Every week, thousands of survivors read Shadows of Control to find clarity, validation, and words for experiences that are too often left unspoken. The free articles will always remain because I believe no one should be priced out of understanding coercive control.

For those who want to go deeper, and who would like to help keep this work alive for others, I’ve created the Supporter tier.

What You’ll Receive as a Supporter Each Month

🌿 Lived Experience Reflections
Supporter only reflection pieces drawn from my own lived experience of abuse, leaving, and rebuilding, alongside psychological insight. These posts explore what it actually feels like to live through abuse and its aftermath, and offer language, meaning, and reassurance that what you felt and did made sense. Many supporters return to these pieces when they need grounding or clarity.

🌿 Reclaiming Self Articles and Worksheets
In depth articles that focus on the impact abuse has on you, including themes such as trauma bonds, identity erosion, core beliefs shaped by abuse, and coping responses that once kept you safe. Each Reclaiming Self piece comes with a survivor centred downloadable worksheet, designed to help you gently reflect, ground yourself, and begin reconnecting with parts of yourself that may have gone quiet.

🌿 Survivor Insights
Carefully curated collections of written quotes shared by survivors, gathered around a single theme. Survivor Insights exist to reduce shame and isolation by showing how many people have lived through similar experiences. Many supporters read these quietly and return to them when they need reassurance that they are not alone or imagining things.

🌿 The Clarity Series
A collection of checklists and decoders created to help reduce doubt and confusion and support you in trusting your own reality again. These pieces are designed to be read and used on their own, whenever you need them. They focus on recognising patterns, naming what happened, and answering the questions survivors often carry silently.

🌿 An Ongoing Supporter Library
Full access to everything published in the Supporter space so far, along with all new content added each month. This library grows over time, giving you a collection of resources you can return to whenever you need clarity or validation.

💬 Private Chat Space
A gentle, private community space for supporters, with optional prompts and room to connect with others who understand. There is no pressure to post. You are welcome to read quietly, react, or share when it feels right. This space exists to soften isolation, not to demand engagement.

Why It Matters

Your subscription doesn’t just give you access to more content - it helps sustain this platform for everyone, including those who can’t afford to pay. Creating these words and resources takes time, care, and energy, and your support allows me to keep sharing them widely with those who need them most.

And please know, nothing will change for free readers. The weekly articles I’ve always shared will remain free and accessible to anyone who needs them. That matters deeply to me.

For those who choose to join, the Supporter space is a smaller circle where I can offer more of my time, energy, and resources. It’s a place to receive extra tools, reflections, and connection beyond what I share publicly.

I know how isolating it can feel to carry confusion in silence, wondering how to make sense of it all. My hope is that this space helps you feel less alone, whether you’re finding the courage to leave, making sense of what you’ve been through, or continuing on your healing journey.

What Readers Say

“Thank you – you have given me the clarity, confidence and insight I needed to give up on trying to reason with my self-serving ex. Having a community of women who understands helps so much.”

“Your words have been really crucial in my journey to understanding what happened to me. Just hours ago, I took my first real step to leave a 17 year relationship that was built around a framework of coercive control. It is because of people like YOU that I have been able to continue to embody my truth, trust my instincts, and live this brand new amazing life.”

“I am so grateful for you posting these. There is rarely any kind of validation to be found when it comes to emotional abuse. I seek out daily reminders from those I’d never have to explain anything to. You’re one of those places for me.”

“Always real and always true, thank you for teaching about DV in your inimitable style. It is so very much appreciated.”

“Thank you so much for all you do. I’ve learned a lot from your posts and the community that gathers around your thoughts and ideas. Thank you for turning your personal suffering into insights and help for others.”

An Invitation to Join the Supporter Tier

Becoming a Supporter isn’t about paying for more content - it’s about choosing to walk a little closer in this work. It’s a way of nurturing your own healing, while also helping ensure that others who feel lost or silenced can find the clarity and validation they need.