I am a dominant man. Being dominant is not a replacement for having a personality. The fact of the matter is that dominance is just a part of my overall personality.
Anyone can intimidate people with their gruff manners and abruptness. This is not dominance, creating in someone the desire to obey requires a subtle seduction. It takes more than giving orders and tying someone up to inspire in them a desire to do as you wish and be at your side.
Being dominant is a state of mind. It is not a sex act, a game, nor a role. It is a state of being.
First and foremost, a dominant is always a gentleman.
Second, a dominant is always honest.
Third, a dominant accepts responsibility for all his actions.
It is the duty of a dominant to remember that submission is a gift. To misuse this gift is abusive. When a submissive is not free to take back the gift it is no longer a gift.
It is the duty of a dominant to watch over and protect all submissives. This does not mean the dominant is free to forcibly intrude. One can ask if aid is needed, one cannot force that aid be accepted.
It is the responsibility of a dominant to ensure a submissive knows what the submissive's rights are. To insure a submissive knows what being abusive is. To insure a submissive knows when to call it quits.
It is the responsibility of a dominant to teach a submissive about the Lifestyle. To insure a submissive grows and develops under the dominant's ownership, in both the lifestyle and the public life. To remind a submissive that being submissive does not mean being a "doormat".
