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	I Am: Smart – I am intelligent and value intelligent conversation Sassy – I have a bitof a smart mouth and love to find the humor in situations Serving – I love to serve and please, nothing makes me happier than to hear that I have pleased you I Am Not: Casual – I’m not looking for play partners, I expect physical intimacy to come from emotional intimacy Poly – I’m monogamous and don’t want to share or be shared I Need: Control – I need structure and clear expectations, along with consequences, both good and bad Contact – I need to know that I am in your thoughts, not every minute, but frequently Care – I need to feel protected and valued, cherished would be even better Challenge – I need to be pushed and stretched To Serve – I need to know that I am making your life easier and happier To Cum - I love to orgasm and am not interested in serious orgasm denial or chastity If you think we might make a good match I’d love to talk with you

I have heard from several men on Collarspace that there are a lot of fakes here.

I have a very close friend who is a Master looking for a slave. Frequently he will connect with someone on Collarspace, chat or IM for a while, and then ask them to call him at a certain time. If they don't call he writes them off as a fake.

This makes me sad because: 1) because he is a great guy and I want him to find the perfect girl for him; and 2) because I have felt intimidated before and wonder if I have caused someone to think that I am "fake".

I guess the point of this entry is to encourage all you Dom types out there to not give up so easily on a submissive if they are a little timid. I understand the importance of following orders, but if this is someone you have just met, the level of trust that they need just might not be there yet.

So I've met several Doms and frequently they say the woman in their prior significant relationship was not submissive and they want to find someone who is more so. They often indicate in some way that they are fairly passive by nature but feel like they have a dominant streak (that for whatever reason did not show up in said previous relationship).

I have wondered to myself why they think that finding a more submissive partner is the answer rather than becoming a more dominant one. While pondering this it occurred to me that I am doing the same thing: looking for someone who is more dominant rather than working on being more submissive, trying to find someone to dominate me as opposed to looking for someone to submit to.

Any thoughts?

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