ChilternPete

I am bewildered by the number of people on here who expect to link up day one, but there again many of them have no intention of doing anything real anyway.

For me there has to be a mental connection and while the picture of the 21yo is very nice, if she has nothing on her profile, then that sums up my interest, nothing!.

You have to be prepared to talk, about what you both look for, what you can not or will not, that often takes time, many are not able to talk freely about deepest desires with strangers, funny that!

Take your time and find the right one, me obviously!

Although a bit long in the tooth, I am only just back from a weeks break in which I ran 6 tough races over Scottish terrain in 7 days, so get a bit fed up with those who regard age as the sole criteria.

Spanking Nerves!

Nervous? If not, why not?


Now lets be clear about all this, I am a Spanker, fairly experienced at taking ladies of various ages, sizes and needs over my knee and other places to deliver what they seek.

The important words in the paragraph above are the final ones, because if the Top does not deliver then this will probably not be the start of a beautiful relationship. As one young newcomer said to me recently "the person has to get inside my mind, not just my knickers". Blunt but a pretty good assessment.

To any potential spankee I would say, keen as you might be, take time to understand the person you are talking too, do not be pressured into a meeting, even for coffee, set your own agenda and ask all the awkward questions.

Are those answers freely given? Are they looking for what you are? Are they listening to you and your needs in this? You should be concerned, this is your skin we are talking about!

I am married with a vanilla (non-spanking) wife, that is on all my profiles because you can not mislead someone who is looking to trust you. Loses me a lot of potential ladies, but the ones who are comfortable with this, know they can trust me to answer honestly. Are you as confident of the person you are talking to?

The top to my way of thinking should be trying to understand the potential spankee, what they seek, any experience and at what level, which lines they do not want to cross in any circumstances and those they would like to consider with the right partner.

If the profile you view is not complete and they do not want to talk, ask yourself why? That works for both sides of this, not just the bottom.

Reasons for seeking a spanking comes like the people themselves in
all shapes and sizes and a good Top should not only realise this,
but also rejoice in it. Getting inside the spankee/subs head is very
rewarding in so many ways and for both parties.

So feel nervous, it is a very good defence to other feelings, you will know the right one for you, when they turn up, and they will.

Could do better?

With apologies for the set up, can not seem to edit, so it reads correctly!

You know inside yourself that you could do better, but perhaps need that extra push that someone with an interest in you could provide.

Sometimes that’s a partner, parent, teacher or friend but often they are in our past and now who will provide that motivation or direction?

An experienced, firm and constructive mature male mentor will be looking to ensure that you get from this what you need, rather than what you want, which is often something quite different.

I use structured methods, firm discipline (see below) and constant attention. You bring yourself and a willingness to travel this road together.

If after discussion I decide to take you on, I make a commitment at the start for at least 3 months, but you can withdraw at any point, as you know full well.

Discipline:

This depends on your age and any past experience, but will involve being corrected in some form, which may involve punishment by hand and implement as I see fit.

If this concerns you, then of course it should, otherwise how would it be a deterrent? Why would you wish to avoid it?

You can rest assured that any correction is given by an experienced hand and with your best interests at heart.

Discussion:

This is not something to hurry, it needs careful consideration on both sides.

Take the first step:

Drop me a note on the site and we can chat in a relaxed manner. In no way, will I pressure you to go forward until you are ready.

If you prefer my email is ca4ladies@googlemail.com