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Female Submissive, 26
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Transgender Submissive, 27, Charlotte, North Carolina
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Transgender Switch, 24
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About kryssaira
Decided it was time for an update and change..
Since it seems being 'subtle' isn't working I'm going to be blunt.
Just a few vital facts first:
1. I am a sub, not a slave, and I have no intention of ever being one. I will concede that someday I MAY find a Dom whom I can fully give that trust and control too. I do not find arrogance or entitlement of those who insist "i will make you my slave" either appealing or interesting, in all seriousness I have and will block those who do it repeatedly.
2. I'm straight - period. No I'm not "bi-curious", women turn me off.
3. I'm not into pain - spankings, light biting, scratching, okay. beyond that, look elsewhere.
4. I don't share - No i don't want to join your harem, or be part of a poly household, don't waste either of our time asking.
5. I'm not here to be abused, humiliated, degraded or cursed at, if this is your style, please move on.
6. I DO enjoy light bondage, I love the feeling of being tied up and helpless to the whim of one I love and trust completely.
7. I do want a true Master, not one who "plays the role" when the mood suits him, or if he's bored or wants a reason to be 'abusive'.
8. No I'm not interested in "hooking up". I won't meet someone I've talked to a handful of times through messages and no you are not welcome to "stop by".
Perhaps some might find this little list offensive, or out of line... too bad. Part of the purpose of this site is for everyone, subs included to find the "right" person for them. I've noticed alot of subs are very vague or unclear about what they want/expect from a Dom. How can a Dom possibly know if you're the "perfect" sub for them if you don't know what you want/need or will or wont accept?
I'm really not into the S/M part of the lifestyle, and I don't believe any of that is necessary in a loving D/s relationship. It's about serving someone you love and respect and obeying them because they're happiness is everything to you.
I want a Dom who's interested in Long Term, permanent commitment. A life together as companions who support one another through good and bad. That I can have an intelligent conversation with, laugh at jokes, enjoy every day of not being alone, to pamper him and care for his every need.
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Totally redid my Profile description... figured it was time. Big question will be if anyone actually pays attention to it. lol... Was pretty clear this time of what I"m not looking for. Jack and I still talk, but things have kinda.... slowed down. Admittedly far more my fault than his... He's sweet, funny and I've come to care alot about him, but the distance is beginning to be a factor. I'd like to go visit, but i really dont like the idea of a LDR. Starting to bounce around idea of transfering up to the college in Madison, since I'm thinking of changing my major and Gateway cant give me the classes I need. I'll talk to Jack later and see what he thinks of the idea. :D |
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Just a quick update to say things are going well with Jack.? On the ironic side of things, when I was actively seeking a Dom I barely got a few nibbles, now that I am essentially "taken", messages are much more frequent. I find it odd that Dom's would show interest in a sub who has made it clear they're "off limits"...? perhaps it's the male trait of wanting what they know they can't have.?
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It seems the Fates have spoken. :D?
A random message that said "hello", has become something special. A budding relationship that has given me hope, stirred the imagination, and warmed my heart. Jack is all that I'd hoped and dreamed for. I pray that I can be all that he desires of me.
We have started down a path, the twists and turns, the decisions and choices we make will decide how this chapter ends, or if it goes on to write a story.
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I think it's time I give up on even trying to find a Dom. I'll still respond any messages and keep an open mind, but I'm no longer actively seeking.
Apparently my expectations are too unreasonable to be realistic. It would seem that there aren't any Doms who want a serious LTR, with a sub who is only happy when pleasing her Dom. Okay, so I'm not into pain, or polyamory, but I hadn't thought that was such a big deal.
Guess I was wrong.
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I've come to the conclusion that when it rains it pours. One Dom who's simply a good friend tried to surprise me and "drop in on me" at a place he knows i usually hang out, was disappointed that of course today i wasn't there. and my "missing" Dom, whom i've been alternately concerned about and mildly annoyed turns up and wants to see me tomorrow. :)?? it's nice to be wanted but an example of why i get frustrated. Finding a Dom is hard enough without all the confusion and craziness. i'm pretty certain i'm going to offer my submission to the Dom i've been talking to for some time now, but one of my biggest concerns is his tendancy to? randomly "disappear" for weeks at a time. i don't know if i can be commited to someone i may not hear from for extended times.? i guess i'll just have to see how it goes.
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I've found that for every Dom who's profile complains about "wannabe" subs/slaves, or pretenders there are at least as many fake Doms.? There are those who seem to simply be playing a game, those who say they're a Dom but act more like a sub, those who believe being demanding and rude is being a Dom, and a multitude of others... There are some true Doms as well, and i've been very fortunate in that i've been honored to meet them. The hardest part is believing you've found one whom? you can trust and begin to get to know, only to find out you've been lied to, misled and that all your hopes and beliefs were for nothing.? I'm very new to the lifestyle and still learning the rules and protocals, but since i've been told repeatedly that the most important aspects are trust and respect i'm having trouble understanding how a Dom can violate one or both and simply brush it off with an attitude that seems to be "I'm the Dom, get over it".? Just to clarify, i have feelings, i do care, i do expect the same respect and trust from you that you expect from me. Making plans to meet/get together then "disappearing" without a word and no contact for weeks then suddenly reappearing is not the way to win my trust or respect. The same goes for making plans then coming up with excuses at the last minute. I would never presume to do either to any other person, whether they're a Dom or not. It's rude and inconsiderate, and i find it hurtful that this has happened more than once, and with more than one Dom, and the attitude seems to be "so what".
Maybe i'm out of line. Maybe i'm confused about how things are 'supposed' to work.? Maybe expecting a little common courtesy is unrealistic.
Maybe someone can help me understand if i'm out of line, or if i'm justified in my feelings. i'd appreciate any input on this situation.?
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I've been on CM for 7 months, brought in by one I trusted above all others. He proved to me that even the most sincere and "true" Dom isn't perfect and can violate one of the most basic promises a D/s makes in the relationship.
However, I've also had the good luck to make several very dear friends,? found a Dom I'm seriously considering offering my submission to, and another who has become a good friend, confident, and would perhaps be more if he was looking for a sub.
I'm very new to the lifestyle, and have gotten a great deal of wonderful advice from both Doms and subs.? It may have taken me until this stage of my life to find this part of myself, but I'm very proud of it, and who I am. I may be uncertain as to what is expected of me sometimes, but I do not doubt for one second that this IS the life for me. That serving a Master and being owned will fill a long empty place inside me.?
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Female Submissive, 18, Stockton, California
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Transgender Submissive, 35, monroe, mi. area, Michigan
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Female Submissive, 19, fresno, California
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Female Dominant, 54
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Female Submissive, 33, Bimingham
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Male Switch, 19, Halifax
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Male Dominant, 42, Madison, Wisconsin
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Female Submissive, 31
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Female Submissive, 38, ftw, Texas
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Female Switch, 23, Rotterdam
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Transgender Switch, 34
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Male Submissive, 18
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