAO

Did your mother never teach you that if you couldnt say anything nice... not to say anything at all.

And yes you little buckeye bitch...I BLOCKED YOU!!!!! How dare you offend a total stranger in any such way. GROW THE FUCK UP...little girl. It is idiots like you that make it hard for the real deal to be found here...

Every notice how rude it is to delete unread emails? I see so very few profiles on here that appeal to me and when I reply just asking a few simple questions...they are deleted unread.

It really makes me wonder about the sincerity of the submissive with a profile with his laundry list of needs or what he claims to be. Until you subs learn that this isnt about you ...you will continue to go without a lifestyle Domme.

Such a pity there are so many here that fall into that category...

Well what a mistake the "Wall of Shame" was...you sniveling little bastards do nothing but delete your profiles...change your names and come back with more of your bullshit games.

I will soon be relocating to the Magnolia Tx area and it is my priveledge to have become acquainted with a couple of other Domme's in that area so we are looking to tag team you naughty bois..............................lol

Another leg of my journey in Dommeland is almost to an end...I can see a crossroads ahead...now to make the decision to see where the next road leads. I am loving this big adventure and will be back on the look out for more subs and what lies ahead :)

Good evening readers,

     I know...I know... my profile has changed. Although I am on hiatus for my own reasons I will still be coming back here to express my feelings and thoughts.

Does anyone get to the point of being overwhelmed and just plain exhausted by the games other people try to play?  People never cease to amaze me...ha ha.  My question is...if the people who have profiles here and on other sites like this had to go thru an extensive investigation of who annd what they are... would there be 1000's upon 1000's of profiles here? And speaking of profiles...why oh why... does a person feel the need to have more than one profile here? Could someone please answer me that? Does the site run on the number of profiles that are generated here? You can change up any of the search criteria here and you will find people that havent even logged in for up to 3 years...why are the profiles even here? I would love to be able to crawl into the inner workings here and be able to use the deletion tools to clean house.

Well enough dwelling on the negative because somethings never change that is the whole point of taking a break ...I will not be one of those "fail to thrive" babies although I know I have yet a lot to learn...I continue to GROW ! ! !

What a day!!!! LAUGHING MY ASS OFF!!!!

I was first going to get on here and write up the story of another "troll-tard" on here that was a waste after 2 or 3 emails with the deletion of my last email as going unread. I guess what I had previously said rang true and hit to close to home or the light bulb came on that gave him the recognition that I saw thru the arrogance. Dayum I love it that I have a stringent culling process. Its just to bad I cant filter ALL the garbage here.  

HA HA!!! to have lived for another day

Ok kiddies...it time for a new entry...this one is about respect and consideration...

If we ... by a sheer chance in hell...happen to be exchanging emails thru out the day and you disappear on me for more than a day or 2 without showing a real interest in getting to know me or meeting me in realtime ... don't be offended when I ask you the same questions I may have already asked. Its very unlikely that I am going to remember who you are without referring to some past details.

I try to keep notes on you bois but you can imagine the tree that gave it's life for you when I have to pitch a piece of paper in the waste basket because I became disenchanted or lost interest. And yes I do keep notes...just another weeding tool I use.

READ THE PROFILE...I can not stress this enough!!!

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I've had an interesting 2 days of conversation...YES I did say 2...that's T W O.
Merely conversation I tell you!...and then this is the conclusion I got in an email...

"your life could have been completely taken care of but you want a guy you see once a
month and a guy that XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX. With me you could have been in heaven but it wont happen now Good luck and i wish you all the best play with them and enjoy"

This has been the debate of subs vs slaves and a "slave" seeking ltr...24/7...total TPE
of all their worldly belongings...and the desire of being collared ... that couldn't
handle the fact that I have subs already and that the relationship would remain poly
until I was ready to commit to that one true slave that earned the right to be collared.

And by poly I DO NOT mean sharing the same household at the same time...or even subs playing together. And PLEASE dont get me started on what a slave thinks he has the right to demand from a Domme. If he has the willingness to call himself a "slave" what rights does he think he has...that isn't my definition of what a true slave is.

There was an essences of jealousy written all over it as well...my subs are not jealous
of one another nor do they compete for favor and that's just the way it is...so why would I give up a well rounded, obedient stable of 5 that fulfill my wants, needs and desires for 1 who wishes to have "his" wants, needs and desires met? A total stranger to me.

Was it/could it have been a blow to his precious male ego or just plain and simple wishing "top-from-the-bottom"?

For you boi's that don't know the difference...just ask me because I certainly can share
it with you as to the way I see it and expect it to work for me...AND another thing for
you boi's that...think...assume...or fantasize about this you would be dead wrong again...not that I have to tell you but this has nothing to do with sex at all!!!
So in closing give it more than a passing thought and ask yourself...

Which am I...sub or slave???

Now that I have a newly accquired laptop and internet service gifted to me by a sub who is under consideration this will make my life much easier. I can put my thoughts, rants and raves here lol I am amazed at the difference it makes. After having to use my cell phone since being here i had an amazing ton of junk. My sent folder has dwindled from close to 80 pages down to about 10...after perusing many a page there was plenty of deletion not to mention what had gone into the bulk folder.

It was a refresher course in how to deal with the  the wannabes and the do-me subs...plain and simple. I tend to be having a loving relationship with the delete button and the block button lol