there is a moment — you know the moment — when the thinking stops when the name of the person stops when your own name stops and you are not you and they are not them you are just the thing the friction the pressure the heat the salt the animal the mammal the pre-verbal the grunting moaning sweating creature who has no opinions about anything for the first time all day for the first time all week maybe the first time all year and the thinking stops the THINKING STOPS and stopping is what you've been trying to do on the cushion in the therapy chair in the yoga class and you couldn't do it but the body can do it the body has always been able to do it the body just needed another body or its own hand or the right pressure in the right place and then: gone. you. gone. the narrator: gone. the one who watches: gone. the one who judges the one who watches: gone. just heat and dark and something building and there right there the orgasm is not the point the orgasm is the punctuation the point is the three seconds before when you are nobody when you are no one when you are the closest you will ever get to not existing while still existing and the not-existing-while-existing is what the mystics meant it was always what the mystics meant they just couldn't say it because you can't say it in church but you can say it here in the sheets in the dark where honesty has no dress code and afterward the body cools and the names come back and you are you again and being you again is the sadness and the sadness is not about the sex the sadness is about the return the return to the one who thinks the return to the narrator the narrator who never shuts up except for those three seconds those three seconds which are the whole argument for the body the whole argument for skin the whole argument for being a creature instead of a concept