Soft Boundaries | Erica Chidi | Substack

ESSAYS

You Don’t Need Resolutions. You Need Resilience.

Abandon goal-setting for something steadier.

Jan 3 • Erica Chidi

The Holidays Can Be Insufferable

Here's how to flow through them. Especially if you're low or no contact with your family.

Nov 27, 2025 • Erica Chidi

The Liquid Office

The case for working while you bathe.

Oct 8, 2025 • Erica Chidi

Good, Fine, And Okay Are Not Feelings

The case for expanding your emotional vocabulary.

Aug 14, 2025 • Erica Chidi

SOOTHERS

2:43

This Calms Me Down When Panic Sets In

It always works and I take it everywhere.

Sep 27, 2025 • Erica Chidi

The Only Essential Oils Worth Your Money

Hint: It's not Young Living or doTERRA.

May 28, 2025 • Erica Chidi

The Only Water Bottle You'll Ever Need

This bottle changed my relationship with drinking water.

May 1, 2025 • Erica Chidi

Thoughtful tools for a softer life.

Apr 28, 2025 • Erica Chidi

ASK ERICA

8:30

How Do You Go No Contact?

What I wish I'd known before I did it.

Dec 14, 2025 • Erica Chidi

5:43

I Hate Lube. Help?

Why most lubes feel wrong—and how to find one your body actually likes.

Sep 15, 2025 • Erica Chidi

11:14

Is Parenthood For Me?

In my first Ask Erica, I explore maternal ambivalence, community, and clarity.

May 14, 2025 • Erica Chidi

I share things to soften into. An essay, a practice, a resource—a reframe. Things to help you feel more like yourself and self-soothe in these chaotic times.

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