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 http://www.collarspace.com/htmlarea/smileys/0161.gif" align=absMiddle border=0>Pass it on>>>>>>>>>>>
i read journals here often discussing movies or music that are just stuck in P/people's heads. i guess i'm having one of those days except its not necessarily a movie but the premise behind the movie, the theme if you will.
The theme was that what you throw out into the universe comes back to you. i've seen that movie probably 50 times and i always cry. The thought of people actually being nice to each other, accepting one another, and being able to accept themselves is very emotional to me.
We as a community used to "pass it on" all the time. What happened to the times when a community heard that a neighbor needed to harvest his crop and 50 people showed up with tools, materials, a picnic and willing to help? Maybe we don't have crops to harvest anymore but would it be such a bad thing that when we hear that SirA has a plumbing problem in his house that 10 or 12 or more of his friends show up tools, materials, a picnic and willing to help?
i can hear the objections already: 1) Who just shows up that's inconsiderate...Some coordination would be necessary, yes. But in that negotiation its important to make known that "No" is not an option, its simply a matter of when because most of the time when someone having issues is asked if they need help they say "no" so that they aren't imposing. Have you ever thought that you are actually robbing your friends/familys of an opportunity to "pass it on" when you don't allow them to help?
2) Doesn't that leave you open to being taken advantage of? For example: subB is ill for a couple of weeks and needs her lawn mowed. A couple of her friends come over with lemonade and mow her lawn and continue for several more weeks mowing the lawn. subB is feeling better but continues to allow everyone to mow her lawn while she sits on the porch and watches.
Yes, you're being taken advantage of and yes, you have to change the situation but jeez does that mean you NEVER "pass it on" to that person again?
Let me just say people,that there are always going to be people to take advantage of you. W/we in the BDSM community have the luxury of punishing someone that screws up but frankly wouldn't we all just be much happier if we tried "passing it on" everyday in every way. |
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http://www.collarspace.com/htmlarea/smileys/0027.gif" align=absMiddle border=0> It drives me nutz that people in general don't have the simple courtesy that if they are not interested to simply respond with "No Thank You". Is that really too much to ask.
Let's be honest here, W/we are all very busy people and most are iso an addition whether it be an addition to their poly home, an addition of a Master, an addition of a submissive, etc. W/we take the time out of O/our busy lives to express an interest in someone and then nothing...the deep, dark space of wonder. Wondering whether we pissed someone off, wondering if we offended someone, just wondering.
Please, please use the simple courtesy of a stock reply! Honestly, it says something about Y/you as a person. |
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