all that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost...
life is just a bowl of whole bran you wake up every morning and it`s there
I had a conversation yesterday that was kind of awkward and good.
To start at the beginning; I missed my period this month, not overly worried because this happens to me usually when my body is exhausted (which it had been this month) so I merely expected that, however just in case I took a pregancy test. Of course it was negative but it brought the fact up with Minoru and he was surprisingly excited if I was pregnant...then when I wasnt he was extremely disappointed.
SOO, me who was extremely happy finally asked a simple question: "Minoru, when do you want to have children"
his answer was right away "soon, now is OK too"
me....O.O
So, after me discussing with him we are not financially secure, we are not even married yet, and I dont want kids in Hawaii, and I only might think about it after at least 1 year of being married...
to his disappointment, but he did agree and understand but was sad.
Im just proud that I stuck to myself and said I want to have a career and things like that before we move to the step of having a family. and as one of my friends said in a comment "now is a time to focus on myself and Minoru and our relationship, not children"
So, thats what has kind of been in my head for a while.
Of course I understand I will have to compremise and have kids perhaps earlier then I wanted to but he will have to have them later, so it works out in the end.
But I would like people thoughts on this, I know I am young but it is arising in my situation at the moment so therefore I should be addressing it and thinking about it.
I think I address it pretty well and got my point across, he said he wants to have a family and I had to remind him a family doesnt have to have kids. Him and I getting married is already a family and we are only going to grow from there so therefore there is not need to want one, he already has one! he liked to think that way :) glad I got through.
Anyway, I am off to call my mum. :)
I had a conversation yesterday that was kind of awkward and good.
To start at the beginning; I missed my period this month, not overly worried because this happens to me usually when my body is exhausted (which it had been this month) so I merely expected that, however just in case I took a pregancy test. Of course it was negative but it brought the fact up with Minoru and he was surprisingly excited if I was pregnant...then when I wasnt he was extremely disappointed.
SOO, me who was extremely happy finally asked a simple question: "Minoru, when do you want to have children"
his answer was right away "soon, now is OK too"
me....O.O
So, after me discussing with him we are not financially secure, we are not even married yet, and I dont want kids in Hawaii, and I only might think about it after at least 1 year of being married...
to his disappointment, but he did agree and understand but was sad.
Im just proud that I stuck to myself and said I want to have a career and things like that before we move to the step of having a family. and as one of my friends said in a comment "now is a time to focus on myself and Minoru and our relationship, not children"
So, thats what has kind of been in my head for a while.
Of course I understand I will have to compremise and have kids perhaps earlier then I wanted to but he will have to have them later, so it works out in the end.
But I would like people thoughts on this, I know I am young but it is arising in my situation at the moment so therefore I should be addressing it and thinking about it.
I think I address it pretty well and got my point across, he said he wants to have a family and I had to remind him a family doesnt have to have kids. Him and I getting married is already a family and we are only going to grow from there so therefore there is not need to want one, he already has one! he liked to think that way :) glad I got through.
Anyway, I am off to call my mum. :)