What I want, desire, and deserve in a partner.

I've been working a lot on myself lately, and part of that is fixing things that have hindered my past relationships, so that I can be the best partner I can be when I'm ready to commit to my next relationship. I don't know when that might be-- right now, I'd describe myself as more than a little gun shy. Still, I'm dating, so I'd suppose it's in my best interest to figure out what it is that I'm looking for, so I'll have a clear picture when the time comes. Which isn't to say that I'm dating with the intention of having a relationship at this time-- dating's fun, and fine on it's own. That's about where I am right now. 'Fire bad, tree pretty' and all of that. I'm not looking for a commitment at this time. Still. This isn't so much as a list of things that I'm looking for in an ideal partner, so much as a list of my expectations-- this is the standard of person that I deserve, and I will settle for no less.

What I want, desire, and deserve in a partner:

1. Someone who will be honest with me; someone whom I can trust.
2. Someone with whom I can have good communication.
3. Someone with whom I have shared interests.
4. Someone to whom I am attracted.
5. Someone who holds him or herself to the same standard that he or she sets for others.
6. Someone who is willing to spend time with my family and friends to earn their trust and respect.
7. Someone who is willing to spend at least two evenings a week with me, either just the two of us, or in a group.
8. Someone who will generously show me affection and support, and who will comfort me when I would benefit from comfort.
9. Someone who is thoughtful, and who will make me priority in his or her life.
10. Someone who is consistently compassionate.
11. Someone intellectually stimulating and intelligent.
12. Someone with whom I am sexually compatible.
13. Someone who is confident, and who likes to smile.
14. Someone who will love me and accept me for who I am.
15. Someone who is proud of me, and of whom I can be proud.
16. Someone who encourages me to grow, and who is willing to grow themselves.
17. Someone who will work on our obstacles with me.
18. Someone who wants a joyful relationship.
19. Someone in the 23-35 year old age range, and who is not long-distance.
20. Someone whom I can relate to.
21. Someone who is physically fit and who leads a healthy lifestyle.
22. Someone with good personal hygiene.
23. Someone who is financially independent.
24. Someone who is dedicated to our relationship, and who will share with me mutually.
25. Someone who is genuinely kind.
26. Edited 9/18/07 Someone who will respect our relationship and set appropriate boundaries with other people accordingly.