In my view, bdsm is not something that adds spice to sex, but something that mentally involves two individuals.
Everything starts from there, the rest is a direct consequence. Without it it would just be a more stimulating form of gymnastics.
One is not a master or a slave per se but in relation to someone. I don't believe in written roles and I think that every relationship is its own story.
I find good manners and education essential. I'm old-fashioned, I expect to receive what I give.
I like dealing with interesting people who are open-minded.
Let me add that courtesy costs nothing, so it should be used as much as possible.
I clearly separate my vanilla life from the bdsm one, you may like it or not, but that's how I see it.
I don't need your underwear...I have my own :)
If you tell me that they are guaranteed to be "dirty"...the only suggestion I would make is to use a better detergent or check the washing machine.
If you are interested in money aspects, you have only-fans or want to open an account on similar platforms, do not contact me or reply to me. I'm not judging, but it's something that is diametrically opposite to how I see BDSM.