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#165: I won’t let my anxiety be my daughter’s burden.
A confession about parental worry and double standards.
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#164: The strange feeling of outgrowing a beloved ritual.
What I learned when my Word of the Year refused to appear.
Jan 10
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#163: A reluctant ode to slow.
What my speed-obsessed self learned from a painstaking Christmas tradition.
Jan 3
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#2: Why I wouldn't trade away the grief.
Nov 19, 2022
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#1: Why talking about grief and loss (not just when someone dies) really matters.
Nov 15, 2022
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#100: It’s major milestone time.
Oct 5, 2024
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#25: Embracing my humanity (in the WSJ).
Apr 29, 2023
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#22: The resilience experiment.
Apr 8, 2023
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#107: This deathiversary I mostly smiled.
Nov 23, 2024
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Appreciating the good things in life while we’re still around to do it.
Dec 27, 2025
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#162: We like to think we make choices, but often they make us.
On hometowns, holidays, and the mirage of choice.
Dec 20, 2025
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#161: Waiting for the encore.
Sometimes the best part happens after you think the story is over.
Dec 13, 2025
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#160: The lighthouse effect.
Normal — not superhuman — examples of thriving, courtesy of three Gen Z’s.
Dec 6, 2025
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#159: The Ghost of Margarita Wednesday.
What we’re really protecting when we fight to save our traditions.
Nov 29, 2025
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#158: An imperfect offering.
How to support someone when you have no idea what they're going through.
Nov 22, 2025
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#157: Three years later, I finally understand what I’m creating.
How The Luminist became less about having answers and more about seeing what's actually there.
Nov 15, 2025
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