My given name is Davin. I’m an INFJ, a Cancer zodiac, eastern German and an old soul. I believe in fate and have overcome many challenges in this lifetime. Even though my past is filled with great sorrow, it has given me the power of greater will that I see as a gift to guide those I chose to hold close to my heart. I generally keep to myself with my cat Dahlia by playing the guitar, playing video games, tinkering in the garage on my Batmobile, having an adventure on one of my motorcycles or traveling as a recreational pilot. My paradigm is to venture as far and as often as I can, but I can mainly be found in Southern California, the Pacific Northwest or wherever life may take me which has manifested several lifelong friendships that mean so very much to me. I use this site as a vehicle to keep in contact with those I care about, perv on pictures and to find kink events. But if you’re friendly and would like to correspond, feel free to send a message.
Cancer subjects are emotional individuals,
possessed of great depth and endowed with a dreamy, imaginative quality which
makes any love affair more of a romantic interlude than a physical attraction.
Cancer individuals can be swept off their feet by love, but are quite capable
of marrying wisely and putting earlier, less suitable sweethearts completely
out their minds when the time comes to choice of a partner. Basically, Cancer
natives possess a great deal of sex appeal. They are blessed with definite
charm and often attract others without realizing it. Cancer persons are usually
totally unaware of the effect they might be having on the opposite sex and
thus, are frequently considered to be heart-breakers. Although emotional, these
can sometimes be quite unsympathetic souls when it comes to the problems of
others...not so much from coldness, but more due to the inherent desire of
Cancer subjects to protect themselves from unnecessary danger. At such times,
those born under the Sign of Cancer are grateful for the tough outer shell
associated with the crab which guards the soft center, tending to scuttle away
from any romantic showdown.
In love, Cancer natives are prone to be tactless and unaware of the needs of
the other partner until attention is drawn to the fact. Nevertheless, these
individuals are most certainly full of good intentions and would never
intentionally hurt another. It is important for those governed by Cancer to
learn that happiness comes from within. Such individuals suffer much from
relatives and friends...their sicknesses or their problems. Although Cancer is
basically healthy and independent of spirit, he or she is often in touch with
the troubles of life through others...despite the tendency of Cancer to run
away. If a Cancer individual should happen to associate with the wrong partner,
then it is likely to result in a very unhappy state of affairs for a long time
since Cancer natives rarely have the courage to admit they are wrong. On the
other hand, if they find the right partner, then success, contentment and
fulfillment will invariably follow as a natural course of events. When
attracted to the opposite sex, Cancer persons tend to drop subtle clues rather
than being overtly forward. Somewhat old-fashioned in beliefs, the perfect date
in the mind of a Cancer would be theater tickets, a dimly-lit, secluded
restaurant or cultural event. Being romantic day-dreamers, Cancer individuals
reflect on the past and will show an interest in personal stories, particularly
with a view to relating some of their own. It is necessary for any prospective
partner to show an acute interest in such sentimentality when old pictures and
such other items are brought out for display.
In the matters of the heart, those who fall under the jurisdiction of Cancer
demand total devotion. In return, they will constantly cherish and protect the
chosen mate. Any partner who can provide Cancer with an enormous amount of
attention and constant reasurrance will have found the perfect mate in this
Sign. The rewards for such a union will be affection, romance and sympathy,
together with a very healthy dash of seduction thrown into the mix. It should
be noted, however, that emotional and financial security is of the utmost
importance in any Cancer relationship. Cancer natives are vigorously adverse to
frivolous spending which, to them, symbolizes a loss of control and security.
Since those ruled by Cancer possess excellent memories and are prone to
jealousy, they recall past situations very easily and it would be a tremendous
mistake to ever be insincere to a Cancer subject. This would be perceived as
betrayal and it often takes Cancer natives a very long time to forgive and
forget...in fact a Cancer subject may never actually forget at all. Once
wounded in such an emotional sense, there will likely be something of a void in
the relationship for evermore.
In brief summary, if in a solid and secure relationship, Cancer natives can
easily support the nuances of a long-term partnership since this Sign naturally
nourishes and supplements the changing nature of the union. However, it is
necessary that any chosen partner understand Cancer's emotional vulnerability
and how such individuals cope with that, given their built-in defense
mechanisms. Those born under the jurisdiction of Cancer are undeniably prone to
a certain moodiness, but such is the way they learn to bend and flow, providing
what is required to nurture those around them. The more a partner learns to
enhance the ability of Cancer to detach from what is going on around him or
her, and learns the truth of their own power of emotional freedom, then the
less the natural moodiness of Cancer will manifest in overt ways.
Cancer individuals thrive on admiration and praise. They need to be asked for
their opinion and it is most important to be sincere when hearing their
response. Since Cancer hates rejection and is usually extremely cautious about
making any form of commitment, he or she will often try to avoid giving an
answer and must never be rushed into providing one. Indeed, if the answer is
likely to be a negative one, then the Cancer native will typically go to any
lengths in order to avoid the subject completely. At their best, Cancer
partners are loyal, supportive, nurturing, compassionate, caring, dedicated,
emotionally faithful, tender, pampering and adoring. At worse, they are
possessive, jealous, moody, volatile, controlling, dependent and prone to
suffer from depression.
As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused
internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary
mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about
them, or how they fit with your personal value system.
The INFJ are gentle, caring, passionate, complex and highly intuitive
individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and
possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type,
making it the most rare of all the types.
The INFJ are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their
partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back
from their mates. They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the
Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may
feel put upon by the INFJ demanding perfectionism and obsessive demeanor.
However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere
commitment to the relationship, and a depth of caring which is not usually
present in other types.
Sexually, the INFJ view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace
the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented
individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy
is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it
in a tangible way.
Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy
relationship. The INFJ dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best
matched with a personality type that is dominated by Extroverted Intuition.
The INFJ place great importance on having things orderly and systematic in
their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system
for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in
their lives. On the other hand, the INFJ operate within themselves on an
intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively,
without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the
subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it.
Consequently, the INFJ put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts
and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds,
and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend
to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency,
such as a consistently messy desk.
The INFJ have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get
"feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an
extreme example, some INFJ report experiences of a psychic nature, such as
getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and
discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing
that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themselves does not
really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized.
Consequently, most INFJ are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what
they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex
individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. The
INFJ hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.
But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. The INFJ hold a special
place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their
special gifts and depth of caring. The INFJ are concerned for people's
feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive
to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged
with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or
charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience
health problems when under a lot of stress.
Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own
instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubbornness and tendency
to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the
other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their
full potential. The INFJ are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's
always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world
around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to
revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to
live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to
the Feeling aspect of their personalities, the INFJ are in some ways gentle and
easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and
frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.
INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving
parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high
expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be.
This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn.
But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance,
combined with deep caring.
In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative
and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel
in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. The INFJ can also be
found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with
minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else
go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that
they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of
becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals
who are not.
The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not
necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling
and personal achievement.
