FireArcher

My Dear Submissive, you NEED a DIARY NOW!

Why a Diary?

If you are sincere about truly learning and practicing this wonderful lifestyle, you must concede to much effort and work. The path shall require dedication to tasks and reflection on your own personal growth. Results and success will just not magically happen.

To excel at anything in life, to achieve true mastery - you need:

• A plan or roadmap to follow.
• A concentrated focus of your activities so that you may utilize time wisely and with a purpose.
• A method to accurately recall history and reflect – successes and failures alike.

For my definition here, "Diary" really refers to focused writings. Sore of a combination of a notebook and daily journal.

As a Dom, over time I will cover literally hundreds of rules, proper protocol, etiquette, tasks and so on. How will you ever remember it all or keep it straight? AND, it is not just for a newbie.

Think of it as a requirement for class time. Would you attempt to successfully undertake a college class on physiology, phycology or any of the other sciences without ever taking a note, reading or focusing on good study habits?

However, it is an often overlooked facet by Doms new to this lifestyle who have not yet developed an overall plan or system.

The Diary can be a simple small notebook or a more formal hard bound book. In this day and age the Diary can also be maintained within a Smart-Phone or e-tablet. Smart-Phone Diary APPs are available, but this formal option is not necessary. The overall goal is for you to maintain a written record of requirements as well as progress.

Considering that the Diary should be with you always. A Smart-Phone is an ideal way to ensure your continuing work will always be available to you IF you select a cloud backup option for all the writings.

In your Diary you shall do the following:

1) LIMITS. In the rear, or under a separate cover, list all your limits, both hard and soft. Be ready to recite your limits to me or to anyone else that I direct you to. Think deeply about want you feel you cannot accomplish, either mentally or physically. When beneficial, also include a brief note about why this limit exists for you and if you are willing to, or desire to push this limit at some future point.

2) RULES. In the rear, or under a separate cover, reserve an area for rules that I will give you to reflect on and to follow. Know that this list will grow over time. As you progress and accomplish the memorization of a rule, another will be added for your benefit.

3) FETISHES. In the rear, or under a separate cover, reserve an area for your fetish desires and successful accomplishments. As in the section for limits, be ready to recite your fetishes to me or to anyone that I direct you to. Think deeply and carefully.

4) TASKS. In the rear, or under a separate cover, reserve an area for tasks and assignments that I will give you. Homework, required reading, research and other responsibilities that you will be bound to accomplish.

5) THE DIARY. The remainder of the Diary is as intended exactly as a diary (or journal) is to be - A written record of your day to day life, doings, thoughts, emerging fantasies, reflections and all other things BDSM.

If all this sounds like a lot of work, that's because it IS a lot of work.

Last, and to quote the infamous warrior, Master Yoda, “No try. Only DO . . .”
(Yea, I left a part out, so don’t message me about it.)

Fire Archer

First Meeting Safety

In the past I have messaged many whom I encounter about safety to consider during a first meeting. I've done it so often I have felt compelled to create a journal entry about some very basic but "must do" safety protocols for all who has an interest. F.A.

ARE YOU a submissive ready to meet a new Dom or Master for the first time? Is your blood pumping at the mere thought of your new adventure. A first meeting is and should be filled with wonderful, delicious thoughts of what may soon be. Thoughts of what you will learn, accomplish and experience. Are all those mental images making your emotions bubble over with anticipation and excitement?

That euphoria is exactly what should be going on inside you! This is what I want! This is what any Dominate desires and hopes for.

BUT . . . WHO are you really meeting with? Will your encounter be with a real flesh and blood Dominate or Master as you expect, or are you just about ready to meet an impostor  A poser? A fake? Will this new person be respectful of your safety, or will your safety be in placed in peril?

A first meeting is inevitable. It is necessary. Most often, the person with whom you have been messaging with will be exactly as you imagine. All the magic and wonder will be present and far beyond your wildest dreams and optimistic expectations.

But . . . WHAT IF??? Never let your head or heart overpower your logical side. Expect the best, but be cautious until you are certain of the inner character of the person you are meeting.

I do not want you to fear - to be afraid when we first meet. No Dominate or Master wants this. Your fear will get in the road of what should be a very positive and constructive first encounter. A first meeting should be filled with positive verbal intercourse and with your mind completely open do your deepest inner thoughts.

I want you to follow these rules, and also practice this advice each and every time you meet new people. Not just as a "newbie" but EVERY TIME you meet someone new. As a veteran, don't allow all the positive meeting experiences that you have encountered provide you with a false confidence to ignore SAFETY protocol.

NEVER meet anyone new without a trusted friend knowing what you are up to then follow these steps:

• Gain a cell or land-line phone number from him/her and pass the cell number onto your trusted friend.
• Make sure that the person you are meeting with knows that you have a trusted friend and that you are providing their phone number to your friend as a safety precaution.
• Convey to this new person that you will be calling your friend before, during and after your meeting.
• Ask for a face photo long before the meeting is to take place. Make sure your trusted friend is given the photo.
• When you meet, carefully match the photo to the face. If there is not a match, head for the hills! There is no reason for you to stay a second longer.
• Create a distress code word that tells your friend you are in trouble. Should you in any way feel threatened or unsafe, do not hesitate to use it and instruct your friend to notify the police IMMEDIATELY if you ever use it. Keep this secret code word between you and your trusted friend.
• Always meet for the first time in a very PUBLIC PLACE of YOUR choosing. After introductions are made and you've had a little time to absorb the other, call or text your trusted friend. Don't be shy - do this right in front of whomever you are meeting. After all, you did tell them you would be doing this! Right?
• LAST, when you leave, do not call your trusted friend until you are clear of the meeting and are sure you are not being followed. Only when you know you're safe should you make the all-clear call

Does all this sound too "cloak and dagger"? Perhaps, but believe me, your safety is worth every bit of any potential embarrassment that you may feel.

Also remember what I mentioned at the beginning. I do not want fear to get in the way. It is my habit to insist that these first meeting rules be followed. If the submissive that I am to meet does not bring up safety protocols, then I do.

To all who read this, have fun. Enjoy! But, be safe always!

Fire Archer