I feel I should observe, just for the record, that the person who hurt me (and who I hurt) (and we'll call them D, for the purposes of recording life here) is not, so far as I know, involved in any of today's crap. It's the mutual friends who are trying to resolve things, and have concluded that I'm the one who should adapt to D's nature, wherever there's a conflict.

(I phrase it this way, because in one, probably two, prior instances, someone who was AIMing me about the situation was simultaneously AIMing D and relaying my side of the interaction to D. In one case, the friend told me so midway through the conversation; in the probable case, they never had the balls to tell me so outright. I loathe being portrayed as so fearsome a creature that someone who has hurt me doesn't dare approach me directly. This is not the first time it's happened, and doubtless won't be the last, but at least in this latest episode, I know it's not the case.)