arka747

I’m a natural female sub. I’m divorced, retired and never had any children. I live in Sarasota FL
I am 60 years old, barely five feet tall and, much to my regret, weigh about 215 (I keep trying to lose it but . . .). I have shoulder length brown hair that is turning white and blue-grey eyes. I have a Southern accent which frequently becomes more pronounced if it is called to my attention.
I’m shy, intelligent, quiet, honest, fiercely loyal, sensitive, and intuitive. I am also a good listener with the ability to empathizes easily, and have a good memory. I have a good (if at times a bit quirky) sense of humor. I have very strong ideas of right and wrong along with a strong desire to do what is right. Due to my half Finnish, half mostly Irish ancestry, I have a stubborn streak at times with a quick Irish temper; I fight mightily to control both. While I love to dream and fantasize about what could be, my feet are planted firmly on the ground and I remain constantly aware of what is. I learn quickly and enjoy the process. I have a strong streak of curiosity and strive to maintain a childlike enjoyment and wonder in exploring and satisfying that curiosity as well as in viewing the beauty of the world around me.

I am looking for a completely heterosexual male DOM. He should be honest above all and not inclined to make promises he can not keep. He should be at least as intelligent as I am. He should have a strong character, be very self assured of who he is, and in control of himself. He should know there is great strength in being gentle and kind when the situation calls for it, and have the maturity and wisdom to know when that is. Hugging, cuddling, affectionate touches and words should be just as much a part of his repertoire as skills with bondage, a flogger and any other toys. He should be able to make me feel safe, secure and a much cherished treasure as well as useful to his pleasure and comfort. He should be a little sadistic but not extremely so. He should have as much interest in learning and knowing what makes me tick and gives me pleasure as I do in learning about him. A well developed sense of humor is a necessity. It wouldn’t hurt if He were confident enough in Himself to be able to laugh at Himself. I need an owner with maturity to be able to submit to him.

I am looking for a long term, preferably monogamous, real time heterosexual TPT, (or pretty close to it) relationship. A cyber only or “part-time” relationship would not meet my needs. I am NOT interested in just some one to play with or have sexual encounters with. Please, no married men need respond as I will not enter a relationship with some one who is married.

I have been actively in the lifestyle for about seven and a half years but am always striving to learn more. I have been submissive from the day I was born. I know I have always preferred being with a mature man who expected to be in charge and control. I enjoy a number of types of play, especially bondage and a good flogging. My hard limits are no scat, and water sports. I would not react well to any kind of humiliation or degradation play, attempts at dehumanization, or to any body modification. I also have serious health concerns about breath play. I have a couple of phobias that it would not be a good idea to involve in any type of play. They are an absolute terror of flying stinging insects and a fear of falling. Once the trust has been built I am open to most anything else, at least to try it once, or discuss it as a possibility. If I have doubts about something, I do not fear respectfully voicing them.

I like just about all music, the exceptions being rap and heavy metal, but I usually have country on the radio. Laately I have been listening to a lot of Celtic cds.

I like the beach and woods, mountains and ocean. I prefer city life for all the activities available but hate the traffic and crowding, the proximity of housing often involved in city living. Although I have never been into night life as such, I would not like to live where you find nothing open in the middle of the night, and where they roll the sidewalks up at 9 PM.

I am not the outdoorsy type. I love to read and do needlework when time permits. I also enjoy other crafts. Lately I have been exploring some new subjects such as making soap and other items along that line, alternative medicine and healing arts, genealogy, and revisiting an old curiosity about astrology. I am taking a course on Aromatherapy.