Seeking my Alpha male mirror self. I am not seeking sub men and I am not interested in any casual play!
BDSM is very much mental for me, not necessarily a means to orgasm - though I certainly like those! The mental struggles with pain, pride and pleasure are what interest me most.
I am naturally dominant in personality and can switch to a degree sexually. I am probably never more than about 40% submissive and that leaves 60% strong willed, feisty and independent woman. I am more sadist than masochist. I love to get into a sub's head and push mental as well as, physical buttons. I enjoy dishing out corporal, bondage, forcing female orgasms, and tease and denial a great deal. But there aren't many things I don't like. When I am lucky enough to find a suitable Alpha male, I struggle far more with the control aspects than with the pain. I enjoy rough sex, milder pain, and struggle with a goal of shedding ego and pride. I adore a naturally dominant man who can best me in a battle of wits and wills, can pull deeper levels of submission out of me through desire and not pain. I am not and never will be anyone's slave or lifestyle sub; I call no one master. In life, I generally prefer to be in the driver's seat.
NOTE: I am not looking for a 24/7 submissive male or casual male sub play partners at this time. My interest lies more with other Alphas and sub women. . I am only interested in talking to a fit/lean exceptional, intellectual, experienced Dominant male who enjoys having another Alpha female who can sexually switch (to a degree) and or double top a female.
I am generally attracted to younger people, or perhaps within five years older. Hard-bodied (male), and fit but curvy (female) . I had my first exposure to BDSM in my twenties and have had some variant of kink in my life since then. I am not an extreme sadist, but I do at times have a cruel streak. That doesn't mean I am afraid or unwilling to provide pain. It does mean that I know that pain isn't always the path to submission. I am creative, demanding, perverted and I understand how to take what a sub needs to give.
I avoid casual play. For me these exchanges take time and trust. On the Dom side, I am attracted to intellectual, accomplished, Alpha males who are very fit, tall and traditionally good looking. A man who is charistmatic in personality, ethical and strong in character is extremely attractive to me. The pudgy bully Dom is not. My respect for you begins with how love and respect your body, yourself. I am also not interested in someone significantly older than me, or likely more than ten years younger. I am smart, accomplished, attractive and only physically desire someone I can relate to on many levels and who can garner my admiration and respect.
To appeal to my girly bits you have to appeal to my mind.
Not into the online domination/submission thing. BORING
