Junction

Who am I? I am 43, 6'1, 225 lbs (reasonably fit with just a few extra pounds), of average looks, and reside in NC. I am a dominant, not a sadist. For me, this is not a lifestyle, is it simply who I am, have been, and will always be. The concept of a vanilla relationship is foreign to me, my few attempts at dating in that world did nothing but reinforce the knowledge that I do not belong there. While I have issue with many people's use of d/s terms, and the lack of clarity they communicate, they are what we have to express ourselves in this medium, and I must therefore attempt to use some of them to describe myself and that which I seek.

To say that I have over 20 yrs of experience is both accurate, as well as deceiving. How much experience do you have in being yourself? And what does that really mean to anyone else? I do not subscribe to the social aspects of lifestyle gatherings, nor am I active in the d/s community in general. If you go looking for any mark I may have left in those social circles you will find none. I have had 4 distinctly different long term d/s relationships (with a smattering of short term ones in between). Two of them were dom/sub (3 yrs and 9 months respectively), and two were permanent (or were meant to be) master/slave relationships (15 yrs and 15 months respectively). As such, I believe that I am well versed in the mental aspects of d/s relationships and am reasonably skilled with a wide range of the physical aspects.

What I want is a depth of emotion and physical intimacy that most people will never know, a life in balance, harmony, the perfect connection of a man and his woman. My dominance does not begin or end in the bedroom. I am not interested in finding a play partner, an online sub, or a long-term long distance arrangement. My desire is to find a live-in 24/7 submissive, culminating in a gradual journey from submission to enslavement. If you take the time to get to know me, you will find me to be a firm, patient, caring and loving partner. One who rarely feels the need to raise his voice, is intensely loyal, and fiercely protective of those in his life.

What you look like is far less important than who you are, though I am generally attracted to more petite females. You should be an intelligent, creative, and loving woman, capable and self-sufficient and yet desiring to yield the fulfillment of your needs to the authority of another. You must be capable of complete honesty, as I will accept and give nothing less. You must and I will be capable and willing to share completely of your thoughts, desires, dreams and concerns, as full and open communication is the cornerstone to any successful relationship. Your submissiveness should extend to every aspect of who you are, not limited to just your sexuality. You must enjoy nature, dogs (as pets, I have 2), and be open to exploring the sexual desires hidden deep within your heart. Though I have no children of my own, I do not mind if you do. I am fond of and experienced with children and am open to the possibilities of a d/s life that also includes normal family time

I am far less concerned with your d/s experience, than I am with your ability to be an honest, active participant in the relationship itself. I’m perfectly open to you being anywhere from an open minded virgin, to wild eyed slut, from please don’t hurt me to moderately masochistic (I do not typically mesh well with those who are truly pain sluts, while I can be sadistic when necessary, it is not my general nature). I am not into public display, public humiliation, or sharing as well as the standard (kids, animals, scat), anything else is negotiable.

I still firmly believe that the fairy tale can come true.

If you truly desire a deep and abiding love, intense passion on a solid foundation of trust, if your submission means more to you than just kinky sex or occasional role play, and you still believe in the possibility of happily ever after. I welcome the chance for us to learn more of each other. If not, I wish you well on your journey.