couples_therapy: 36.3 Family
Do we want kids? Yes. Absolutely. Have we formally discussed it? No. One, because I think neither one of us is sure how to bring it up and two...well...
James is going to be an excellent father. He was made to be one. I have no doubt that when we do have children, they will become the center of his world.
The thing is, I'm not sure I'm going to be a good mother. My mom wasn't the greatest of influences. She was immature, selfish, and too wrapped up in her own drama to care about anything else that might have been going on. And then when she decided to start caring again, I was 17 and had my own life. Needless to say, we're not close.
I'm just so afraid that I'm going to turn out like her. And, logically, I know that the very fact that I'm worried about it means that there's a good chance I won't -- that I'm different enough from her. But still, it keeps nagging at me.
But I want kids. Two boys and a girl.
Maybe it's time we talk about it.
James is going to be an excellent father. He was made to be one. I have no doubt that when we do have children, they will become the center of his world.
The thing is, I'm not sure I'm going to be a good mother. My mom wasn't the greatest of influences. She was immature, selfish, and too wrapped up in her own drama to care about anything else that might have been going on. And then when she decided to start caring again, I was 17 and had my own life. Needless to say, we're not close.
I'm just so afraid that I'm going to turn out like her. And, logically, I know that the very fact that I'm worried about it means that there's a good chance I won't -- that I'm different enough from her. But still, it keeps nagging at me.
But I want kids. Two boys and a girl.
Maybe it's time we talk about it.