TL/DR:
BDSM is part of me and not just an in-the-bedroom thing
- if you're looking for a toppy-type, please look elsewhere, thank-you kindly.
Currently tire-kicking mostly (in hopes of finding intrigue)
In terms of kinks/feishes, I am particularly attracted to rope, impact, and power exchange - I refuse to refer to any of these as "play"...
For me, it *does* matter who is doing the hurting, but I struggle to predict which online characteristics equal someone I will mesh well with off-line. Whilst kink-compatibility is obviously important, when the chemistry isn’t there even the closest matched fetish lists will result in an experience I liken to beige.
Although online compatibility is nice-to-find, it isn’t a great barometer when I am involved; the TiH/1950s thing definitely appeals, but an endless supply of baked goods appears to be mandatory for this particular brand of BDSM and my cooking-style is... "dodgy" at best
And, whilst I may mock Gor at times, my mockery isn't 100% authentic I'm afraid - however, as a litmus: I am not of the slashy-brigade.
Prior attempts at topping have tended towards the absurd* frequently via fetish-combinations, which have (reportedly) "ruined" the long-cherished kinks of so many foolhardy s-types... so, my right-side-of-the-slash proclivities are probably A. Good. Thing. for all concerned.
*For the record, I would hate to be topped by someone like me; enforced-Christmas-tree is not my thing at all. I really don't understand why on earth people have let me do this stuff to them - unless my manic cackling is significantly hotter than I’ve been led to believe…
