couples_therapy: 32.3. How good are you at buying gifts for your partner?
Not as good as I feel I should be.
I've known James for a little over ten years. And I've had a crush on him nearly as long. As a teenager, I made a point to know everything about him -- his favorite color, his favorite food -- all those details young girls think are so important. And I put that knowledge to good use when buying him Christmas presents. Something I'm sure my uncle still mocks me for.
But people change. They grow. The things that once appealed to them are no longer even on the radar.
I don't know him anymore. Not the way I used to. And this isn't necessarily a bad thing. I imagine that if he was the same person I knew at 15 or 16 that being married to him would be boring. This way there are still things left to learn; to discover as we go along.
Of course, that does nothing to help the frustration one feels when standing in the middle of the mall wondering whether you should buy him that shirt that matches his eyes or the Hitchcock biography.
I've known James for a little over ten years. And I've had a crush on him nearly as long. As a teenager, I made a point to know everything about him -- his favorite color, his favorite food -- all those details young girls think are so important. And I put that knowledge to good use when buying him Christmas presents. Something I'm sure my uncle still mocks me for.
But people change. They grow. The things that once appealed to them are no longer even on the radar.
I don't know him anymore. Not the way I used to. And this isn't necessarily a bad thing. I imagine that if he was the same person I knew at 15 or 16 that being married to him would be boring. This way there are still things left to learn; to discover as we go along.
Of course, that does nothing to help the frustration one feels when standing in the middle of the mall wondering whether you should buy him that shirt that matches his eyes or the Hitchcock biography.